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Old 05-14-2010, 07:15 AM
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Copied from an email sent to me:

This really makes you think...
It seems lately a lot of us have lost loved ones.
Don't wait to fulfill a dream, mend broken fences or take time to help others.

Jeff
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A friend of mine opened his wife's underwear drawer and picked up a silk paper wrapped package:

'This, - he said - isn't any ordinary package.'

He unwrapped the box and stared at both the silk paper and the box.

'She got this the first time we went to New York , 8 or 9 years ago. She
has never put it on , was saving it for a special occasion.

"Well, I guess this is it. '

He got near the bed and placed the gift box next to the other clothing
he was taking to the funeral house, his wife had just died.

He turned to me and said. 'Never save something for a special occasion. Every day in your life is a special occasion'.

I still think those words changed my life. Now I read more and clean less.
I sit on the porch without worrying about anything.
I spend more time with my family, and less at work.
I understood that life should be a source of experience to be lived up to, not survived through.
I no longer keep anything.
I use crystal glasses every day...
I'll wear new clothes to go to the supermarket, if I feel like it.

I don't save my special perfume for special occasions, I use it whenever I want to.
The words 'Someday....' and ' One Day...' are fading away from my dictionary.
If it's worth seeing, listening or doing, I want to see, listen or do it now....

I don't know what my friend's wife would have done if she knew she
wouldn't be there the next morning, this nobody can tell.
I think she might have called her relatives and closest friends.
She might call old friends to make peace over past quarrels.
I'd like to think she would go out for Chinese, her favorite food.

It's these small things that I would regret not doing, if I knew my time had come..

Each day, each hour, each minute, is special.

Live for today, for tomorrow is promised to no-one..

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Although the post referenced women, it is really about all of us. Last fall, I saw my old boss in a restaurant and asked him how he liked retired life (he had been reitred for about a month, even though he had been eligible for two years). He said it was great, he and his wife had been to New England for two weeks to see the changing fall leaves, he had been on several trail rides with his horses, and he was afraid he was going to tag out too early in his deer season. He said I needed to retire as soon as I was eligible. Well, I am eligible in one month and eight days, but I had already decided I will probably work a couple of extra years. Oh, I almost forgot to mention I visited him last night in the hospice care unit in the hospital. Stomach and liver cancer and about two weeks to live. Did I say I was rethinking that retirement?
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Originally Posted by cudacat View Post
Although the post referenced women, it is really about all of us. Last fall, I saw my old boss in a restaurant and asked him how he liked retired life (he had been reitred for about a month, even though he had been eligible for two years). He said it was great, he and his wife had been to New England for two weeks to see the changing fall leaves, he had been on several trail rides with his horses, and he was afraid he was going to tag out too early in his deer season. He said I needed to retire as soon as I was eligible. Well, I am eligible in one month and eight days, but I had already decided I will probably work a couple of extra years. Oh, I almost forgot to mention I visited him last night in the hospice care unit in the hospital. Stomach and liver cancer and about two weeks to live. Did I say I was rethinking that retirement?
I'd rethink it. I convinced my dad to retire at 62 rather than 65. At 65, I asked him if he made the right choice, knowing this was a guy that worked 6 days a week for most of his adult life. He wished he had retired even sooner! Two years later he was diagnosed with brain cancer at 67 and died 8 months later.

I plan on retiring early - you can't take it with you.
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Good stuff there to live by.


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I plan on retiring early - you can't take it with you.
I agree and have advised same everytime it comes up. While I'm not 'officially' retired, I've enjoyed a major 'pace slow down' since I sold out in 95.. I still put in my 40 hours, every single month.
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My Dad watched most of the guys that he worked with die within 6 months of retiring and I could see the concern in my Dad's face that rarely showed emotion.
He spent 44 years in the C+P Telephone Company (name changed a couple of times) here in MD.

He was one of the lucky ones,.
Heart attack in 1985, quad by pass,
Testicular Lymphoma cancer in the 90's,
Mom died of Cancer in 1998,
Had two code blues in the hospital the end of 2008,
Dialysis 3 times a week
He shot sporting clays a few times a week right up to when he went into the hospital for the last time.
He pasted last Oct. 7, 2009 at 80 years old in the recovery room after open heart surgery for more by passes.

When the doctor told him (and us) his chances after this operation asked him do you want to do it, 70% in his favor, He simply stated, Well, I can't keep going on like this, (severe pain in his chest) let's do it!"
We were there with him every step of the way.
Survived by 5 children, 6 grand children and 1 great grand child that all loved him.


Yea, he was one of the lucky ones for sure.
Rest well Dad and Mom, rest well.






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