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Old 02-14-2010, 11:11 AM
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Originally Posted by oneill469 View Post
Mike, you will do great with her. Here are some thoughts. I do not claim to be an expert but this is what we tried to do.
1. Love them unconditionally. As commuterboat says tell them frequently.
2. Do stuff with them. Take them fishing. Ask them to help when you do stuff. Teach them what they want to know how to do. I did not worry about girly things, believe me they will get plenty of that from their peers....LOL. I wanted them to know that the can do whatever they want to do even if it is traditionally boy stuff. They can all use power tools and shoot guns. If you drop any of my kids in the middle of nowhere they can survive.
3. Make sure they are educated. Our kids have gone to public schools, private schools, charter schools and been home schooled at times. It is your job to teach her what she needs to know.
4. Ban video games. None. Zero.
5. Share your faith with them and expose them to other faiths also.
6. Insist that they do some service work. Ours built houses for the poor in rural Appalachian coal mining areas with our church youth group as well as other stuff when they were younger.
7. All our kids took martial arts. Karate builds self confidence and discipline.
8. Let them know to come to you with a problem early. Always support them. I give my kids a "Get-out-of-jail-free" card. If they get into a situation they are uncomfortable with they can call me and I will come get them with no questions, interrogations or recriminations......if they call before the situation gets out of hand. If they allow themselves to be drawn into a screw-up they pay the consequences. All 3 of my girls have used it...LOL.
9. Let yourself enjoy them.
10. love them unconditionally
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Old 02-14-2010, 11:22 AM
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without getting too sappy here, please be sure to thank Katie for being an inspiration. You guys as well. This is great stuff.

When she turns the video on and says "Hi Daddy", well, that would just melt anyone.
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Old 02-14-2010, 06:05 PM
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Thanks Mike. I am proud of all my girls and the gracious comments from my THT friends mean a lot. I do not post much (here since the beginning and under 1000 posts) but when I do I try to make it something meaningful. Laird
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That is great advice. Especially No.2. Yesterday, my 3 year old dragged her little mini sofa into the hallway and sat there watching me change out the bathroom vanity light and holding the flashlight for me. Looking back, I should have been giving her verbal instructions on what exactly I was doing the whole time.
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At 3 if she can hold the light she is going to be a star!!! LOL
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Old 02-15-2010, 08:58 PM
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I may have set myself up for a lifetime of equipment and lift tickets today.

1st ski lesson this morning.
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What a cutie !!
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Old 02-17-2010, 08:36 AM
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Mike, doing things is much better than video games and "play things". LOL
I do not see a tether on her so she must be really skiing. My youngest went down the intermediate slope at Cattaloochee on a tether when she was 4 because the ski instructor was sweet on one of her older sisters. She went on to ski team. Your girl looks like a future star!!!!!!!
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Old 02-17-2010, 12:01 PM
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Mike, doing things is much better than video games and "play things". LOL
I do not see a tether on her so she must be really skiing. My youngest went down the intermediate slope at Cattaloochee on a tether when she was 4 because the ski instructor was sweet on one of her older sisters. She went on to ski team. Your girl looks like a future star!!!!!!!
Ha ha, don't know about future star. She still has a hard time walking down my driveway with falling on her butt. Not exactly nimble.

There was a Presidents week special at the ski place here. 5 days of lessons for $145. She never even heard of ski's before so I figured, what the hell. She loves it so far.

"parents" (I'll use that term for simplicity) are advised not to be present or within eye shot of the kids during the lessons. That is good advice, but VERY hard to abide by

I took some pics when the first day was over and we are allowed back on the slope.
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Old 02-20-2010, 08:42 AM
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Gosh Mike, that brings back some memories. Some other person tells you you should not be around..LOL (WAIT>>>THAT IS MY GIRL........you want me to leave her in YOUR care?)
By the way have you seen the 100 power spotting scopes that fit in your pocket..very useful?
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