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Old 02-10-2010, 01:38 PM
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Just received a Happy Birthday call from my daughter Morgan. Made my day. I told her about Katie's blog and sent her the youtube links to Unmarked Grave and Possum on the Grill. I told her to make sure she shows it to the BF. He's a good kid, but I wanted him to see it anyway.
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Old 02-10-2010, 04:32 PM
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since my daughter was 3(she's now 21) i've been teaching her the 3 rules of boys:

1 boys lie
2 all boys lie
3 all boys lie all time

i would also tell her dates " I know places in this bay, the crabs won't even find you"
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Marlin009, glad we could help.lol
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Old 02-11-2010, 04:38 AM
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Some years ago, my daughter dated this guy I didn't like (first impressions).

He wandered out to the garage where I was doing something, and we got into a conversation.

I told him that whatever he does to my daughter that I'd do the same to him.

Funny thing...I didn't see him much after that
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possum on the grill...that's a hoot!
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Old 02-11-2010, 06:43 AM
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I just watched the youtube videos, they were great, your daughter is very talented. I think my favorite of her songs was "Run Like The Wind". You can really tell how much she loves her Dad.

With having a beautiful and talented daughter I'm sure you've had to scare away more than a couple problem guys.
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Thanks Beber, I never had do put them away...I mean scare them away more than once.
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I really thought this thread would go 10 + pages. LOL
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Very, very, very incredible.
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Thanks Biloxiguy! I think so. LOL
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The Boatbabe and I really enjoyed it. She said that would be a great song for Reba Macintire to record!!
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I agree. Someone tell Reba!!!! LOL
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Send her a copy or a link
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I have three daughters and two sons and a conversation never ends without an "I love you", so I know how wonderful those comments are and how lucky we both are.
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I found this last night but it was late....and I was tired. Came back this morning to listen a few of the songs. Her smile, attitude, and sense of humor are great. I have 3 boys and care for them as much as any father would. They are just starting to discover girls.....I will make sure they see this thread so they are aware of what types of fathers are out there and how they should treat the girls they date.
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I found this last night but it was late....and I was tired. Came back this morning to listen a few of the songs. Her smile, attitude, and sense of humor are great. I have 3 boys and care for them as much as any father would. They are just starting to discover girls.....I will make sure they see this thread so they are aware of what types of fathers are out there and how they should treat the girls they date.
Interestingly enough, I've been struggling with teaching my niece as well, only problem I have is that I keep trying to teach her that all boys are No F'ing Good 4and my wife gets pissed at me. So I'm open for common ground for teaching, I just have not got the foggiest idea of where to start. And she's only 4!

I know boys! I was one! I played with them! I had brothers! I always pityed you guys with daughters while laughing, but now the tables have turned on me.
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You can't do anything about how the "boys" were raised. What you do have control of is how your niece is raised. Do that right and she will make good decisions. That's my experience anyway.

A little reinforcement from Dad is always a good thing though.
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You can't do anything about how the "boys" were raised. What you do have control of is how your niece is raised. Do that right and she will make good decisions. That's my experience anyway.

A little reinforcement from Dad is always a good thing though.
I look at Lairds "little" girl and you guys and wonder what went right.

Since there's no "Dad" I guess I got to figure it out!
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Mike, you will do great with her. Here are some thoughts. I do not claim to be an expert but this is what we tried to do.
1. Love them unconditionally. As commuterboat says tell them frequently.
2. Do stuff with them. Take them fishing. Ask them to help when you do stuff. Teach them what they want to know how to do. I did not worry about girly things, believe me they will get plenty of that from their peers....LOL. I wanted them to know that the can do whatever they want to do even if it is traditionally boy stuff. They can all use power tools and shoot guns. If you drop any of my kids in the middle of nowhere they can survive.
3. Make sure they are educated. Our kids have gone to public schools, private schools, charter schools and been home schooled at times. It is your job to teach her what she needs to know.
4. Ban video games. None. Zero.
5. Share your faith with them and expose them to other faiths also.
6. Insist that they do some service work. Ours built houses for the poor in rural Appalachian coal mining areas with our church youth group as well as other stuff when they were younger.
7. All our kids took martial arts. Karate builds self confidence and discipline.
8. Let them know to come to you with a problem early. Always support them. I give my kids a "Get-out-of-jail-free" card. If they get into a situation they are uncomfortable with they can call me and I will come get them with no questions, interrogations or recriminations......if they call before the situation gets out of hand. If they allow themselves to be drawn into a screw-up they pay the consequences. All 3 of my girls have used it...LOL.
9. Let yourself enjoy them.
10. love them unconditionally
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I look at Lairds "little" girl and you guys and wonder what went right.

Since there's no "Dad" I guess I got to figure it out!
What I was referring to with the reinforcement from Dad was the gun cleaning, unmarked graves, etc. That's your role now. My guess is that those guys have confidence in their kids and that it isn't really necessary. It's fun, and as a Dad, makes us feel better, but ultimately it's the choices our daughters are going to make that will make the difference.

Just give them the best start you can.
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