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Old 03-30-2007, 05:02 AM
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The wife has finally sent me around the bend. I have spent all day today googling depression websites, talking to pyscholoists and making an apointment with my doc. Now all I have to do is tell the doc that I think I am nuts. I must be nuts , I start crying like a frickin baby for no reason at all. before I carry on to much.

I might save it for the doc.
Frickin Women , she is driving me nuts. ..............Literally.
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Old 03-30-2007, 05:16 AM
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Old 03-30-2007, 05:25 AM
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don't bump me sg

I am going to crap on here. Just got off a depression site and it was all depression & suicide talk. Enough to scare the living crap out of a person. At least on this site I can talk normal , even if it is to a bunch of boat freaks.
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Old 03-30-2007, 05:59 AM
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Old 03-30-2007, 06:00 AM
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Old 03-30-2007, 06:02 AM
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dazz,

Beleive it or not it will get better. When I feel myself starting to get depressed, I think back to previous bad times and wonder how I got through it, but I did. My favourite saying to myself is "it to will pass".

Good luck and stay off those web sites, deal with a professional.

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Old 03-30-2007, 07:20 AM
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I had one of those, ONCE..
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Old 03-30-2007, 07:47 AM
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I look at it this way. There are only so many days on a mans calender. So the days that you spend not allowing yourself to enjoy that day due to something another person says or does to you might as well not be on the calender. Unless something happens to one of my children, I will not allow for even one day to be lost. If you can't seem to shake it off, I'd do something like take my boat out when it's rough as hell and stay out for a long time, this will definitely take you mind off it. The boat will keep you busy. I would stay out until near exhaustion, and your mind will come back refreshed.
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Old 03-30-2007, 08:44 AM
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my second wife was a nurse. She believed in anything a doctor said, like they were some kind of omnipotent, super brilliant people. The longer I lived with her, the more depressed I got. She harassed me until I went to a shrink. He told me I was depressed. I agreed with him. He wrote me a script for Prozac. Thats what shrinks really do, ya know. They listen to you talk for an hour, then they write you a prescription. Then they bill you for the hour....but thats another story.

Three months into the Prozac, and shrink visits, I was getting more and more depressed. Not only the original circumstances due to the horrible mistake I made marrying her, but now it was getting worse, and to top it all off I was on looney meds and I dont like being on meds. Unless its something specific, antibiotics, stuff like that. NOT meds to mess with my mind.

And I really didnt get along with the whole shrink experience. He would ask me questions about my personal life, and history, and he started focusing on all the dead people. I tried to tell him...no, it aint that. I think its living with HER!!

So, yeah, you guessed it, he decided I needed to up the Prozac dose. etc. etc.

I got through the divorce, got locked up for violating a restraining order, told the shrink my depression was starting to finally lift, and said I was going to stop the Prozac. Gasp! Horrors! He said, You CANT just stop taking Prozac!! not just like that!

"Why not" I asked. So he told me that if I stopped taking the Prozac I would get horrible depressed. Some dont survive it, etc..

Holy crap.

Well, I threw the rest of the bottle of Prozac away. And obviously, he was right. I got so depressed over getting away from that woman, that shrink, and those pills, that I eventually killed myself. I am writing this from the grave he predicted....ha ha ha...april fool on that part.

I like the new me a lot better. Especially with the new wife, new house, new boat, and living in the tropics. I think its better than living in a miserable existance and taking Prozac. But thats just me. Let me give it a few dozen years and I should be able to better tell.

Your case is probably different, most cases are. But in MY case, if I had just dropped the wife when my gut told me to, I sure would have avoided a lot of grief.
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Old 03-30-2007, 08:52 AM
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Dazz ole buddy, you're preaching to an evangelist when it comes to depression.

There is more to clinical depression than being depressed, so don't try to self diagnose yourself by reading crap on the internet. Otherwise, you may get yourself into more trouble than you need right now. It is normal to be depressed when your world is turning to crap, so I wouldn't think you have a problem based on what I read from you. Take that for what it's worth, an amateur opinion you read on the internet.

When it comes to personal problems like we seem to share, advice and support from friends is wonderful. The support may open your eyes to things you might not have thought of, but advice on true clinical depression is best left to professionals.

There are different types of depression as well. I was diagnosed with refractory depression about 2 1/2 years ago but was never sad before it hit me literally overnight. Mine is/was due to a chemical imbalance in my brain so they tell me. My biggest problem with that whole ordeal is that I am sincerely worried I was misdiagnosed. That's a whole nother story.
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Old 03-30-2007, 08:56 AM
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Dazz, one other test you might consider to see if you are depressed or just sad.

Grab your favorite ACCA/DACCA CD or whatever and crank the hell out of it! If it doesn't make you smile and feel better, contact a doctor immediately!
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Old 03-30-2007, 09:52 AM
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I do agree with what Freebird is saying.

But I also suspect that if you go to a shrink, you are gonna walk out with a prescription. You may well need it, and you wont know til you try it.

But I also agree that some depression is a part of life. I think I was misdiagnosed. I actually think I have SAD, the depression that comes when a sun loving beach bum gets stuck in Massachusetts too many winters in a row.

Maybe its a vitamin D deficiency.

But do talk to some professionals. Maybe at least two, and dont tell the second one what the first one said, and if they both come up with the same diagnosis...there might be something to it.

Hang in there. It does eventually get better again.
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Old 03-30-2007, 10:08 AM
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Me an you Gringo me an you!

I would suggest taking any type of anti-depressant as a last resort after counseling. I hate to jump on particular bandwagons because I know medication truly helps some, and may actually make things worse for others.

I ended up on a bunch of crap which I can't even remember the names of because my memory got blanked for the most part when my ship really hit the fan! I was eventually hospitalized after which I was put on three medications which basically resulted in my losing over a year out of my life.

I kept complaining about the meds and how they were making it impossible for me to function, but all I heard was, "You don't want to end up in the hospital again do you?" After the required one year run, my Dr began to taper things off a bit and took me off one prescription. I said fork it, I'm dropping to one. She later fussed at me for having done that as now she wouldn't know which one was causing me to fall asleep at my desk every friggin' day for the past 16 months or so!

During an extended boat trip with my wife and son, I had forgotten to get a refill on that remaining med, so I ran out. I had already been "playing" with skipping a day or two just to see what would happen. On the third day, I would start to feel sick, so I'd pop a pill. When I ran out on the boat, I said to myself, "Fork this, I'm not taking this ship any more!"

I felt like pure hell for about a month, but then it peaked. Every day I felt better, and better, and better... and then it was like a re-birth! I felt better than I had felt in years! I was more creative, more productive, more everything than I had ever been in my whole damm life!

I hate to say it, but my marriage went south when I got sick. Then it went way south when I got better and started making changes in my life after having all that time to reflect on how I had lived it for the past 14 or so years. Primarily, I had become a workaholic who didn't take time to smell the ocean, but now that has changed.

I'm sorry to have taken your thread so far off track to the point of making it mine, but I just wanted to let you know that things will get better regardless of the outcome of your relationship. The next time this ole' boy takes a damm anti-depressant it will be because somebody stuck it down my throat or up my a$$ having shot me with a tranquilizer gun.

If things get too tough to handle with your significant other and you have no children, let me just say one thing,

RUN FORREST, RUN!!!!! at least away from a drug dispensing insurance grabbing MD who wants to drug you into some place you don't want to be! Get a second or even third opinion before taking that route. Maybe drugs are the answer, but make sure they damm well understand the question before you start taking them.
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I believe what bugbuster said is the best advice. F those mind numbing pills. Fresh air on the water is the best therapy. Usually clears my mind and allows me to make a better decision on whatever the issue is. Best of luck from one of those boat freaks
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Old 03-30-2007, 12:06 PM
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Hey Guys

When I was going through my woman induced depression, I didn't go to the Dr. I treated it myself.

At the time Kilani wine was only 89 cents a quart, talk about some anti depressent.
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Old 03-30-2007, 01:46 PM
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Hey dazz, I thought that I was the only one having problems. Mine started out when The girl I was dating for a month became pregnant. although best oops of my life (I love my mini-me more than anything. He is two now.) I sensed things were not going to be very smooth from here out. SOME of those things were probably my fault But not all, come to find out she had the livin' daylights beat out of her by some other guy. She also had a daughter with some other guy, she lived with us and never knew of her real father, so I kind of became her father I guess. And that did not bother me at all as I love kids. As the pregnancy of our child rolled along I started to see how her parents were and other family and they all freakin' nuts especially her mother. Finally the night before our son was born she tried to commit suicide with a knife in frront of her daughter and myself...I removed the knife from her hand. Then she went into the bathroom and tried to start takin pills. I found zoloft and prozac, turn out she was self medicating before she was pregnant and getting samples from her nurse friend. Anyways due to stress my son was born at 2lbs 4 oz. really little and It was the most frightening thing I have ever been through. He is fine now two years later and was never on oxygen or any breathing machines. Thank God!
Wow. there is alot to this I hope no one is getting bored yet.
Since my son was born we broke up once. She lied to the cops and told them I had a loaded gun to her head, that was proven a lie and she finally admitted to it along with many other lies. Her Parents have embaressed me beyond belief. Told the police I rigged some worn ball joints on her 2000 audi witch were proven to the original audi joints And it just goes on. Well after about three months on being broke up I was driving home from my mothers and had one of the moments where you wonder why in the hell your here. I justed missed my little boy more than I can explain. And I begged for her and I to get back together...and we did.
about two months right around last christmas my dad (who is 64) and I got in a major fight. So I decided to up and move the family to raliegh NC. Where I am presently at.

Yesterday the house went to foreclosure that we are renting and have untill june 23 to move. The girl who owns the house denies tat it is in foreclosure and wants the rent. pretty hard to denie when the cops drop off the foreclosure notice.

Then her daughter told her friend that she was worried about me hitting Meghan so child services came at six o clock last night. I have never hit any girl and never would. I don't even hit my dog.

So anyways all I want to do is leave and move to the ocean or go back to Michigan. not really sure on witch is best. But I love my son so much I stay and put up with the Crap.

Morale of the story is when even anything bad happend I found something that I love to do four wheeler or boat. And rode either one to a comfortable edge where I new I wasn't going to die. And this does clear the mind. Then talk to your best friend sometimes it helps and sometimes it doesn't.
What you have got to do though is figure out the problem sounds like your is a women as is mine and get away. But there is always something holding you back that others don't really understand mine is my little boy.
And I would not go onto anti-depressents because in my opinion all they are is a band aid for the real problem and when you find it and leave the problem behind with a clear view you will probably be happy

I hope this doesn't bore or bother anyone. I sure feels good to talk about it

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Old 03-30-2007, 03:31 PM
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Dazz.
Didn't we read about a month ago of her clocking you for $150,000.00 in credit card debt?? PO boxes and other examples of deception?
And now this??
Dude, I hate to be hard on you but SNAP OUT OF IT!!
It's over.
I don't care if she looks like Hale Berry and performs like Jenna Jameson.
This will prove to be your ultimate undoing, but only if you allow it to happen.
Best of luck.
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Old 03-30-2007, 04:27 PM
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Dazz ~ I'm so sorry, man. I can only imagine how rough things must be for you right about now.

Keep this in mind for future reference ~ While we CANNOT control the behavior or actions of those around us we CAN control our OWN. It's not up to us to try to change someone else but to make changes in OURSELVES and not be afraid of making those changes.

Decide what it is that YOU WANT out of this life and then set out and DO IT.

Fear not ~
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Old 03-30-2007, 04:36 PM
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The only thing you can change about the past is your attitude about it.
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Old 03-30-2007, 04:52 PM
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That's right, Gringo ~ a change of one's attitude is the beginnin' of a new perspective which brings about CHANGE in other areas.


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