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Old 03-29-2007, 08:51 PM
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Just found out today that my mom has it. She had a routine mammogram last week, they found some lumps, a biopsy was done on Monday, and the results came in today. This all happened pretty fast.

I'm taking it pretty hard, even though it's too early to tell how bad and how much and where.

Anyone with some advice out there, I could sure use it.
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Old 03-29-2007, 08:55 PM
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Hi

There is a lot of hype, truth and bull on the internet about cancer

May I suggest that you start with Cancer Society first, and spread your search from there

Our thoughts and prayers for your mother
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Old 03-29-2007, 08:58 PM
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I'm truly sorry to hear that. Have to think positive though. My uncle had breast cancer a few times, kept coming back. He stayed strong and went in with the attitude of let's get this thing done and over with. He never let it beat him. Be strong for her. Anytime you want to talk we're all here for you. Vent away.

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Old 03-29-2007, 11:24 PM
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Good friend's mom and aunt had breast cancer, then last year one of her sisters and a cousin got it as well, so she went ahead and had the double masectomy about four weeks ago even though she had no issues. The decision took over six months.

She went back to work this week. Rebuild yet to come.

This is a disease that I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy.

May God go with you and your mom. Support her if they decide to go to removal and make sure she knows that the rebuild that they do nowadays are remarkable. Inject some humor too - tell her that they can even make them look pretty good afterwards!

God bless.

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Old 03-29-2007, 11:28 PM
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I had a scare myself early this month but came out free and clear. I dont know much except that sometimes they do "lumpectomies" to remove the cancer(s), sometimes they do "mastectomies" to remove the breast(s), and sometimes they do "radical mastectomies" which also remove lymph tissue from the armpit area to prevent the cancer from hitting the lymphatic system and spreading throughout the body.

I will be praying for your mom and hoping that they can get all the cancer out before it spreads.

And yeah, the rebuilds can be awesome....
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Old 03-30-2007, 12:27 AM
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My mom was diagnosed at the age of 70, devastated me. After a radical mastectomy she was back and into her usual piss and vinegar in less than 2 weeks. That was 3 years ago and still no signs of any recurrence. Hang in there and god bless
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Old 03-30-2007, 12:43 AM
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Well I certainly hope they got it in time......prayers have been sent!
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Old 03-30-2007, 06:47 AM
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I don't have any personal experience with breast cancer - but just wanted to let you know that we're thinkin' of you and your mom and prayin' for ya! It's a very scary thing.

I watched Oprah yest. and she did a GREAT show re: breast cancer. Seems Rynee' Syler (sp??) a news anchor woman finally opted to do a total breast removal and reconstruction -even though she had not (YET) been diagnosed with breast cancer - after having BOTH of her parents die from breast cancer in their 60's. She, herself, had already gone through MANY mammograms/MRIs/biopsies and even a lumpectomy over the past 5 yrs. and finally said - "ENOUGH! I want to be here for my kids." While it wasn't an easy decision for her - she said it's the BEST THING she's ever decided to do. She said that it's nice to be able to sleep without worry and to be HAPPY once again.

Anyway - just know that there IS LIFE after breast cancer.

Our prayers are with all of you!!!
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Old 03-30-2007, 09:17 AM
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PM me if you'd like. My wife is currently on her second round of chemo after a LS mastectomy. There are many types and treatments. 46 yo healthy female, no history, clear in 05, loaded in Aug 06, no lumps detected. Found with a yearly mammogram, confirmed with a biopsy, CT showed many masses, MRI showed 11 to 13 masses the largest being 2.5 cm. Removal early Oct. and found her margins clear by 2-3 mm. It was just nearing the lymph nodes but did not get into them. Thankfully.

Reconstruction will start after chemo. Friends and strangers (some right here on THT) have been great. Cancer will test every ounce of your being and in our case, the strength of a relationship. I take her to every appointment, sit with her, listen to her doctors and ask every question I can think of. TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS. If something don't sound right question it. Get another opinion. We think we may have avoided a major disaster. We'll know today @11:00.

A friend told me something that has stuck to the front of my head... He told me that a doctors licence is to practice medicine. It doesn't mean he knows a thing.

It's a terrible disease.

You'll shed some tears. Sometimes lots of them. Get over them and move on like a bull. Not every case is a death sentance.

Good luck and be positive.

I'd be happy to talk off line.
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My wife is certified in Mammography, MRI and CT.
Every day she scans patients to plan their treatment. The biggest issue she has seen is “Vanity Kills”. Depending on the type of tumor a simple lumpectomy doesn’t get it. A lot of women feel that their breasts define them. If one or both breasts are removed they are less of a woman. This is bull****. She needs support and reinforcement that she is loved and she is still a loving wife, mother and WOMAN if the breasts are removed. Take all of the options offered to get rid of the problem. Every year at the race for life I see hundreds of survivors walking around the track. They did what needed to be done. I also see hundreds of lighted bags representing those that didn’t or waited too long.
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Old 03-30-2007, 12:27 PM
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Thanks all for the kind words of support and valuable information.

The shock I had when I found out yesterday was pretty tough on me. It's good to know I'm not alone. It sounds like some people on this board are or have been in much worse positions.

She has a surgical consult on Monday. I'm putting together a list of questions that I would like her doctor to answer. So far, this is what I'm thinking:

1. Will there be an MRI? Does the MRI machine have a breast coil (improves breast scan quality)? Will the MRI include the use of a tracer injection?

2. What type of cancer is it? Invasive, ductal, etc. Is it in the lymph nodes?

3. What stage do you think she is in (I, II, IIIa, etc.)?

4. Are you planning a lumpectomy or mastectomy? If a lumpectomy, would a mastectomy provide a higher survival rate?

5. Besides surgery, what therapy methods are you going to recommend (chemo, rad, etc.)?

Do these make sense? Anything to add?

Mist-rest, good luck and I hope you get some good news.

Thanks again.
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Old 03-30-2007, 01:54 PM
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Thanks, Just got home after the appointment and lunch. Weez be all smiles today.

No radiation will be done. In hind sight she could have had the tissue expanders installed but you don't get all the information until the tissue is examined in pathology. A good friends sister went in for reduction. 2 weeks after she gets a call that tells her the removed tissue has cancer. Talk about crap luck.

To add to Monstro's post...

Months back when we started this I made a statement to her surgeon. I told her that "as far as I was concerned, tits were for kids". She laughed pretty good and the office visits were a little bit 'lighter' in nature after that. Glad she approved of my sense of humor. I'm not sure how your mom would take it.

FWIW we were told not to remove the other side as there was no reason to do so. Looking back after all I see and have heard I'm glad she followed the advise of her doctors and didn't try and save it. I say this for 2 reasons mostly.. 1) I don't think that trying to save tissue is worth the risk. It's bad enough that we both will go thru the rest of our lives waiting for the other shoe to drop. Complete removal was the safest thing for her to do. 2) I'm getting a fresh pair. I just can't seem to talk her into a pair of 40-D's.

Seriously, Best of luck to her and all of the family.
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Old 03-30-2007, 04:07 PM
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Mist-Rest - 3/30/2007 12:54 PM

FWIW we were told not to remove the other side as there was no reason to do so. Looking back after all I see and have heard I'm glad she followed the advise of her doctors and didn't try and save it. I say this for 2 reasons mostly.. 1) I don't think that trying to save tissue is worth the risk. It's bad enough that we both will go thru the rest of our lives waiting for the other shoe to drop. Complete removal was the safest thing for her to do. 2) I'm getting a fresh pair. I just can't seem to talk her into a pair of 40-D's.

Seriously, Best of luck to her and all of the family.
Mist-Rest ~ that's EXACTLY what Renee' Syler talked about on Oprah yest.!

I'm so glad to hear that ya'll got back some great news. YEAH!!!!

I'm always glad for more current information regarding this dreaded disease. And while I'm so sorry that a lot of you and your loved ones are going through it - I'm grateful that many are willing to discuss it here so that the rest of us can become more informed and IF (God forbid) it should happen that we, too, can make informed choices.

Many prayers to all of you ~
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Old 03-30-2007, 07:28 PM
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FJ, We don't regret anything to date. I have no idea who this Renee' character is but I'm glad we think alike. Did she advise woman to go for the 40's? Not many think like me. Linda says I'm truly one of a kind. I just can't determine if that's a good or bad thing.

For the time being I'll guess it's good.

C-C, Sorry I failed to address some points that I do know. I don't have all the answers... Sorry to side track your post.

#1 MRI breast machine. Best thing going. If they don't have one where you are, drive until someone does. Tracer is used on MRI and Ultrasound. It helps determine blood flow to the effected area.
#2 You will and need to know. Sometimes it is not till it's over when you get all the answers. (pathology)
#3 They will let you know.
#4 You see my post
#5 Chemo is a given in most cases BUT not all. In our case she was healthy, young and mandatory. Treatment #1 removed the chances of us dealing with again to 35% Round 2 dropped that in half. The Herseptin treatment halves that again.

With an 8-10% chance of us doing this again, I'd say that's pretty good odds. It's better than the street average. Also we opted not to enter into any studies. The pressure was bad enough. You/she will be asked.

Don't beat yourself up or let her pity herself. You will learn pretty fast that attitude is everything. Development on this an other cancers changes nearly daily. I did hear that a major development was going to be announced w/in a few weeks.
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Mist-rest,

Thanks for commenting on my questions. One thing I don't know is what chemo means. Will she be real sick while this is going on? How long does chemo last? How long do the effects last? I'm researching via different means but wonder what your experience was.

Anything you would add that I should ask the doctor at this stage?

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Old 03-30-2007, 09:19 PM
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Conch - Chemo means chemical therapy. Basically they will put her on a cocktail of meds based on what they are fighting. Since every med has at least one side effect, some more, and they are strong meds, it tends to knock you sideways. Some say it beats the radiation therapy, but I'm sure that's just as bad, and in a lot of cases you end up having both anyway.
The most extreme is bone marrow - but normally used with blood cancers, so not in play in your case.
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Ye Gads, do we all get cancer if we live long enough?

Photo below of me relaxing on the radiation table of the machine I got to know intimately for a few months a year or so ago when I was treated for prostate cancer, I beat it and everything works just as before.

My daughter died of cancer when she was only 48 years old.

My wife had a cancerous chunk taken out of her arm just last week.

The consolation of getting cancer is that most of us beat the darn thing and come out just fit as a fiddle.





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