Daughter, Covid, School, Disaster
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My 12 yr old daughter has fallen so far behind in her school work, as most kids have. I am thinking of summer school. Does anyone know of a full time, structured, live on campus, type school. I guess the right terminology would be boarding school, military school etc. And before this thread get's sideways, I am to blame, ex wife is to blame, government is to blame, God is to blame, global warming and Sea Turtles as well. If anyone can help me on the subject matter I would appreciate it.
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Disclaimer: I have 1 child and he’s 3 months old, so I’m writing this as an observer.
I have 8 yo and 11 yo nieces. Both are getting a fraction of the knowledge they would typically learn in a normal year. I think this is going to be considered a lost year for most kids. I’m not sure if that brings you an solace, but my point is that your daughter isn’t falling behind the curve. The whole curve has been lowered.
I have 8 yo and 11 yo nieces. Both are getting a fraction of the knowledge they would typically learn in a normal year. I think this is going to be considered a lost year for most kids. I’m not sure if that brings you an solace, but my point is that your daughter isn’t falling behind the curve. The whole curve has been lowered.
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And the trend has been down hill for sometime. Last report I saw, it now takes one year of college to get the same education high school provided 40 years ago..
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Sam Marcos Academy in Texas might have something
my mom and uncle when there many moons ago for the summer, but I am not sure it was as much schooling as more "camp" stuff.....San Marcos and Central Texas was a MUCH smaller place back then
as others have said the one concern might be that is she goes somewhere too good she might come back ahead of the others her age and maybe even ahead of others even if it was a normal year (if you are in a really crappy public school area
my mom and uncle when there many moons ago for the summer, but I am not sure it was as much schooling as more "camp" stuff.....San Marcos and Central Texas was a MUCH smaller place back then
as others have said the one concern might be that is she goes somewhere too good she might come back ahead of the others her age and maybe even ahead of others even if it was a normal year (if you are in a really crappy public school area
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Probably depends on where you live. (Might help to include that.)
I know some areas have in person 'pod' learning that may help. It is in a central location, each student has their own (mostly enclosed) pod, with live in person instruction.
I know some areas have in person 'pod' learning that may help. It is in a central location, each student has their own (mostly enclosed) pod, with live in person instruction.
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Because of the Covid thing, most every other kid has not made what otherwise would be considered "normal" progress in the last year or so. As in they have not learned all of whatever they should have learned this year for whatever grade they are in. Then the question is, have they really fallen behind? They may not have learned whatever they would (in normal years) normally learn in X grade, but neither have most of the other kids. Their whole cohort has suffered due to the pandemic and the loss of conventional schooling, but they are all pretty much in the same boat so maybe they haven't "fallen behind" compared to the rest of their peers.
The school systems are going to have to account for the educational time lost for all the pandemic kids (there are many, many more than just your daughter). The school systems are either going to have to figure out how to do the remedial teaching to bring these kids up to the Common Core standards on time, or the standards will need to be changed to provide an exception for this group.
The school systems are going to have to account for the educational time lost for all the pandemic kids (there are many, many more than just your daughter). The school systems are either going to have to figure out how to do the remedial teaching to bring these kids up to the Common Core standards on time, or the standards will need to be changed to provide an exception for this group.
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Nc mallard is correct Private school. Our kids have been private elementary school full time since August as well. Has gone great Not so much as a cold in our family in a year . And only a few random cases of covid at the school but the classes are kept to themselves with distancing and masks so when covid popped up itonly affected the individual class for 2 weeks of online learning Kids doing well and getting to at least see friends there. We are staring baseball in a week as well. Op where are you located that would help
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I don't know but I did come across this story about a refugee in war torn Bosnia who didn't go to school from the age of 8-13. His family finally immigrated to Australia and he couldn't speak a word of english. He went on to college, multiple degrees etc. His point was to relax about kids falling a little behind because of covid.
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Get them reading books. Then have them write stuff, like what they would do differently if they wrote the book. Keep it short. Reading improves vocabulary, writing, memory and spelling skills.
Math use every day problems and work with them to figure out the solution. There are different ways, maybe they will pick up the easiest solution or the one with the most steps (me running out of fingers). It doesn't matter, its the quest for the answer that matters. Get them to think. I learned the importance of math building a porch with my dad, measuring boards, figuring the angle of the roof. Of course when I said, "an inch and 2 little marks" I learned to develop thick skin. Involve them in tax prep. Even a second grader should be able to add some items. Have them measure when your wife is baking.
Geography, have them plan trips, find the best route, the best place to stay. maybe add a little math add in the cost of lodging and transportation. Ask them to help.
Science can involve a lot of fun ways to blow up stuff. My dad once thought it would be cool to dissect a bee. We learned you can get stung from a dead bee... and some important vocabulary.
Learning dozen''t have to come while sitting at a desk. How many of us have learned way more than we were taught in the classroom once we hit the work world? Kids can learn a ton when working with their parents on simple stuff we take for granted.
I work with a lot of twenty somethings, most hate to figure stuff out. They want to be hand fed the answers. Learning to think and being excited about the challenge of finding a solution are the best traits a child can learn. Most of us learn that from watching our parents.
Math use every day problems and work with them to figure out the solution. There are different ways, maybe they will pick up the easiest solution or the one with the most steps (me running out of fingers). It doesn't matter, its the quest for the answer that matters. Get them to think. I learned the importance of math building a porch with my dad, measuring boards, figuring the angle of the roof. Of course when I said, "an inch and 2 little marks" I learned to develop thick skin. Involve them in tax prep. Even a second grader should be able to add some items. Have them measure when your wife is baking.
Geography, have them plan trips, find the best route, the best place to stay. maybe add a little math add in the cost of lodging and transportation. Ask them to help.
Science can involve a lot of fun ways to blow up stuff. My dad once thought it would be cool to dissect a bee. We learned you can get stung from a dead bee... and some important vocabulary.
Learning dozen''t have to come while sitting at a desk. How many of us have learned way more than we were taught in the classroom once we hit the work world? Kids can learn a ton when working with their parents on simple stuff we take for granted.
I work with a lot of twenty somethings, most hate to figure stuff out. They want to be hand fed the answers. Learning to think and being excited about the challenge of finding a solution are the best traits a child can learn. Most of us learn that from watching our parents.
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She will catch up once schools get going again, sending her away, at age 12, to catch up academically, seems very extreme....there are plenty of other reasons to send 12 yr olds away though....
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My kids have been in person 5 days a week in public school since September. It’s really just the virtual kids holding them back. I think it 50/50 in person vs virtual. My second graders teacher doesn’t give him homework because of the virtual kids. The virtual is really being abused. Some Kids just stay home and do virtual because they don’t feel like going to school (daughter is in high school and this is somewhat common in that age group).
My 6 th grade son told me 2 kids on Friday didn’t come to school and did virtual so they could leave a day early for camping.
My 6 th grade son told me 2 kids on Friday didn’t come to school and did virtual so they could leave a day early for camping.
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She's not alone; it's estimated 40% of children don't attend on-line education and 70% of the children who do are failing one or more courses and almost everyone is falling behind. The option is to supplement with actual home schooling if a parent is qualified or change to a private school where they can attend classes.
In the public school system the teachers, who are heroes for not doing their job, are going to need to develop a plan to help these kids catch up. Some of these students are going to have to be held back or they will never catch up.
In the public school system the teachers, who are heroes for not doing their job, are going to need to develop a plan to help these kids catch up. Some of these students are going to have to be held back or they will never catch up.
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OP, you'd really force your daughter to live on campus somewhere all summer at age 12? Why not just hire a tutor to come to your house 3 days a week?
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The group of “professionals” that have shown their true colors and have stepped the the least in this pandemic, are the teachers! I can guarantee everyone who reads this, teaching is NOT about the children!
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Guess I’m grateful to live where we do. Our kids have been back, in person since August. After the time off since mid March they were dying to go back. Haven’t missed a beat really.
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I am not sure about 12, but I left and went to boarding school at 13. I was a good kid but needed more direction a discipline than schools around home could offer.
It was great decision and while I didnt start paying cash for everything and working 2 jobs while in school until I was 15, like most THTer, my parents will agree that it was money well spent.
There are obviously options and I can say that my high school is 100% boarding and they are back on campus now with a TON of precautions. I would think you can find something similar for your family if you really want too.
It was great decision and while I didnt start paying cash for everything and working 2 jobs while in school until I was 15, like most THTer, my parents will agree that it was money well spent.
There are obviously options and I can say that my high school is 100% boarding and they are back on campus now with a TON of precautions. I would think you can find something similar for your family if you really want too.
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CORALREEFER sorry to hear. I fear there is going to be some long term affect on our younger generation due to COVID and lack of learning so looking for summer school sounds like a smart strategy.
Not sure where you live but this is a well respected summer school for CT in Fairfield County: xhttps://www.eaglehillschool.org
I sent my twin boys there one year in between 6th/7th grade.
Good luck.
Not sure where you live but this is a well respected summer school for CT in Fairfield County: xhttps://www.eaglehillschool.org
I sent my twin boys there one year in between 6th/7th grade.
Good luck.
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My 12 yr old daughter has fallen so far behind in her school work, as most kids have. I am thinking of summer school. Does anyone know of a full time, structured, live on campus, type school. I guess the right terminology would be boarding school, military school etc. And before this thread get's sideways, I am to blame, ex wife is to blame, government is to blame, God is to blame, global warming and Sea Turtles as well. If anyone can help me on the subject matter I would appreciate it.