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Old 01-16-2007, 04:02 PM
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Bogie is a 16 1/2 yr old lab who has reached his end-can't walk, not comfortable, so it's time. Question is this-do I tell the 8 and 12 yr old girls ahead of time or not? My plan is to take him tomorrow morning, but tell them tonight that he has an appt, but is so frail, he may have to be put down. We've already spoken to them about this some. Thanks...

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Old 01-16-2007, 04:07 PM
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No easy answer on that one. I'm in no rush for that day to come in our house.
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Old 01-16-2007, 04:13 PM
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WOW:
I just had the a very similar issue last Saturday. Ms. Beasley at 15 years and 21 days, my black lab. I could not get her to move only thing she would do is wag her tail when I touched her. I reluctantly carried her to the vet and said my fair well. I a comforted with the knowledge she had no quality of life and is pain free. I have three 12,10 and 8. I only told them after she was gone and that she went to a safer place and is now pain free. as such, they knew she was old, and was having difficulties, they are sad but they understood.
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Old 01-16-2007, 04:18 PM
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"Life is a series of dogs" -George Carlin

I know the feeling! Hang in there.
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Old 01-16-2007, 04:19 PM
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CMP,

16 1/2 years with a friend like that is one of life's greatest gifts. The love of good family dog hits me in the heart every time, I'm sorry for your loss.

I'd tell them. I'd give them time to say goodbye, but only just before going.

Whatever you do is right, take care.

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Old 01-16-2007, 04:22 PM
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It's tough to do, I didn't even have small ones at home and it was still hard to take him in...Show the kids some photos of him when he was young and full of life, that's how you want to remember him always....

Say a prayer for him....to rest in peace....
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Old 01-16-2007, 04:26 PM
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That is a tough question, and not entirely sure what I'd do. On one hand you can tell the kids so they can say goodbye, or let them find out after and say the doc did all he could. Either way, they will be crushed and personaly I think if they can say goodbye it might make it easier.

I have a 10 1/2 yr old Black Lab and although he has a few good yrs left I am starting to think about the day.

Best of luck to you and a well deserved rest to your pooch.
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Old 01-16-2007, 04:28 PM
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Wow ....Maybe tell them again that He might not make it tomorrow/frail so they could say goodbye. Maybe stemming less emotional backlash after. Explain he is hurting and would be better off if the vet says. Our Lab is just 4 and is stiff in the morning. I make it a point to enjoy her company everyday. I hate reading these threads... This is tough.
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Old 01-16-2007, 04:32 PM
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wow what a catch22. tell them tonight to say goodbye. they are in pain all night tommorow morning would not be a happy place at the CMP camp. or just do it and let them deal with it after the fact without a chance to say their goodbyes. Tough decesion for sure my friend . i wont nor think anyone but you and your wife can answer that my sympathies go out to you and family during this sad time
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Old 01-16-2007, 04:33 PM
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Terrible thing to go through. It will be painful either way. I'm thinking it might be a good idea to somehow let them know ahead so at least they can say goodbye. Heartbreaking though. God Bless.
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Old 01-16-2007, 04:34 PM
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james guess you submitted while i was typing our thoughts are the same
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Old 01-16-2007, 04:34 PM
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I'm getting choked up reading this. My yellow lab is 14 and while he can walk ok he can't climb any stairs. I know the end is coming but I'm in denial and I don't even have kids to tell.

Sorry to hear the end is near for yours and hope your kids take the news ok. Time to go pet my dog now.
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Old 01-16-2007, 04:42 PM
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I know it's a tough day ahead for you, three yrs ago I was forced to put Jake down 17yrs old. I stayed with him though it and carried him home. Found a nice spot out back by a Lilac bush to lay him to rest. I cried like a baby that day, and had to tell my 16yr old boy about it that evening ( the two had basically grew up together) very tough. But we have a place to go and visit every now and then and remember what a great dog & companion he was. Whatever you decide it won't be easy, but you will get through it togethr. I believe there is a special place for dogs when they leave this world, some call it the rainbow bridge, whatever it is I pray it's full off open space to run and enjoy. Again I' feel your pain good luck.

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Old 01-16-2007, 04:50 PM
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I have a 14-1/2 year-old black lab mix. While I know that she probably only has a couple of good years(if I am lucky)left in her, I can't bear the thought of that day coming where I will have to do what you are having to do. With that in mind, I would not tell the children about your plans. I would tell them after it is done.....all I would say that Bogie passed away. As hard as that would be for them, I can't help but think knowing what you are having to do would make it twice as hard.
I am choked up.....
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Old 01-16-2007, 05:04 PM
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Best wishes with your loss, I feel for you as I love my dogs. Telling the children is a parental decision based on yopu and your kids. Best of luck
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Old 01-16-2007, 05:06 PM
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I just put my baby down 2 weeks ago. Tore my heart out - we had her 17 years. The vet let me hold her while they gave her the shot. Takes about 10 seconds.

I involved my 2 kids, and don't regret it. Actually, solicited their input on the decision to do it. The night before, we all said our good-byes - everybody crying....turned into quite a family moment.

We settled on the phrase "If you measure your life by how much love you give or receive, she won on both counts".

We also chose to have her cremated. Cost about $100. 1/2 her ashes down near the lake where she loved to chase jet skis, and the other 1/2 in the front yard where she loved to chase squirrels. That actually was the kids idea - they couldn't bear for me to bring her home in a bag for burial.

Good luck with your decision, and comfort yourself with all the love I'm sure Bogie gave you.
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After reading this I went and played with Lucas for a while, and then plopped myself on the floor with him to relax before dinner time. I have never taken the time spent with him for granted, and he is as much a part of the family as everyone else. I don't have kids, but I do consider Lucas to be my "son". Just recently took the bed frame apart and put the box-spring and matress on the floor so he can still get into and out of the bed without jumping (yeah he shares "his" bed with me).

CMP, I wish you all the strength to comfort your kids during this sad time

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Thanks guys for all the input. I just had the "I have an appt with the vet tomorrow to see what she thinks" talk with the kids and they took it better than I thought. I think the pre-talk helped alot, but I suspect there'll be some emotional wreckage in the morning. Like coastboater, we're doing the hold while the deed is done and cremation thing, then we'll have his ashes to do with what they choose, so we'll cross that bridge when we get there. Thanks again guys...

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Old 01-16-2007, 06:55 PM
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CMP, You've got it right. A little warning ahead of time lays the groundwork and eases the shock
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that sux good luck with the kids
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