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Old 09-07-2020, 08:16 PM
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...almost to the point of not being fun. We have a condo on the beach at Florida right now. Been here 2 days and it feels like a shit show. This is our first vacation with our second child. Sheís 7 months old and naps every 2 hours on the dot. She sleeps maybe 30 minutes max. After feeding/(wifeís) pumping, that leaves is maybe an 1-1.5 hours of time which isnít a lot after you get down to the beach.

Then the 5 year old has regressed to the point that heís acting 2. Wonít sleep in his own bed. He wonít go to sleep. Throws tantrums during the day because he is too tired. I have spent maybe 1 hour at the beach. Does it get easier??? Ever??? Iím about ready to go back to work so I can relax...
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Someone's going to post a reply jumping all over your ass with their moral superiority so I'm going to steal their thunder and claim it now. You should enjoy your kids 24/7...they won't stay this age long... you're at a condo in Florida, how can you be complaining...etc.

Now that that's out of the way, let me say I feel your pain 110%. Last September we spent a week at the beach in an RV with a two month old and a two year old. It was MISERABLE. The young one obviously wasn't sleeping, the old one was in full blown terrible twos. It was awful. I mean truly awful to the point that I wanted to pack up and leave.

Fast forward to this year...just spent a week back down at the same spot a few weeks ago. Youngest is now 1, oldest 3. Aside from having to keep a constant eye on the one year old, and the three year old doing what three year olds do (and that is...be an ahole a lot, not listen, etc)...it was a freaking blast. Had a few meltdowns and I got frustrated a few times, but overall from a year ago...MASSIVE difference. And it should only get easier.

Young kids are tough. I feel no shame in saying sometimes I do not enjoy it.
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To add: my BILs youngins have the same age difference as our two boys, but his are 5 and 7. He says in the past year or so things have gotten so much easier it's not funny...once they are both self sufficient, sleeping, and not needing naps...it gets better.
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I have a seasonal camp site this year with a 2.5 year old and 4 year old. Every weekend I punch my self in the face for what I put my self through
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Originally Posted by c_m_25 View Post
...almost to the point of not being fun. We have a condo on the beach at Florida right now. Been here 2 days and it feels like a shit show. This is our first vacation with our second child. Sheís 7 months old and naps every 2 hours on the dot. She sleeps maybe 30 minutes max. After feeding/(wifeís) pumping, that leaves is maybe an 1-1.5 hours of time which isnít a lot after you get down to the beach.

Then the 5 year old has regressed to the point that heís acting 2. Wonít sleep in his own bed. He wonít go to sleep. Throws tantrums during the day because he is too tired. I have spent maybe 1 hour at the beach. Does it get easier??? Ever??? Iím about ready to go back to work so I can relax...
You are a Dad. It isn't about how much time you need at the beach. To answer your question it does get easier. I realize you are venting but its time to man up.
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Lol, called it.
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Someone's going to post a reply jumping all over your ass with their moral superiority so I'm going to steal their thunder and claim it now. You should enjoy your kids 24/7...they won't stay this age long...etc.
Haha, I get it. This year has been...something. I feel like we lost nearly a year with Covid. The oldest was in school then suddenly the wife was teaching him at home with a new baby. All the while, weíre trying to stay healthy. I was hoping that we could all come down and unwind as we are all starting to get into a rough spot...mentally. Itís just been a lot harder with the new baby (which I absolutely love and adore and would never change anything in regards to her).

Iím taking my son on a fishing trip tomorrow so hopefully that will add some much needed fun/relaxation for me and him.
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Originally Posted by NCSUboater View Post
Lol, called it.
Yea you did. Didnít take long either.
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Originally Posted by NCSUboater View Post
To add: my BILs youngins have the same age difference as our two boys, but his are 5 and 7. He says in the past year or so things have gotten so much easier it's not funny...once they are both self sufficient, sleeping, and not needing naps...it gets better.
Glad to hear! If I can get my dang son out of our bed, it would help tremendously. (For the record, he only sleeps in our bed on vacations. Not at home.)
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Snip snip donít have to worry about it
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Trade you one college sophomore and two teenagers for the condo and two rug rats.
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Originally Posted by c_m_25 View Post
Haha, I get it. This year has been...something. I feel like we lost nearly a year with Covid. The oldest was in school then suddenly the wife was teaching him at home with a new baby. All the while, weíre trying to stay healthy. I was hoping that we could all come down and unwind as we are all starting to get into a rough spot...mentally. Itís just been a lot harder with the new baby (which I absolutely love and adore and would never change anything in regards to her).

Iím taking my son on a fishing trip tomorrow so hopefully that will add some much needed fun/relaxation for me and him.
I hear ya man. And I don't care what anyone says...unless you are trying to raise a kid during this mess you cannot possibly relate. At our household, two adults working fulltime, and two kids needing constant attention all day while we both try to stay afloat at work. they are back at daycare now but around May timeframe...mentally we were out of it.

oh that reminds me, we spent a week in May down there too with my other BIL/SIL and their two year old. We had a great time.

few weeks ago our 3 yo was getting testy down at the beach...my wife was at her wit's end but fortunately she was leaving to come home to go back to work. I stayed behind with the kids for a few days...ran them ragged at the beach and splash pad to the point that they both fell asleep on the golf cart on the way back to the camper. Threw them in their bed where they each took a 3 hr nap and I had some quality daddy time. I won't say it was the best part of the trip but it was...necessary and made it all worth it lol. When they woke back up they were completely different.

Kids man. Sometimes there's just too much going on and they get overtired. It's a shitshow from there. I'm sure getting your boy out to fish will work wonders. Hang in there and don't feel bad for not having a great time on vacation...everyone's been there whether they're gonna admit it or not.
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We have 2 that are 15 months apart. Giant pain in the ass much of the time, and an absolute blast the rest. Today and Saturday took the 4
year old dove hunting. Was the almost 3 year olds turn today, but he wanted to hang out with mommy. She turned birds, played in the dirt, climbed a deer stand a few times, found a boyfriend, and took a dump in the woods twice. Life is good. Canít imagine having a little kid with all this Covid craziness though. Itís demoralizing and downright crappy.
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5 and 7 year old boys and yes things get better. They carry their own bags, order food etc and sleep through. We have been overseas and interstate every year since the eldest was born and have endured plenty of sleep deprivation and many a vomiting but wouldn't have it any other way. Their genuine excitement and happyness is amazing and refreshing!

Feel genuinely sorry for this guy...

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Daughter is 5 1/2, son 3 1/2...

this weekend was broooooootal.
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Have a 15mo and a 5yo.

Worse vacation was when we took my 5yo out west to ski at 15 months. The flight went fine but she woke up at 3am every morning all week. We took turns waking up with her and hanging out in the large bathroom with a heated floor till the sun came up. Exhausted when we got back.

Brought the nanny with us last summer for a week down the shore when the little guy was 3 months old. Made the trip tolerable.

This year same week nanny gets the week off. same place things much better. The 5yo you just need to wear out so they sleep at night and are ok the next day.

Little kids aren’t easy and will drive you crazy. I‘M far from an expert but all I know is once you think you got them figured out they change the rules and knock you back on your ass.






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I think it gets easier when the youngest is about 3 years old.

I have a 3 and a 5 year old and the vacations this year went pretty good compared to last year's.

It truly sucks if you have a kid that is still breastfeeding on a vacation.
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Brought the nanny with us last summer for a week down the shore when the little guy was 3 months old. Made the trip tolerable.
OP,
You should have brought your nanny with you. It seems so obvious in hindsight.
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Hehe most of my friends that have kids say a vacation and kids donít belong in the same sentence.
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My 10 yo daughter helped me change the oil on my outboards this weekend..

Enjoy every moment while you can.. I will never get easier... just change.

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