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Old 09-08-2020, 02:14 PM
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Yep, you go on vacation for the kids not for you.

If you want a vacation, you need to bring a sitter like grandparents....... Or ski school...

I paid a lot of money for ski schools......for kids..... So I could ski. Starting from when my oldest was only six months old. That's like $250 a day a kid now.....oSeveral thousand dollars over the course of a week. Until your kids are old enough to ski what you want to ski with you. Once they were about 12 they could ski with me they could ski some double black diamonds and steep stuff.

When when my kids were little I paid for my parents to come with us once...... I thought they would watch the kids at least one or two days out of a week and be a trade off with ski school/ childcare cost....... Nope. I still had to pay for child care and the larger condo for my parents , food, etc.

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Old 09-08-2020, 03:34 PM
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Originally Posted by mbb View Post
Yep, you go on vacation for the kids not for you.

If you want a vacation, you need to bring a sitter like grandparents....... Or ski school...

I paid a lot of money for ski schools......for kids..... So I could ski. Starting from when my oldest was only six months old. That's like $250 a day a kid now.....oSeveral thousand dollars over the course of a week. Until your kids are old enough to ski what you want to ski with you. Once they were about 12 they could ski with me they could ski some double black diamonds and steep stuff.

When when my kids were little I paid for my parents to come with us once...... I thought they would watch the kids at least one or two days out of a week and be a trade off with ski school/ childcare cost....... Nope. I still had to pay for child care and the larger condo for my parents , food, etc.
We brought my mom to Florida one year for help with the kids. She didnít have to pay for anything although, picking up our meal at least once would have been nice. Also, she complained about the sun and would go hang out in her room listening to rush Limbaugh as opposed to enjoying the beach. I digress...
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Oh my! You all are bringing back a lot of memories. Kids are now 31 and 24 and we have never shied away from vacations with them. The first one was a trip to Hawaii when the oldest was 2 months old. Studied up on all the tricks, breast feeding on takeoff and landing (4 times total). He was so great, the flight attendants gave us a bottle of champagne upon reaching our destination. Once we reached the condo, he immediately threw up and had diarrheah (sp) all over the wife. It got better from there. It got better as they got older and we always took the chance to vacation without the kids as well.

The older they get, the easier and more fun it gets. Involving them in your fun time is key. I can still remember the joy on my little girl's face the first time she got up on a wakeboard at 3 years old. We would camp - with the kids in their own tent - and have a great time (it helped to have a 7 year difference between the two). Just remember that it's mostly about them on these vacations and any time you can steal for yourselves is a bonus.

My wife and I continue to talk about how we couldn't imagine having little ones at this time. Trying to work with "mom, mom, mom" or "dad, dad, dad" from the little ones is unfathomable for us. GOOD LUCK TO YOU ALL!
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Yep..it's hard sometimes. I have this thing my head like Clark W Griswold of how much fun it is going to be then ,just like Clark, there comes reality . lol.
Hang in there sparky. it slowly gets better over time but trust me, time flies. it doesn't feel like it. I would give anything to be in your shoes again. , there is that country song , You're Going to Miss it, and it's true.
My middle kid is severely disabled. he is blind and mentally retarded and has cerebral palsy. He is 22 now and weighs 120 pounds. he was much easier when he was 5. lol. Vacations with kids is work. it takes a lot of planning, strategery, and patience . it sometimes seems better to not have gone. I have been there brother.
with that said, I have taken my kids backpacking on the AT in the Smokies since they were 5. I have taken them mountain biking,boating, the beach, and when we were in the Exumas my 9 year old daughter slipped on the sharp coraline limestone on Thunderball Groto and split her knee wide open. This was day 1. Stainel Cay has no full time clinic. They had a Bahamian nurse who was trained by an American nurse and she stitched up my daughter the best she could. my daughter has an impressive scar on her knee today. Kids are work . Kids will test you. Kids are awesome!!!!!!

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Old 09-08-2020, 07:53 PM
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I believe you've mentioned Staniel Cay before and I has looked it up. Just reminded me of it again...for our 10th anniversary our boys will be 5 and 7 and we are going there while they are at their grandparents.

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You poor thing, sorry your vacation is ruined by the need to parent. Maybe when you realize life isnít all about you then you can enjoy your kids.

I have a 4 year old and twin 2 year olds and we have taken several trips with them and yes they can challenging but I have great memories from all of them.
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You're late bruh - I already claimed moral superiority in the first reply.

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I don't know if any of you guys have been to Cedar Point on Lake Erie. We did have some nice 3-4 days of vacation at Cedar Point. Typically we would tell the kid(s) to meet us at a specific place in the park at a specific time. They could go off and do their thing and we could go ride the coasters. It gave the kids a sense of their parents not hanging around and they could pretty much do whatever they wanted. Now that everyone has cell phones it would not be even easier to let them go do their own thing.
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OP, wait til you have multiple kids all playing in house baseball, tournament baseball, football, basketball, tournament basketball. And each one having tournaments at the same time, but in different locations and all the sports overlap. Lol. Not to mention coaching two of their baseball teams at the same time.

For 13 years, the only folks I interacted with outside of work was the other team parents and coaches.

So does it get easier? Ha !!!

But nothing's worse than when they're all grown up and out of the house

But grandkids sure are a blast !!!
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Now you know why people put in pools
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Originally Posted by Brad1 View Post
OP, wait til you have multiple kids all playing in house baseball, tournament baseball, football, basketball, tournament basketball. And each one having tournaments at the same time, but in different locations and all the sports overlap. Lol. Not to mention coaching two of their baseball teams at the same time.

For 13 years, the only folks I interacted with outside of work was the other team parents and coaches.

So does it get easier? Ha !!!

But nothing's worse than when they're all grown up and out of the house

But grandkids sure are a blast !!!
Exactly.
Your whole life......becomes getting your kids where they need to be. Every day. Once my oldest started competitive play.......for next 10 yrs.....our lives were only there to support kids . No hunting, very little fishing, very little anything but their sports. All year around.

All of a sudden when theyre gone......nothing to do. Then your life revolves around when they come to visit or when you go visit them.

It was really great having the kids home from college /grad school , taking their courses online for several months earlier this year.

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I'll take the other side here. We pushed travel early and often. Both kids had passports before a year old. Sure the activities were adjusted, but the little things were still fun, and the memories are there. I don't want nannies and grandparents tagging along on my family trips, but that's just me. So my wife and I figured it out.

At 3 and 5 my kids are pros. They have "iPads" (cheap Amazon tablets) they only get on planes, they like the same stuff we do, and they're troopers. Of course they have their moments.

Same thing with boat...pushed it early and often. The first year sucked. But they got acclimated. Put 220 miles on boat last weekend with fam over four days, on Monday as Im dragging myself to work the youngest stopped me, asked if we could take the boat out later on.



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Originally Posted by mbb View Post
Exactly.
Your whole life......becomes getting your kids where they need to be. Every day. Once my oldest started competitive play.......for next 10 yrs.....our lives were only there to support kids . No hunting, very little fishing, very little anything but their sports. All year around.

All of a sudden when theyre gone......nothing to do. Then your life revolves around when they come to visit or when you go visit them.

It was really great having the kids home from college /grad school , taking their courses online for several months earlier this year.
I remember telling myself during those years that I would miss them when they are gone. Yeah, the real early years are hard, but I barely remember all the hard stuff. My X hated being a mom and a wife. She was miserable. She finally moved out so it was just myself and the 4 kids. Sports, big meals, school events, always kids in the house. I loved it all and miss it. I bought a waterfront house when I was young and could barely afford it but it allowed us to fish all the time. Miss those days. My youngest is a junior in high school this year, and the his older siblings are in college and/or working now.

To the OP, try and change your mind set. You should be enjoying this time, even when it is hard. Sorry if that is called claiming moral authority as someone else keeps claiming but you need to hear it and will be better if you listen to some of the "moral authority" posts. Good luck and hope you enjoy the rest of the vacation! If you can't enjoy it hopefully your kids do.
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I have four kids. It was exhausting but great time.
2 -3 beach vacations per year.
I used to make 6-8 trips to the beach carrying stuff each day, better be in decent shape.

Wife and I always tag teamed.

I would wake at 5 am, fish till 9am and set up beach stuff.
I would go back and make breakfast and bring kids to beach for 3-4 hours with wife.
I would take kids back from 12ish to 2:30 at house, naps lunch.
She would love the 2 hours of no kids at beach.
We would joint take care of kids from 2;30ish to 5 on beach.( happy hours always started at 3)

A little me time on the beach was always necessary.
I rarely made it up past 9:30 PM.
Good luck, it was all worth it.
Split it up as best you can, with some joint care time thrown in.
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To the OP, try and change your mind set. You should be enjoying this time, even when it is hard. Sorry if that is called claiming moral authority as someone else keeps claiming but you need to hear it and will be better if you listen to some of the "moral authority" posts. Good luck and hope you enjoy the rest of the vacation! If you can't enjoy it hopefully your kids do.
Absolutely. I guess I wasnít expecting the little one to be as difficult as she is; however, I had no reason to expect any differently. (Sheís not that difficult actually. Sheís been pretty good. Itís just the timing/frequency of her naps.)

I took a deep breath yesterday morning and hit the mental reset, and I had a much better day. Just took it as it came. The in-laws that are with me are struggling a lot with 2 similar aged kids as ours. The husband canít/wonít hit that mental reset and is trying to vacation as normal. They are both pretty irritated. Iím thankful for the comments here as it reminded me that this vacation isnít about me and itís not the same as it used to be. Itís a trip more than a vacation.
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Absolutely. I guess I wasnít expecting the little one to be as difficult as she is; however, I had no reason to expect any differently. (Sheís not that difficult actually. Sheís been pretty good. Itís just the timing/frequency of her naps.)

I took a deep breath yesterday morning and hit the mental reset, and I had a much better day. Just took it as it came. The in-laws that are with me are struggling a lot with 2 similar aged kids as ours. The husband canít/wonít hit that mental reset and is trying to vacation as normal. They are both pretty irritated. Iím thankful for the comments here as it reminded me that this vacation isnít about me and itís not the same as it used to be. Itís a trip more than a vacation.
No reason at all the kid has to nap indoors. Ger them adjusted to napping outside, just with shade.
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I remember telling myself during those years that I would miss them when they are gone. Yeah, the real early years are hard, but I barely remember all the hard stuff. My X hated being a mom and a wife. She was miserable. She finally moved out so it was just myself and the 4 kids. Sports, big meals, school events, always kids in the house. I loved it all and miss it. I bought a waterfront house when I was young and could barely afford it but it allowed us to fish all the time. Miss those days. My youngest is a junior in high school this year, and the his older siblings are in college and/or working now.

To the OP, try and change your mind set. You should be enjoying this time, even when it is hard. Sorry if that is called claiming moral authority as someone else keeps claiming but you need to hear it and will be better if you listen to some of the "moral authority" posts. Good luck and hope you enjoy the rest of the vacation! If you can't enjoy it hopefully your kids do.
I don't disagree with you at all...my comments are tongue in cheek because typical of ThT, folks always ride in on their high horses to jump down someone's ass. Yes, the OP needs to change his mindset and man up, be parent, etc. But as you know and as we all know, it's much more difficult than that. Little kids are a joy, and they are a pain. Mostly a joy, but when things aren't going well...yes, you do feel like packing up and going home. And in the moment it is very frustrating, especially after all that's been going on this year, to finally get away to reset and still be stressed.

Completely agree though, requires a mindset shift. After our first big vacation with the kids last year my wife looked me in the eye and said "you expected way too much out of this". She was 110% correct. The ones since have still been challenging, but it's all worth it when you're playing on the beach at sunrise with your 1 and 3 year old.

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Absolutely. I guess I wasnít expecting the little one to be as difficult as she is; however, I had no reason to expect any differently. (Sheís not that difficult actually. Sheís been pretty good. Itís just the timing/frequency of her naps.)

I took a deep breath yesterday morning and hit the mental reset, and I had a much better day. Just took it as it came. The in-laws that are with me are struggling a lot with 2 similar aged kids as ours. The husband canít/wonít hit that mental reset and is trying to vacation as normal. They are both pretty irritated. Iím thankful for the comments here as it reminded me that this vacation isnít about me and itís not the same as it used to be. Itís a trip more than a vacation.
That's good to hear...it's hard to watch someone else struggle but also reassuring in a sense because...well, we all know. Basically I assume throughout the day that there's going to be at least one meltdown, and I have to try and remain calm because it usually means they're hungry or need a nap.

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No reason at all the kid has to nap indoors. Ger them adjusted to napping outside, just with shade.
This. Cheat code for us was the golf cart a few weeks back. I'd load both boys up and go riding around and they'd be OUT. For as long as I cared to ride around and look at the hotties.
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Yíall making it real hard to ever want a kid
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Originally Posted by autobaun70 View Post
No reason at all the kid has to nap indoors. Ger them adjusted to napping outside, just with shade.
I donít disagree with this, but itís awfully hot and these white sand beaches are kinda rough on the little ones.
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Originally Posted by CalypsoNotch93 View Post
Yíall making it real hard to ever want a kid
lol! I can understand this. However, I will say that they are worth it. Holidays take on new meanings, and watching them learn and grow is rewarding. Certain things are a lot harder for sure.

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