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Old 08-17-2020, 08:02 AM
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Two of the threads we have going got me thinking about how we were raised. We were raised to be polite, yes ma’am , no sir, thank you, sorry, please, may I, etc. We ate as a family at home mostly and were not excused until everyone was done. That wasn’t a problem for us because we enjoyed hanging around each other. We were spanked and punished when we deserved it. We were expected to do our best in school and to work after school in our family business. My parents tried to bring us on vacation every few years. We all had chores to do at home. My parents attended church on Sundays but rarely brought us. As I reached my teenage years, they gave their lives to God and started making us go to church.

Fast forward to today. We raised our children pretty much the same way as we were raised. We taught them to be responsible, respectful, humble and caring. Be bold but not arrogant. Take care of your things and your family. Work hard to get everything you need and want. Be a blessing to others and allow others to bless you. They know how to keep house, inside and out, how to cook homemade meals, and manage their money, The boys were taught to be the protector of their family. They all love to fish and hunt, to gather together as a family, and just enjoy the little things in life. Above all else they were taught to love God and put him first. They all strayed from God at one point in life but they have all made their own choice to come back to him and to tell others about his love. We are no where near perfect and have had trying times but we always pulled together and help each other through whatever is going on in life. They are now passing this down to their children. We were their parents as they were growing up, now we are still their parents but we are also their friends and confidants. Life can have its ups and downs but over all we are blessed as life is good!

Good day to you all.
Old 08-17-2020, 08:42 AM
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Raised on a couple devil-dog farms, by one of the true Walking Dead...those that know can surmise how I grew up.
Mine are budding teens (both girls) and while I'm not as strict on them, I believe they're better prepared than most; camping, fishing, respect for all (until shown disrespect), don't start a fight, but end one, intervene for those who need help (if they didn't have it coming), etc..
Some of their social circles require my attention from time to time; the funny thing is, those kids come from homes I wouldn't expect to have to worry about, but here we are.

...dinner the other night:
11yr old gets up for a refill and 13yr old asks her, "can you get me a glass too, please?".
11yr old reply ( a lil snarky), "yes, I can, but..."
13yr old pauses for a sec and replies, "will you please get me a glass?"
Both pre-AP, do chores around the house (I don't mow anymore) for allowance, post sleep-over reviews from other parents are good, etc...
I feel we're doing ok.

now ask me how my cousins are doing with theirs...
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I don't have kids so all I can comment on is my niece and nephews and what I see. My parents did not let us get away with much, we had to say please, thank you, if we did something dumb and got hurt after we were safe we would get into trouble for being dumb. My parents instilled 'the look' into us were all they had to do was flash the look and we knew that we better knock whatever we were doing off. We had to go to church, hold down jobs as soon as we were old enough to work, do chores around the house, knew better than to ask for anything outside of Christmas or birthdays, had to eat our dinner or go to be hungry and adults were always right.

That did not carry over to the next generation. For whatever reason, my sister is the total opposite. I can sum it up in one story. They are at a restaurant with my father, my nephew as always is being the loudest most distracting kid in the restaurant. My dad says to him something along the line of 'This is not really the kind of restaurant you can be noise in" and immediately my brother in law chines in in front of my nephew saying, "yes it is, its fine". The kids are never in the wrong, in order to pacify my nephew in public at a restaurant he gets an iPad or some $10-$15 Lego set from target to play with. Its beyond lazy. I am sure it takes effort to instill good behavior into kids and I don't see that. What I see is them constantly taking the path of least resistance. And if you question them about it, forget it.
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I would NEVER EVER raise a child the way I was raised! And because of that is why I was never involved in raising my three daughters.
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Not everyone had that smooth, memory-making childhood is what I think he's saying.
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I totally get that. There are a few things we don’t do that our parents did. But we made the choice to change what we thought was wrong. Yes know we have made some mistakes tasing our kids and hopefully our kids won’t make the same mistakes we did.
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I totally get that. There are a few things we don’t do that our parents did. But we made the choice to change what we thought was wrong. Yes know we have made some mistakes tasing our kids and hopefully our kids won’t make the same mistakes we did.
yeah. unfortunately tasing is frowned upon these days....
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I totally get that. There are a few things we don’t do that our parents did. But we made the choice to change what we thought was wrong. Yes know we have made some mistakes tasing our kids and hopefully our kids won’t make the same mistakes we did.
I was never afforded the luxury of "it was only a few things" I wouldn't do that my parents did.
My best recourse of actions was to abstain from the evils that was bread into me. It has not been easy to be the one that has to hurt but I know that is better then hurting the ones I love.
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Originally Posted by eman6501 View Post
Not everyone had that smooth, memory-making childhood is what I think he's saying.
this...

I have a flat spot on the back of my skull from the repeated knuckle thunks. Why hit a little kid in the head?
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What my dad and I chugged beers all day until one of us dropped.
the law would be all over me these days I did what my parents did!!!!!
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I was raised by wolves. I'm definitely going a different route. Although one of the big bright spots in my childhood was access to books; we had lots and I went to the library a lot.

I have a much larger book collection, though, so access to books is going to be even better. That's the only thing I think I'm continuing, albeit in an improved manner.
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No I was raised on a farm and used as slave labor starting at about age 6. My father never did anything with me, and I mean nothing.
My son and I bike, snow ski,paddleboard,disc golf and surf behind our boat together.
im raising him totally different.
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Originally Posted by savedbygrace6868 View Post
As I reached my teenage years, they gave their lives to God and started making us go to church
My condolences, forced feeding of a superstitious belief system on an impressionable young mind...gott mit uns. The only difference between a Shite Muslim and a Baptist is geography.




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What my dad and I chugged beers all day until one of us dropped.
the law would be all over me these days I did what my parents did!!!!!
Haha reminds me of a job I did a few years ago. My crew shows up at 8am to start working. Dad and son are there on top of my guys all morning. By 9:30am they break out a 30pack of Bud. By 1pm dad is hammered and abusive, son is 1/2 in the bag. Police called. Ended up completing 85% of the job and left the materials to finish and walked away with the full check.


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