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Old 08-15-2020, 06:39 PM
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Has several stay with us this summer. STRANGE EATING HABITS, SOME ONLY EAT ONE THING, they all eat in a hurry and mom barely makes it to the table by time they are gone back to their room and video game. how about you???

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No grandkids yet but I've heard and read that this kind of behavior is running rampant.

Lazy and thoughtless parents.
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Quit asking them to pluck your ear hairs or cut your toenails and they may stick around the table a bit longer....
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Basic manners are that they don’t leave the table until everyone is done eating / dinner is over, and depending on how old they are, they should be taking their plate to the kitchen and helping to clean up. If they need to leave the table early, they should ask and receive permission to be excused.
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Nope, we eat as a family and remain at the table enjoying each other’s company afterwards. Guess we are just old school.

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My dad has this struggle with my sister. Kids have no manners and my dad is like WTF but if he says anything she goes off like a rocket so he just lets it be.

Absolutely disgusting how lazy and guilt ridden parents are today. Most of them are raising little narcissistic a-holes because they are too lazy and guilt ridden to put their foot down.
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My kids clean the kitchen. I finish eating and retire to the couch to unbutton my pants. They then clean then pots, pans, dishes and countertops.
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I have two kids, age 6 & 4. My brother has two kids, age 9 & 10. His family and mine spent last weekend with my mom and dad.

His two either inhale, pick-at, or refuse their serving, then dash-away to play. Mine eat their serving, knowing if they donít finish, thereís nothing different, no desert, and nothing more until breakfast. They stay at the table until excused, as well.

My two picked up some other bad manners from their older cousins last weekend as well. Itís taken all week since to drill it out of them.
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Originally Posted by The Peddler View Post
I have two kids, age 6 & 4. My brother has two kids, age 9 & 10. His family and mine spent last weekend with my mom and dad.

His two either inhale, pick-at, or refuse their serving, then dash-away to play. Mine eat their serving, knowing if they donít finish, thereís nothing different, no desert, and nothing more until breakfast. They stay at the table until excused, as well.

My two picked up some other bad manners from their older cousins last weekend as well. Itís taken all week since to drill it out of them.
When our kids tried the " I am not eating that", their plate went back in the fridge with saran wrap on it. It came out for breakfast the following day. Had to do that a couple of times with my son, daughter got it on the first try. All we asked is that try their food, and mac&cheese and chicken nuggets wasnt going to cut it for every meal. Every meal was always a well balanced meal. Now they will try anything, and have got us to try new things too. Now that they are adults, they eat balanced meals and aren't overweight.
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I'm 64 my brother is 60 years old. My mother was a amazing Southern cook. We ate everything at dinner. And yes we wanted to get up and leave, but it was to go outside and play before it got dark not hibernate in our rooms.
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My dad has this struggle with my sister. Kids have no manners and my dad is like WTF but if he says anything she goes off like a rocket so he just lets it be.

Absolutely disgusting how lazy and guilt ridden parents are today. Most of them are raising little narcissistic a-holes because they are too lazy and guilt ridden to put their foot down.
I would add weak to that also. Nobody has a set of balls anymore.
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I hear it can be pretty bad thank God my kids were never into video games. Now early 30s I don't think they've ever owned a video game since they were children.
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I would add weak to that also. Nobody has a set of balls anymore.

Nothing drives me more crazy then when I see negotiating and deal making with the kids.

When I was a kid the only deal was if you didnít do what Dad said then itís wasnt going to be nice for me.
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Basic manners are that they donít leave the table until everyone is done eating / dinner is over, and depending on how old they are, they should be taking their plate to the kitchen and helping to clean up. If they need to leave the table early, they should ask and receive permission to be excused.
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Nope, we eat as a family and remain at the table enjoying each otherís company afterwards. Guess we are just9ld school.
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When our kids tried the " I am not eating that", their plate went back in the fridge with saran wrap on it. It came out for breakfast the following day. Had to do that a couple of times with my son, daughter got it on the first try. All we asked is that try their food, and mac&cheese and chicken nuggets wasnt going to cut it for every meal. Every meal was always a well balanced meal. Now they will try anything, and have got us to try new things too. Now that they are adults, they eat balanced meals and aren't overweight.


OP and ALL others struggling with kids bad behavior at the dinner table.

Follow these three quotes and you will be well on your way to raising great kids who will come to understand that food is not about reward, nor a crutch, nor a emotional support mechanism but just plain old gas for the bodies engine.
These folks know how to do it right!
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My kids clean the kitchen. I finish eating and retire to the couch to unbutton my pants. They then clean then pots, pans, dishes and countertops.
same. Our boys are now 18-24 and they've been clearing the table/doing dishes since the youngest was 4-5 yrs old. We eat together an avg of 5 nights a week with no TV/electronics what-so-ever and are often still sitting there 20 minutes after everyone finished eating. Before the boys were driving age we'd often find a few other boys over the house for dinner.......I'd put the regulars to work clearing the table or taking out the trash too. It's a habit my wife got them into since babies and good for them too!
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We struggle with this. I have two boys 7 and 3. The 7 yr old is a A complete pain in the ass with food. The 3 yr old eats anything in front of him and even shit he shouldnít eat. My wife is continually negotiating with the 7 year old. We went to food/ texture therapy with him when he was younger. It was a mess. He eats like 5 things. During dinner last week she was asking him to try something. I lost my shit. I said if he isnít going to eat let him ****ing starve.

he finished his dinner. Iím not proud of losing my temper but enough is enough.

Long story. Iím fighting the PC game against my wife. So far we are 50/50.
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We struggle with this. I have two boys 7 and 3. The 7 yr old is a A complete pain in the ass with food. The 3 yr old eats anything in front of him and even shit he shouldnít eat. My wife is continually negotiating with the 7 year old. We went to food/ texture therapy with him when he was younger. It was a mess. He eats like 5 things. During dinner last week she was asking him to try something. I lost my shit. I said if he isnít going to eat let him ****ing starve.

he finished his dinner. Iím not proud of losing my temper but enough is enough.

Long story. Iím fighting the PC game against my wife. So far we are 50/50.
Sometimes you have to lose your shit withkids to the point that they kinda worry what dad mite be capable of. A friend of mine and 2 teenage kids thag were arguing at the dinner table and wouldn' shut up so he stood up and flipped the dinner table over food and all. He then took his wife's hand and told the kids we will be on the front porch when you get this mess cleaned up.
I never had to do anything like that but my adult kids think dads just a little crazy. I pretty well had the bluff on them growing up and never really did anything but they knew I was capable.
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When grand kids were small we taught them that dinner time was 100% family time. We would always sit together say grace with clean hands and any other kid was welcome subject to their parent knowing. We talked and knew what went on through the day. As kids grew we stayed the course. Cell phones entered the picture. I placed a big bowel outside dinning area where phones would go. Mine went in first. During meal no acess to anyones phone. Parents did not like this and it took kids a while to teach parents that phones were not to disturbed the dinner hour. Business calls text from other kids whatever was secondary to the other people you were sharing your time with. There is one exception to phone use at dinner and that is a group picture at end before clean up. All kids love this and communication is open and free to all. Parents would screw this up at their house but ours never changed. These kids now are corporate leaders, administrators at colleges, lawyers, military, school teachers. They and their friends stay multiple times a year with us. They all text email pictures to us and we are involved in their lives. Kids and friends. We still eat together, say grace while holding hands and cell phones are placed outside the dining area. They now talk about that rule and how over the years it was one of the consitances they new was important. They now get it that your time with family and friends in your presence is a priority that you must have in your life. Parents excuse themselves to take a very important call at dinner and the look on the kids face and to each other tells the story. Teach them young they are to precious to bail on. Parents lose control of kids when they teach them what no and yes is. Negotiate never on this or they will control you in a short time. Just a old white head grandfather with grandkids that he loves.
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I was raised by my step mom and my dad lived at the house too. She raised me completely differently from my 1/2 bro and two 1/2 sisters (her kids). I had to clean my plate, ask to be excused, then say "I enjoyed it" before I got up. I always had a curfew, 11pm was the latest sr yr of hs. They were not required to do any of that. I always thought (knew) she was mean to me and raised them with love. Bro has never been married, 2 sis' have each been divorced and are now married again with kids. Myself and my adult kids are more successful than those 3.

Smart parents think ahead, consider the consequences, and plan for the future. Dumb parents do none of that and want to be friends with their kids. Sadly, my 1/2 siblings got their moms brains.
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Eating habits are learned.

Feed your kid MacNuggets and Kraft-Box-O-Crap, and that's what they eat.

However, fair warning - having come back from vacation and my kids are getting bigger... when you go out to dinner and the kids want the duck breast and the seafood stew -- the check would have been smaller if they were MacNugget kids. LOL.

Sorry man. But this one is on upbringing.

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