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Old 08-12-2020, 03:11 AM
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We never know what goes through folks minds but yesterday I went to the funeral home, long time HS friend (and client ) lost a beautiful 23 yr old daughter who took her own life Saturday evening

You never know the reasons for something like this(My Dad was a Baptist Minister for 50+ yrs and said hard for some people to realize others can not snap out of depression and suicidal issues no matter how much help they get) but just standing in line to see them and see the anguish on the parents, families faces broke my heart

This is a top notch family and something you would never expect, still shocked from the phone call We got Sunday am telling us what had happened

Please if y’all do not mind keep this Mom, Dad, Brother/SIL, and others in your prayers tonight as they prepare for a funeral tomorrow

The Dad and I had a long hug and with tears in his eyes he looked at me said “Never thought either one of us would have to deal with something like this”.

My heart hurts for this wonderful family.


Tossed and turned again all night last night, can not get picture of these wonderful parents standing there beside their sweet daughter in a casket



Honeslty do not even know why I am posting this on here but my heart hurts so much and I have tossed and turned at night since we got the news. Just folks if you have someone that is depressed or even think there are other issues please try and get them help.
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Wow.....23
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More hugs
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Prayers and hugs, so sorry for there loss.
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We never know what goes through folks minds but yesterday I went to the funeral home, long time HS friend (and client ) lost a beautiful 23 yr old daughter who took her own life Saturday evening

You never know the reasons for something like this(My Dad was a Baptist Minister for 50+ yrs and said hard for some people to realize others can not snap out of depression and suicidal issues no matter how much help they get) but just standing in line to see them and see the anguish on the parents, families faces broke my heart

This is a top notch family and something you would never expect, still shocked from the phone call We got Sunday am telling us what had happened

Please if y’all do not mind keep this Mom, Dad, Brother/SIL, and others in your prayers tonight as they prepare for a funeral tomorrow

The Dad and I had a long hug and with tears in his eyes he looked at me said “Never thought either one of us would have to deal with something like this”.

My heart hurts for this wonderful family.


Tossed and turned again all night last night, can not get picture of these wonderful parents standing there beside their sweet daughter in a casket



Honeslty do not even know why I am posting this on here but my heart hurts so much and I have tossed and turned at night since we got the news. Just folks if you have someone that is depressed or even think there are other issues please try and get them help.
It can be very confusing. I had a boss who was pretty much loved by all and a really larger than life character who had the ability to make everybody feel like they had a special relationship with him. His son was a Lt in the Army and the Army had sent him back to school. By all indications he was successful. happy, doing well in school and nobody really saw it coming. His son took his life at 24. Apparently his son felt like a failure because he was not the "great man" his father was. Sometimes it is hard to tell. Prayers to all.
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Stay close to your friend. It can be tough to do now because you don't know what to say. Just be there to listen. Get anyone you know that knows the family to do the same thing. Make a point to check in every few days. It helps. I tell you this from experience.
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Simply tragic
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God bless I have no words that would do them justice. God speed.
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Originally Posted by tprice View Post
We never know what goes through folks minds but yesterday I went to the funeral home, long time HS friend (and client ) lost a beautiful 23 yr old daughter who took her own life Saturday evening

You never know the reasons for something like this(My Dad was a Baptist Minister for 50+ yrs and said hard for some people to realize others can not snap out of depression and suicidal issues no matter how much help they get) but just standing in line to see them and see the anguish on the parents, families faces broke my heart

This is a top notch family and something you would never expect, still shocked from the phone call We got Sunday am telling us what had happened

Please if y’all do not mind keep this Mom, Dad, Brother/SIL, and others in your prayers tonight as they prepare for a funeral tomorrow

The Dad and I had a long hug and with tears in his eyes he looked at me said “Never thought either one of us would have to deal with something like this”.

My heart hurts for this wonderful family.


Tossed and turned again all night last night, can not get picture of these wonderful parents standing there beside their sweet daughter in a casket



Honeslty do not even know why I am posting this on here but my heart hurts so much and I have tossed and turned at night since we got the news. Just folks if you have someone that is depressed or even think there are other issues please try and get them help.
Sorry to read this, I hope you get some rest, time will heal. Glad you were able to share this and possibly save another life.
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Sorry for your loss. Depression is a hell of a thing that is very hard to understand by those not afflicted. I think once our society normalizes depression and treats it like other emotions (happiness / sadness /anger) with associated self coping techniques to balance the emotion, then we will see some positive movement towards less scenarios like what you are living through today. Being depressed and then feeling like you are deficient because of you are depressed just compounds the situation.

It's a real tragedy someone so young, with their whole life ahead of them would choose this route. Please accept my condolences and know that you and the family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
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Just went through this with a friend of mine. His 24 year old son was a good kid. Gifted student athlete in high school and had a soccer scholarship. At age 19 he was diagnosed with schizophrenia. After a 5 year battle he took his own life about a month ago.

It still haunts me.
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I'm convinced a very large % of these are a direct result of societies complete and utter dismantling of coping skills being taught to children as well as the breakdown of the family unit.

There's always a price to pay for ignorance and self absorption, tragic our children are paying that price.

Prayers sent OP, I know what your going through and it's indescribably tough to deal with.
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very sorry for the family. it is a pain that no one should ever feel.
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Sad for the loss
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So sorry for your loss!

A year into a similar situation. Best friend's son went away to college last year and took his life after a couple of months.

He worked for me during the summer and seemed to be doing better from his mental health issues that were being treated by a professional.

What I have learned from THT (you actually do learn stuff here) members, the sons parents and others I have talked to, is that depression and mental health issues are difficult to understand to those that aren't affected by them.

As mentioned "snapping out of it" is not an option. It is also not treatable by the layman or someone that is not versed in mental health treatment. (Parents, friends, teachers, pastors, etc.) It is very specialized treatment and one size does not fit all.

Stay close with your friends, they will talk about it when they are ready. Wife and I have had some lengthy, late night talks with our friends (usually red wine involved) over their son's death. Lot of tears will be shed, lot of laughs as well remembering the good times we have shared.

While time does seem to help with the pain of losing a loved one it does nothing to really answer the questions of why someone took their life or does it stop the questions in ones head wondering if their was something I could have done to prevent this.

Be strong for those affected and be available if they want to talk about it.

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Originally Posted by Lrivenbark View Post
Stay close to your friend. It can be tough to do now because you don't know what to say. Just be there to listen. Get anyone you know that knows the family to do the same thing. Make a point to check in every few days. It helps. I tell you this from experience.
This ^^^^ x 100. Very sorry for your friend's loss. Our kids aren't supposed to go before we do.
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I'm convinced a very large % of these are a direct result of societies complete and utter dismantling of coping skills being taught to children as well as the breakdown of the family unit.

There's always a price to pay for ignorance and self absorption, tragic our children are paying that price.

Prayers sent OP, I know what your going through and it's indescribably tough to deal with.
You do not understand depression. There doesn't have to be a reason.
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Sincere condolences to the families affected by this tragedy. They will hopefully get the support they need from their community. No one in this situation should think they are too strong to need help. When the time is right, suggesting professional help would be appropriate. (PM if I can offer any help or guidance.)
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So sorry to hear about this young lady. I will keep her family and you in my prayers. We lost my brother at the age of 23. That was 30 years ago. My parents never got over it. My mom always would say that she couldn’t wait to get to heaven to see my brother but about a month before she passed away, she started saying yes I want to see Randy but I really want to be with Jesus. I pray all the time that we never experience the loss of a child or grandchild.
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You do not understand depression. There doesn't have to be a reason.

I lost my entire family as a child to a drunk driver, please don't tell me i dont understand.

There's ALWAYS a reason.
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I can't even comprehend what that must be like, my thoughts to the family.

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