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Old 06-01-2020, 08:24 PM
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At some point all dads are buried I suppose. I'm not here to gripe,or say it's unfair, or look for sympathy. Maybe it's my state of mind, but I am over the top pissed... inside. Dad had Dimentia for a long time. Near the end, in February, with low O2 levels, congestive HF, UTI's... so on so forth I was not allowed to see him. COVID. I'm not pissed about that. Yes it hurt but he didn't know me anymore. I remember him as a man. A great man. I wish we could have talked and talked but that ended years ago, out of either of our control.
I am angry I couldnt stand by his grave site while they buried him today, had to watch from a distance. I am angry a proper burial could not be had with family and friends beside him as he ventured onto his next journey. I can't be mad at COVID for this though... There is nothing to blame.
I am pissed because today, I drove through a cemetary where thousands upon thousands of others who fought to preserve the unalienable rights and freedoms the great USA provide us have been buried before him... have been indirectly disrespected, stepped on, and spat on, by the actions of certain people around our country this week.
These people defacing our monuments, our sacrifices, our constitution cant be American can they? This is is an absolute terrorist act by these people. I support my Preisdent of the United States in ending the bullshit. I support and will do anything I need to do as an American for our constitution.
I want to go sit by my dad's grave site and protect what he stands for, and the other fellow Americans that bravely gave their lives who lay beside him in section 411 and across the entire Florida National Cemetary stand for. Just think someone will think I'm a little crazy for protecting grave sites with my gun and my dog.
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Sorry about your Dad..
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Sorry for your loss.
Old 06-01-2020, 08:32 PM
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I may be wrong, but I like to think that almost all who have ever defaced, damaged or disrespected any grave or memorial, especially for those who served, eventually realize and regret their stupidity. Sorry about your dad.
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So sorry for the loss of your dad....Been 10 years for me and I still miss not being able to call him or mom... My brother, who I was close to, died in March... I am the last of my family...sucks..

Your dad would be proud of both your thoughts and concern for him and his brothers...obviously you were brought up right... Your anger means you care!!

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Sincere condolences on your loss.

My mother's older brother died in March and they are yet to be able to have a service. He was a Naval pilot - used to fly LC 130s into Antarctica and McMurdo Station - before becoming a commercial pilot. No military funerals at this point. And when they do, it will be at a distance, with only small groups at a time allowed to pass the casket.

Again, sorry for your loss.
It gets easier with time. It never gets better, but it does get easier over time.
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Sorry for your loss, losing your parents is weird, they have been there since day one....miss mine every day....
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sorry for your loss, and I can see why your angry. prayers for you all!
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I'm very sorry you lost your Dad and certainly can understand your frustration.
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Sorry for your loss, parents is one that takes the longest to get over.

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I'm sorry. Did you see someone defacing your father's grave? Or anyone else's grave? If so, I am with you.

But remember this: "... fought to preserve the unalienable rights and freedoms...". It is something I clipped from your post and applies to everyone regardless of their station in life. I swore to defend that when I joined the military. That is truly American. Never forget that, no matter how difficult that may seem at the time.
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Sorry for your loss
Agree with you...........this disrespect is a disgrace and an insult to all Americans, especially those who serve.
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Sorry to hear about your dad. When you find yourself thinking about him, think about some of the good times. It helps.
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My father was a WW2 Navy vet for the duration. He is buried in a local VA cemetery. He was always a good guy with wide acceptance for others' viewpoints. If someone stepped on his grave and stole a tiny flag from it, I really doubt he would be upset much. He was that kind of guy, the kind we need right now. He had gone through so many more important events during his service, this would pale in comparison.
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Today the reverence of a grave is no more. They get walked on and markers overturned. It is the new generation of those that don't care.
Sorry for your loss
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So sorry for your loss.
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Very sorry for your loss. I find when I visit my father's grave sight, alone with him, is the most quality time we can spend in his after life.
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Sorry about your loss, lost my Dad 10 yrs ago this October and still miss him something terrible but way I look at it Dad had a great life and died at 82 1/2 yrs old with a quick illness. He touched so many lives when he was here I still have people come up to me and tell how he changed their life


Still Father’s Day is always hardest day of year but I have memories that last a lifetime

Again Sorry for your loss
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Very sorry for your loss. I know my time for this is coming. Sooner than I want. My dad 93, still sharp as a tack but body failing him. I hope you find peace.

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