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Old 01-14-2020, 10:17 AM
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After the recent surge in cold cases being solved from DNA testing, I thought about this:

Letís say a man does the DNA test and finds out he has a child he didnít know about. Then could the mother sue for back child support? I am guessing it could happen. Would there be a difference if the child was an adult now? Or would it matter?
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A slight difference here.
Guy I worked with some years back had a Daughter with his wife and later divorced, child support payments ordered by the courts, payments deducted from his paycheck.
Years later the child became ill and needed blood transfusion from a matched/family source, he volunteered and was informed by the Doctors that no way was that child his.

Armed with this information he returned to the courts to terminate the child support payments and was informed by the Judge that he is the only Father the child as known and the payment will continue until she is eighteen.
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How does it work now days with all the house-husbands?
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Originally Posted by TheRealMacGyver View Post
After the recent surge in cold cases being solved from DNA testing, I thought about this:

Letís say a man does the DNA test and finds out he has a child he didnít know about. Then could the mother sue for back child support? I am guessing it could happen. Would there be a difference if the child was an adult now? Or would it matter?
tough call as to how that would play out! i think one big factor would be did the mother attempt to track down the father. if she spent her life trying then maybe, if she shacked up with a new man and let it ride and the kid is now 18 less likely!
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Originally Posted by Reel 007 View Post
A slight difference here.
Guy I worked with some years back had a Daughter with his wife and later divorced, child support payments ordered by the courts, payments deducted from his paycheck.
Years later the child became ill and needed blood transfusion from a matched/family source, he volunteered and was informed by the Doctors that no way was that child his.

Armed with this information he returned to the courts to terminate the child support payments and was informed by the Judge that he is the only Father the child as known and the payment will continue until she is eighteen.
That is some serious BS right there . I would be telling HO momma she had better find real dad and look for the checks there .... Cant imagine the gut punch that would be for that "dad"
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I have a buddy paying child support for a kid that isn't his. He has one with the mother, and she had one prior to their meeting. Screwed up situation IMO. Judges justification was that he was keeping up the kid while they were married. Real dad is a deadbeat.
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Originally Posted by autobaun70 View Post
I have a buddy paying child support for a kid that isn't his. He has one with the mother, and she had one prior to their meeting. Screwed up situation IMO. Judges justification was that he was keeping up the kid while they were married. Real dad is a deadbeat.
That is screwed up as well . But in your buddies case at least he knew who was and wasn't his kid . (still sucks) but in other scenario dude thought he was the dad all that time and paying like a dad would/should and then gets the kick in the nuts it wasn't his kid after all ... ughhh that pisses me off . Cant imagine his anger level .
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Originally Posted by Reel 007 View Post
A slight difference here.
Guy I worked with some years back had a Daughter with his wife and later divorced, child support payments ordered by the courts, payments deducted from his paycheck.
Years later the child became ill and needed blood transfusion from a matched/family source, he volunteered and was informed by the Doctors that no way was that child his.

Armed with this information he returned to the courts to terminate the child support payments and was informed by the Judge that he is the only Father the child as known and the payment will continue until she is eighteen.

same thing happened to a co worker I know. Had a court order reinforced to continue paying even though he was not the paternal father. He was devastated by the news after 12 years without knowing. Then come to find out the wretched wife kept the truth from him.
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Originally Posted by reelin in the keys View Post
That is screwed up as well . But in your buddies case at least he knew who was and wasn't his kid . (still sucks) but in other scenario dude thought he was the dad all that time and paying like a dad would/should and then gets the kick in the nuts it wasn't his kid after all ... ughhh that pisses me off . Cant imagine his anger level .
Yep. Most dumbass part of the whole thing is he has no parental rights to the 2nd kid he's paying for. Joint custody for their kid together, just the bill for the other kid. Can't even do stuff like take him fishing or other stuff. Both are boys and about 3 years apart. Ex could allow it...but won't.....just to be a witch.
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Originally Posted by autobaun70 View Post
Yep. Most dumbass part of the whole thing is he has no parental rights to the 2nd kid he's paying for. Joint custody for their kid together, just the bill for the other kid. Can't even do stuff like take him fishing or other stuff. Both are boys and about 3 years apart. Ex could allow it...but won't.....just to be a witch.
Bitches be crazy .....I mean witches
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Originally Posted by reelin in the keys View Post
That is some serious BS right there . I would be telling HO momma she had better find real dad and look for the checks there .... Cant imagine the gut punch that would be for that "dad"
Courts position will always be what's in the best interest of the child.

In this case, it's making sure the kid has food and clothes. Biology is not the only definition of fatherhood.
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Originally Posted by MattGoose View Post
Courts position will always be what's in the best interest of the child.

In this case, it's making sure the kid has food and clothes. Biology is not the only definition of fatherhood.
Then tell the dead beat sperm donor to pony up for food and cloths and tell the mom to stop being a whore while we are at it .
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Originally Posted by reelin in the keys View Post
Then tell the dead beat sperm donor to pony up for food and cloths and tell the mom to stop being a whore while we are at it .
Great, well thought out idea.

What happens to the kid in the meantime? You want to go find the guy and sub him in for you? Great. But the courts don't have the resources for any of that.

Man up.
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May vary depending on state but two of my friends were told support starts from the date the suit is filed.
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Originally Posted by MattGoose View Post
Great, well thought out idea.

What happens to the kid in the meantime? You want to go find the guy and sub him in for you? Great. But the courts don't have the resources for any of that.

Man up.
Not gonna argue with you . I hear your point and its valid that the kids well being is first and foremost no doubt about it . And if my wife told me tonight my 15 year old daughter wasn't mine I would still love my "daughter" and want the best for her . BUT imagine the devastation of such news and then to pour salt in the wound knowing some other dude is out there somewhere trolling in his yellowfin because he "missed out" on all the child support payments you have been making for him . Sucky situation for "dad" no matter how you slice it .
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Similar to others, I had a friend that was married and had a kid. 2 years later his wife admits the kid isn't his. Friend files for divorce immediately. During the divorce the judge ordered my friend to pay child support unless the real paternal father would. I guess the wife told the real father, and the real father started picking up the tab.

My friend got very lucky.
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Originally Posted by MattGoose View Post
Great, well thought out idea.

What happens to the kid in the meantime? You want to go find the guy and sub him in for you? Great. But the courts don't have the resources for any of that.

Man up.

​​​​​​​That's the really screwed up part......in this case the ex has no lack of $. He just has a lot more. She's just bitter than he makes basically triple what she does without any special degrees. She's so bitter than she would rather hire a sitter while she goes out than let him stay with her ex and little brother, but has no problem cashing those child support checks.
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Dude will get screwed, maybe not after they are 18 but somehow the dude always loses in this case. The courts do not care, if there is someone that can pony up the money to support a kid his or not they will make him do it.
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Originally Posted by reelin in the keys View Post
Not gonna argue with you . I hear your point and its valid that the kids well being is first and foremost no doubt about it . And if my wife told me tonight my 15 year old daughter wasn't mine I would still love my "daughter" and want the best for her . BUT imagine the devastation of such news and then to pour salt in the wound knowing some other dude is out there somewhere trolling in his yellowfin because he "missed out" on all the child support payments you have been making for him . Sucky situation for "dad" no matter how you slice it .
This statement I can live with

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