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Old 01-14-2020, 12:16 PM
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Originally Posted by Reel 007 View Post
A slight difference here.
Guy I worked with some years back had a Daughter with his wife and later divorced, child support payments ordered by the courts, payments deducted from his paycheck.
Years later the child became ill and needed blood transfusion from a matched/family source, he volunteered and was informed by the Doctors that no way was that child his.

Armed with this information he returned to the courts to terminate the child support payments and was informed by the Judge that he is the only Father the child as known and the payment will continue until she is eighteen.
Was this in Louisiana? VERY different laws there.
Old 01-14-2020, 12:22 PM
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Originally Posted by Gary999 View Post
Was this in Louisiana? VERY different laws there.
County of Los Angeles, California.
Old 01-14-2020, 12:44 PM
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I guess it's always a possibility. especially if you know that 23 and me is a sister company of labcorp. Labcorp processes all of our child support dna tests.
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BE THE DAD !
My wife had been divorced 2 years when we met. She had The 8yo and 2 other kids 17and 20 Two years later I married the mom. She had court ordered child support. I think around 150 a month. Dad would take his kid out to eat about once every 3 to 4 months. He always ask her to pay because the child support was breaking him. That was all he did with her. At 15 we gave her the child support card to spend how she wanted. When she turned 18 her dad ask for the support to stop. We agreed and the kid gave him the card with 1800 $ still on it.
That kid was special. I treated her and raised her like she was my own. On her 25th birthday my wife and I were taking the Kid out to eat. We stopped at her place to pick her up and see her new apartment. After looking around the Kid handed me a card and said open this. There was a letter inside. It said you have always treated me like you were my dad. Will you adopt me. I have a lawyer set up for tonight and I will pay all the fees. I love you and want to be able to take care of you. Even the judge cried at the adoption.
Old 01-14-2020, 01:05 PM
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Originally Posted by jugislandrelic View Post
BE THE DAD !
My wife had been divorced 2 years when we met. She had The 8yo and 2 other kids 17and 20 Two years later I married the mom. She had court ordered child support. I think around 150 a month. Dad would take his kid out to eat about once every 3 to 4 months. He always ask her to pay because the child support was breaking him. That was all he did with her. At 15 we gave her the child support card to spend how she wanted. When she turned 18 her dad ask for the support to stop. We agreed and the kid gave him the card with 1800 $ still on it.
That kid was special. I treated her and raised her like she was my own. On her 25th birthday my wife and I were taking the Kid out to eat. We stopped at her place to pick her up and see her new apartment. After looking around the Kid handed me a card and said open this. There was a letter inside. It said you have always treated me like you were my dad. Will you adopt me. I have a lawyer set up for tonight and I will pay all the fees. I love you and want to be able to take care of you. Even the judge cried at the adoption.
Damn is all I can say.
Old 01-14-2020, 01:40 PM
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Originally Posted by jugislandrelic View Post
BE THE DAD !
My wife had been divorced 2 years when we met. She had The 8yo and 2 other kids 17and 20 Two years later I married the mom. She had court ordered child support. I think around 150 a month. Dad would take his kid out to eat about once every 3 to 4 months. He always ask her to pay because the child support was breaking him. That was all he did with her. At 15 we gave her the child support card to spend how she wanted. When she turned 18 her dad ask for the support to stop. We agreed and the kid gave him the card with 1800 $ still on it.
That kid was special. I treated her and raised her like she was my own. On her 25th birthday my wife and I were taking the Kid out to eat. We stopped at her place to pick her up and see her new apartment. After looking around the Kid handed me a card and said open this. There was a letter inside. It said you have always treated me like you were my dad. Will you adopt me. I have a lawyer set up for tonight and I will pay all the fees. I love you and want to be able to take care of you. Even the judge cried at the adoption.

good for you!

except the situation present did not go into it knowing what you knew! they were blind sided and kicked in the nuts, then kicked in the nuts!

have you ever had a kick in the nuts after a kick in the nuts?
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Originally Posted by Rolandt03 View Post
good for you!

except the situation present did not go into it knowing what you knew! they were blind sided and kicked in the nuts, then kicked in the nuts!

have you ever had a kick in the nuts after a kick in the nuts?
and at a minimum, some parental rights should come along with being the surrogate checkbook
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Originally Posted by jugislandrelic View Post
BE THE DAD !
My wife had been divorced 2 years when we met. She had The 8yo and 2 other kids 17and 20 Two years later I married the mom. She had court ordered child support. I think around 150 a month. Dad would take his kid out to eat about once every 3 to 4 months. He always ask her to pay because the child support was breaking him. That was all he did with her. At 15 we gave her the child support card to spend how she wanted. When she turned 18 her dad ask for the support to stop. We agreed and the kid gave him the card with 1800 $ still on it.
That kid was special. I treated her and raised her like she was my own. On her 25th birthday my wife and I were taking the Kid out to eat. We stopped at her place to pick her up and see her new apartment. After looking around the Kid handed me a card and said open this. There was a letter inside. It said you have always treated me like you were my dad. Will you adopt me. I have a lawyer set up for tonight and I will pay all the fees. I love you and want to be able to take care of you. Even the judge cried at the adoption.
Damn, these onions I am dicing up here are really strong! Dude, that is just awesome, enjoy that feeling, sounds like you deserve it.
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Originally Posted by jugislandrelic View Post
BE THE DAD !
My wife had been divorced 2 years when we met. She had The 8yo and 2 other kids 17and 20 Two years later I married the mom. She had court ordered child support. I think around 150 a month. Dad would take his kid out to eat about once every 3 to 4 months. He always ask her to pay because the child support was breaking him. That was all he did with her. At 15 we gave her the child support card to spend how she wanted. When she turned 18 her dad ask for the support to stop. We agreed and the kid gave him the card with 1800 $ still on it.
That kid was special. I treated her and raised her like she was my own. On her 25th birthday my wife and I were taking the Kid out to eat. We stopped at her place to pick her up and see her new apartment. After looking around the Kid handed me a card and said open this. There was a letter inside. It said you have always treated me like you were my dad. Will you adopt me. I have a lawyer set up for tonight and I will pay all the fees. I love you and want to be able to take care of you. Even the judge cried at the adoption.
Where the hell is the like button at?

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Originally Posted by Reel 007 View Post
A slight difference here.
Guy I worked with some years back had a Daughter with his wife and later divorced, child support payments ordered by the courts, payments deducted from his paycheck.
Years later the child became ill and needed blood transfusion from a matched/family source, he volunteered and was informed by the Doctors that no way was that child his.

Armed with this information he returned to the courts to terminate the child support payments and was informed by the Judge that he is the only Father the child as known and the payment will continue until she is eighteen.
I know someone who had a similar issue and had the same result. The court ignored the test results and said he was the legal parent.
Old 01-14-2020, 03:49 PM
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Originally Posted by mikefloyd View Post
I know someone who had a similar issue and had the same result. The court ignored the test results and said he was the legal parent.
In NC if married when the child was conceived, the husband is the legal father. I see it all of the time. Legal father vs biological father issue.
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Originally Posted by reelin in the keys View Post
Not gonna argue with you . I hear your point and its valid that the kids well being is first and foremost no doubt about it . And if my wife told me tonight my 15 year old daughter wasn't mine I would still love my "daughter" and want the best for her . BUT imagine the devastation of such news and then to pour salt in the wound knowing some other dude is out there somewhere trolling in his yellowfin because he "missed out" on all the child support payments you have been making for him . Sucky situation for "dad" no matter how you slice it .
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Very well said....
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Lady in our town many years ago was married, had kids and wanted no more children. She had a tubal ligation. A year later she had a child.
She sued everybody involved because she claimed the baby was an unnecessary and unwanted life.

I hate judges, and the legal system they administer even more. I am beyond cynicism when it comes to "martial, spousal, divorce etc" anything. The law pretty much always screws the male.......

.....except in this case. The judge, when confronted with asking to award damages because a child was born actually stood tall. He awarded $0.00 in damages.
The value of a human life is not a burden, nor is it a hardship. It is a blessing beyond belief. Imagine what the child would have had to live with if a price was ever awarded and the child was deemed as the source of damages?
Condoms fail. Tubal's fail. Vasectomies fail. Birth control pills and measures fail. That's the way it is and always will be.

I think women that have children by other men when married should spend 8 hrs each day in a pillory in the public square for as long as the child is under 18. If they can round up the sperm donor, he should get the same reward. Rotten tomato's and veggies should be freely available to all bystanders. Then they can go home and fornicate all they wish during the other 16 hrs.

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my neighbor did a ancestry DNA test and then paid for her brother to have one only to find out he was a half brother and they also had another brother... really shook up the family tree
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Originally Posted by Midnight Runner View Post
my neighbor did a ancestry DNA test and then paid for her brother to have one only to find out he was a half brother and they also had another brother... really shook up the family tree

It just made it more full...

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Originally Posted by jugislandrelic View Post
BE THE DAD !
My wife had been divorced 2 years when we met. She had The 8yo and 2 other kids 17and 20 Two years later I married the mom. She had court ordered child support. I think around 150 a month. Dad would take his kid out to eat about once every 3 to 4 months. He always ask her to pay because the child support was breaking him. That was all he did with her. At 15 we gave her the child support card to spend how she wanted. When she turned 18 her dad ask for the support to stop. We agreed and the kid gave him the card with 1800 $ still on it.
That kid was special. I treated her and raised her like she was my own. On her 25th birthday my wife and I were taking the Kid out to eat. We stopped at her place to pick her up and see her new apartment. After looking around the Kid handed me a card and said open this. There was a letter inside. It said you have always treated me like you were my dad. Will you adopt me. I have a lawyer set up for tonight and I will pay all the fees. I love you and want to be able to take care of you. Even the judge cried at the adoption.
To each their own, but no way, no how, would I ever take on parental responsibilities for a kid I did not father.
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Find a good lawyer. Period.
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My buddy said the definition of child support is a screwing you get for a screwing you got.

No matter the circumstances the biological father should be the one footing the bill. It is the responsible thing to do.
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Originally Posted by R Days View Post
My buddy said the definition of child support is a screwing you get for a screwing you got.

No matter the circumstances the biological father should be the one footing the bill. It is the responsible thing to do.
Not debating that. But lets say you are 58, take the DNA test and find out that a one night stand you had when you were 18 produced a child. That child is now 40. That in itself would be enough to make your head spin. But then, let’s say the mother of this child is very poor and realized you are wealthy. She goes to an attorney to see about getting money from you for raising that child. Any chance something like this could go to court and decide backpay to the mother?
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Originally Posted by TheRealMacGyver View Post
Not debating that. But lets say you are 58, take the DNA test and find out that a one night stand you had when you were 18 produced a child. That child is now 40. That in itself would be enough to make your head spin. But then, let’s say the mother of this child is very poor and realized you are wealthy. She goes to an attorney to see about getting money from you for raising that child. Any chance something like this could go to court and decide backpay to the mother?
I do not think once they are 18 it is enforceable.
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the kid might be able to get inheritance from your estate tho

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