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Old 11-26-2019, 12:07 PM
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As we contemplate retirement and a move from a 4500sf house to a small house or condo on the coast I have started to get rid of "stuff". The coffee cans of nuts and bolts type stuff doesn't bother me. The problem arises with "family" stuff. 6th generation iron bed, rusted as hell, 5th generation dining room set but veneer and not valuable,

Several guns including a Browning 16ga my dad shot a bobcat with at age 12 in Canada around 1948, solid rib, Belgium made, pre-sweet 16 era. Plus the mounted bobcat. Seriously.

On top of all my stuff, my mother us still with us at 80 and in great health. She has another 4000sf of antiques and other family stuff plus a 1500sf storage shed full. Her stuff does have more resale value.

Wills/trusts are in place and it all winds up with my 2 sons. Sons are 29 and 27, one married with a baby. No college loans and both have houses that we gave them the down payment for. Both are doing well career wise.

My problem is the family heirlooms/junk. A french 1800's settee is not very desirable these days. A 1930 maple veneer dining room set isn't either.

The irrevocable family trust ends 30 years after my 2 sons become the donees. They are already looking at extending it. It basically consists of 6th generation 1000 continuous acres and a modern 2br 2ba house on a 10 acre lake. They appreciate the family legacy greatly.

So, I do not want to overwhelm my kids with worthless junk but do not want to dispose of family keepsakes. Where is the balance? This is in SE Alabama.

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Can’t take it with you. If your kids don’t want it ,sell what you can and get a dumpster for the rest.
its only “ stuff”
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I'd fall in your sons category at 31. Unfortunately, most our age don't value "old stuff." However, I certainly do if it's worthy of being valued and feel like I'm in a unique category for the generation for keeping a lot of it around. Have a 3 bed house and every bed is a full size, one a great aunt's and one my mom's furniture from when she was a kid. Dining table and 2 benches, both very recent, but built by the girlfriends grandfather. Porch furniture is from my great-grandfather and about time to strip and repaint. Classic blue and white china in the cabinet. The guns are all at home together still.

I'd say let them go through and pick what they want and sell the rest. As stated, can't force it on them and can only hope they value to important or more memorable items.
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I'll take the 16 gauge browning off your hands...............heck I'll take the mounted feline beast along with it.

You know, just like a good forum friend would.
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The less stuff the better. I left my parents house 30 years ago, and whatever I wanted/needed I've gotten. It will probably be the same for your kids. No one wants 50+ years of Christmas decorations. Don't make them deal with your crap. Get rid of it now.
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Don’t sell family guns. I have a safe full of nice collectibles. The most cherished of the bunch are a beat to hell and back ithica 37 that was my granddads, and a Remington 121 .22 pump that was his as well. Not just his, but I learned to shoot on it. Dove opener every year its in my hands and gets passed around the field to uncles and cousins who want a turn with grandads gun.

He was the classic old guy with one shotgun. And as long as he could see well, could shoot the thing.

even if your boys have no interest in them now they will someday.
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When my mom passed (years after my father) she had tons of stuff. Most of it was important or sentimental to her, not me (only child). I gave most of the stuff to a charity, and tossed her old photo albums that were full of people that I never knew (after keeping a few of her and family that I recognized). She had bank and tax records going back over 30 years!
I found that it's almost impossible to get rid of 1500 books..............but of course, you have to look through everyone first!!

Get rid of the crap ("heirlooms") that no ones wants ASAP.

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Originally Posted by Gary999 View Post
Her stuff does have more resale value.
Then sell it, though I suspect you'll find in the end it does not have much value.

Keep a few special items that are smaller and easily moved (gun, etc.). Trash or donate the rest.

People move on. Society changes. Would you really truly want to inherit some random piece of furniture from your family from the 1800's, or would you prefer something more modern and fitting with the rest of your decor?

That "stuff" you have is getting less valuable by the day. Time to get rid of it.
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We have 3600 sq ft of stuff. My son does not want it. I feel sorry for him when we are gone he will have to deal with it. I have no problem getting rid of it my wife on the other hand will not turn loose of it .
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It’s just stuff. You still have the memories without the tangible stuff. Have your kids go through it now. Mark what they want. Maybe reserve a couple cool things in case there are grandkids. Ditch the rest.

I told my folks I had no interest in their crap. Either they get rid of it and spend any money made or i would sell the lot for pennies.
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If you've got any old radios let me know...….

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How about a remington nylon 66.
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Let the kids come pick out what they want, they might have a completely different idea of what's worth keeping. Then get rid of the rest.
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After Katrina I saw allot of expensive stuff just piled up on front lawns as far as the eye could see.
its just stuff......
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I've got probably 10-12 shotguns, rifles and pistols that I've inherited from my father who passed away back in '97. I have no use for them; I have one shotgun, one rifle and one pistol; they are more then I ever really shoot. What do i do with old guns that weren't very valuable when new? I won;t give them away, but I'd sell them.

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Don’t sell family guns. I have a safe full of nice collectibles. The most cherished of the bunch are a beat to hell and back ithica 37 that was my granddads, and a Remington 121 .22 pump that was his as well. Not just his, but I learned to shoot on it. Dove opener every year its in my hands and gets passed around the field to uncles and cousins who want a turn with grandads gun.

He was the classic old guy with one shotgun. And as long as he could see well, could shoot the thing.

even if your boys have no interest in them now they will someday.
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This sounds like my mothers house; she is 83 and we are planning for her to move somewhere that's smaller, one story and easier to deal with next year. I don't want any of that stuff--neither do my siblings. I just want it all to go away. We're talking about an estate sale now...not sure if there is a better way to get rid of it all.

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Then sell it, though I suspect you'll find in the end it does not have much value.

Keep a few special items that are smaller and easily moved (gun, etc.). Trash or donate the rest.

People move on. Society changes. Would you really truly want to inherit some random piece of furniture from your family from the 1800's, or would you prefer something more modern and fitting with the rest of your decor?

That "stuff" you have is getting less valuable by the day. Time to get rid of it.
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Originally Posted by leadsled View Post
How about a remington nylon 66.
I have one that was my Dad's. My older son has one his uncle gave him for his birthday. By birthday I mean the day he was born less a week to get the date engraved. Younger son got a 10/22 also engraved.

Makes sense to keep all except a couple of guns. A Sears French MAS 90 surplus doesn't do it for me. Never fired. Small scratches from being repeatedly dropped.

Things like a big English beveled mirror double door armoire that breaks down to 4 pieces with no screws has me hurting. Plus 2 other armoires. Bought in the mid 80's.

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Let the kids come pick out what they want, they might have a completely different idea of what's worth keeping. Then get rid of the rest.
They still have shit here from high school.....
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We are all biodegrading as we age every day

Such is life ~ It does eventually end

No need for pyramids to try and save it for the afterlife

Until then have as much fun as you can & don't sweat the small stuff

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Originally Posted by alligatorgar View Post
After Katrina I saw allot of expensive stuff just piled up on front lawns as far as the eye could see.
its just stuff......
My home place and family home next door flooded in 1990. We threw stuff away that I still kick myself about.

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