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Old 11-24-2019, 11:56 AM
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Dr. Phil ???
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Old 11-24-2019, 12:02 PM
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Originally Posted by wiscoarborist View Post
We all view stuff like this thru the prism of our own eyes...our morals our lives and experiences...

30 + years ago I drank away my young family. At the time I didn't think I had much choice.... She had "the upgrade" set before I was out of the house. I went from a nice lake home to a rooming house.

Fast forward....I haven't had a drink in over 20 years. I'm financially OK (or a little better). I have the respect of a large group of friends as well as respect in my profession. I own my own home and get to spend a good part of my winter as a snowbird...But my wife of 14 years has gained (at least) 80lbs since we got married and I ain't been laid in 4 or 5 years. She's seriously out of shape and unattractive...Meanwhile I am in great physical shape - especially for my age - and get offers for sex regularly. It'd be nice...But somehow when I quit drinking I gained a conscience. Here's a few things that stop me from seriously entertaining the idea even when it's a blatant invitation from a good looking woman who doesn't care that I'm married...: 1) it would hurt my wife terribly. 2) it's WRONG. 3) I can't afford to start over again. There isn't the time either. 4) I LIKE my lifestyle,reputation and the respect I've earned. 5) Jacking off is quick,easy and risk free.

In other words,I really REALLY appreciate what I have even though it isn't everything I wish it was. I'm grateful for what I have and where I am in life.

At one point I found I was getting closer to cheating. Instead I went back to school part time. Started going to church. Bought a motorcycle....and started making a point of "being of service" other people

OP - you deserve to lose much of what you have but unfortunately that also entails others being hurt. I hope - for the sake of your wife and children - that this ends without the crash-and-burn you've earned....You are goddamned ungrateful for what you have (had?) and risked it all for more.

Drink,or "illicit" extramarital sex - succombing to either has been the ruin to a lot of men.
Who are you to pass judgement on who should lose what and who deserve what.
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Old 11-24-2019, 12:03 PM
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Originally Posted by dssmith View Post
You are a narcissist. You only care about yourself, and not your children.
You are below scum.

My wife had a father exactly like you. His behavior forever affected her negatively. He too left his family for a "family friend." My wife was 13 at the time.

May you rot in hell.
^^^^^^^^^^ your -snip-

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Old 11-24-2019, 12:03 PM
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Originally Posted by Mpellet View Post
This is OPs 1st and only post and you take it seriously?

Time for me to open up a real estate franchise specializing in selling ocean front property in Kansas....








It may well be a BS story, but it is a 2nd account, not hard to do.
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Old 11-24-2019, 12:05 PM
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Originally Posted by Unknown_user View Post
trust me. Not like I was looking for this.
it kinda ended up in my lap ; literally.

they were in the lifestyle. Not anymore. But we still get together.
she only wants to be with me - and him ... and he says the same
Seriously???

YOU were the one that wrote "I text her and took a shot and threw out a questionable text...."

YOU are the one responsible for this, don't kid yourself or lie to others.

May as well have said "The devil made me do it!!"
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Old 11-24-2019, 12:12 PM
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Originally Posted by Reel 007 View Post
Who are you to pass judgement on who should lose what and who deserve what.
meh, not really judgement...

its typically what happens when you bang yer dock mate... and her hubby.
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Old 11-24-2019, 12:13 PM
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Take a large metal spike and drive it through your wife and kids hearts...its not about you anymore, much, much bigger....
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Old 11-24-2019, 12:16 PM
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Originally Posted by Unknown_user View Post
I know the RIGHT thing to do.
but my heart now feels otherwise.
I guess it’s because I feel something when I talk and see and hang out w her.
I guess I feel needed and wanted and loved ...

her husband knows something is up w feelings, and feels threatened by me. But loves the friendship we have.
just last night we hung out and went to dinner (and that was it) and I went home.
wife doesn’t know I went w THEM... but knew I went out w friends from work

we (the 3 of us text) together. And then me and her text separately.

shit we’re good friends that MY WIFE invited them to my kids first birthday party out with our family !

ill continue to answer questions.


trust me. I know I am wrong 1000000%
but.....
Here comes some tough love...... Man up and end it or Man up and get divorced. This is the EXACT same situation my Dad pulled when I was in middle school. Families vacationed together, went out on the boat together, her daughter babysat me while they went out.......on and on.

You will get caught.

And it may be one of your kids that catches you. I caught my Dad, I was 13. How'd you like to explain that to your kids? Wake up call, I GUARANTEE they already suspect something.

I'm in my late 30s now, I've forgiven my Dad but it took a long time. I have never forgotten though.
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Old 11-24-2019, 12:23 PM
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She's on the prowl now / wants out . Cut everything off and stand back and watch how long it takes for another guy to take your place , your being used ... dummy .


Watch this over and over again .
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Old 11-24-2019, 12:25 PM
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Lots of "holier than thou" asshats on this thread.

Wish the OP would not have been banned/deleted.
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Old 11-24-2019, 12:33 PM
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I did read a few of the replies. Not nearly all of them. I have been down this road. It is a beautiful new paved highway where 100 mph. won't even slow you down. Everything is exciting and fun. Top speed is a rush.
This runs out of gas. The price of gas at this point is more than you can afford for most.
I have been down this road. It is a very rocky road compared to that 100 mph highway when it first started.
For some, it will be a good move. For others, it will be a disaster.
That trip down to the Y, is gonna cost you big time !
Remember this. Women have a sixth sense. They are able to detect things that males are unable to. Just watch a hunting dog when he or she is on a scent. Ain't no stopping them ! They Will sniff you out, and you will PAY !!!
Experience speaking here.
If I had one of those things between my legs, I would surely be a millionaire !!!
Just my opinion of course.
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Old 11-24-2019, 12:44 PM
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Drama queens!
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Old 11-24-2019, 12:44 PM
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Originally Posted by dssmith View Post
You are a narcissist. You only care about yourself, and not your children.
You are below scum.

My wife had a father exactly like you. His behavior forever affected her negatively. He too left his family for a "family friend." My wife was 13 at the time.

May you rot in hell.
Pretty much this... selfish is the ONLY way to describe it. Pathetic and sad and the people being hurt are the ones you claim to love the most. I have ZERO respect for a cheater.
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It's great now but the first 6 mo- 1year always is. When the thrill is over and it gets down to day to day and who u can trust it will fizzle. I get it u enjoy it now, but now is not reality. If u left ur wife and went with this woman u might have soem fun for another year at tops then it will implode and you'll regret ur decision to leave. Ease ur way out then end it.
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Old 11-24-2019, 12:46 PM
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Wait, I can’t be the only one confused. Are you banging her, him, or both of them?
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Old 11-24-2019, 12:49 PM
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Originally Posted by burningdaylight View Post
Lots of "holier than thou" asshats on this thread.

Wish the OP would not have been banned/deleted.
Consider me as one of the holier than thou.
Child abusers; those indifferent to the psychological and mental well being of their kids, and their "friends/sycophants/enablers" can enjoy their time with each other in hell.
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Old 11-24-2019, 12:49 PM
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So hold up you are banging her and her husband?
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cuck·old
/ˈkəkəld,ˈkəkōld/

noun
  1. a man whose wife is sexually unfaithful, often regarded as an object of derision.
    "jokes in literature about elderly cuckolds and misers are rife"

verb
  1. (of a man) make (another man) a cuckold by having a sexual relationship with his wife.
    "in the novel Humberto cuckolds his employer"
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Old 11-24-2019, 12:52 PM
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Originally Posted by Reel 007 View Post
Who are you to pass judgement on who should lose what and who deserve what.
I'm human. I'm judgmental….And I'm almost always right.
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Originally Posted by dssmith View Post
Consider me as one of the holier than thou.
Child abusers; those indifferent to the psychological and mental well being of their kids, and their "friends/sycophants/enablers" can enjoy their time with each other in hell.
Well I guess you’d first have to believe in Hell to even remotely agree with you.
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