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Old 11-24-2019, 10:16 AM
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You are in too deep to drop out now, keep going till the bottom drops out, brace yourself for the storm, then figure out how to pick-up the pieces.
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Old 11-24-2019, 10:16 AM
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Originally Posted by Gullpt View Post
Just wait till the first time your making passionate love to her and suddenly there’s a knock on your back door.
Right out fuking loud!
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Old 11-24-2019, 10:17 AM
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She's just bored and your are her toy . Don't believe her when she tells you she loves you , she said the same thing to her husband . In the end you will lose , maybe everything , and she will win .

RUN while you can ... she is poison and you are a weak idiot who has lost perspective .
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Old 11-24-2019, 10:20 AM
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Curious if the real person behind the OP has signed in with their real name - And then posted any "don't do it" comments to throw anyone off their trail ...

Just a thought

Me - I don't care what you do - Not the last temptation either even if you cut this game short
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Old 11-24-2019, 10:26 AM
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Or ~ The OP knows the group here & wanted to start a sexy romance novel thread to watch everyone pontificate how amoral & sinful it all is just for laughs
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Old 11-24-2019, 10:32 AM
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Mike,


you gotta either, end it and separate and untangle everything, or include both your wife and her husband and then it will just slow down the inevitable explosion and costly life lesson
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Old 11-24-2019, 10:34 AM
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Anyone else figure the other guy has been banging OP’s wife for months too?
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Old 11-24-2019, 10:36 AM
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trust me. Not like I was looking for this.
it kinda ended up in my lap ; literally.
they were in the lifestyle. Not anymore. But we still get together.
she only wants to be with me - and him ... and he says the same
"Lifestyle" meaning swingers?
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Old 11-24-2019, 10:42 AM
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Well this has been fun,, will the real OP please stand up!
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Old 11-24-2019, 10:47 AM
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I know the RIGHT thing to do.
but my heart now feels otherwise.
I guess it’s because I feel something when I talk and see and hang out w her.
I guess I feel needed and wanted and loved ...

her husband knows something is up w feelings, and feels threatened by me. But loves the friendship we have.
just last night we hung out and went to dinner (and that was it) and I went home.
wife doesn’t know I went w THEM... but knew I went out w friends from work

we (the 3 of us text) together. And then me and her text separately.

shit we’re good friends that MY WIFE invited them to my kids first birthday party out with our family !

ill continue to answer questions.


trust me. I know I am wrong 1000000%
but.....


If you think your heart feels something now, just wait til what your wallets gonna feel. Stop while your ahead.
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Old 11-24-2019, 10:47 AM
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Originally Posted by Unknown_user View Post

trust me. Not like I was looking for this.
it kinda ended up in my lap ; literally.
they were in the lifestyle. Not anymore. But we still get together.
she only wants to be with me - and him ... and he says the same
You made the conscious decision to get into this relationship instead of nipping it in the bud at the start and now your asking for advise on what to do in dockside chat!!! what do you think was going to happen??? Marriage is all about TRUST in your partner and your actions have betrayed your wife & family's trust in you, your marriage is OVER and sooner or later your wife is going to find out about this and take you to the cleaners and how do you think your children are going to feel about dad's actions? A good man does not act upon immoral thoughts.
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Let me see if I understand. You think you are in love with a woman who cheats on a husband who thinks (thought?) she was in love with him? Meanwhile, you have a wife at home who loves you and thinks you also love her? You also have children you love and don't want to lose?

Is it really that hard to figure out what you should do? Start thinking with the big head.
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Mike,


you gotta either, end it and separate and untangle everything, or include both your wife and her husband and then it will just slow down the inevitable explosion and costly life lesson
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Well this has been fun,, will the real OP please stand up!
I'm going with Mike
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Old 11-24-2019, 10:55 AM
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Well this has been fun,, will the real OP please stand up!
Well if he does then he'll have to play the Kemper game to be part of this action.
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I hope the op has transitional assets at the ready.
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Old 11-24-2019, 11:07 AM
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Only seed money
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Old 11-24-2019, 11:09 AM
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alimony and child support knock a big dent in a life style
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I am not “me”
I am someone else on here. But no way am I going to put myself

I am married with 2 kids
I started a new job about a year ago and started to talk to a vendor I use
it was light and airy at first “hey I need something for this issue, can you help” or something along those lines.
Primarily text back and forth about work
I text her and took a shot and threw out a questionable text - something along the lines of “well I can come down to you , it’d be nice to get out of the office and see you especially “

well. Fast forward about a year.
Our FAMILIES are friends (they moved their boat to the marina I am at), I helped them sell their old boat. And assisted in buying a new boat.
arranged a lot of all that ..
we have hung out multiple times - but the 3 of us (her , I AND her husband)

the 3 of us have gotten together a lot love the year.
ejther after work, going away for a night to the boat alone etc. or even going out to dinner at the marina (with their family, and my family ). Put my wife and kids to bed and go over their boat and have some fun.

Gets even better - we both love each other.
I’ve thought about leaving my wife and kids but not fair to them at all (the kids) and she wouldn’t leave her family

I don’t know what to do. Just ride the wave I guess.
but. It’s deep and getting deeper.


and. No. No photos or names
Get therapy immediately, like tomorrow. There’s a reason this is happening and you need to get at that reason before you destroy two families.

Also, how is the screen name “unknown user” available?! It’s great!
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trust me. Not like I was looking for this.
it kinda ended up in my lap ; literally.
they were in the lifestyle. Not anymore. But we still get together.
she only wants to be with me - and him ... and he says the same
You are lying to yourself. You were looking for this. That is why you sent her texts and pursued her. This did not fall in your lap. This doesn't seem that bad in your mind because you are telling yourself a fantasy. How will you feel when your exwife, her boyfriend and your kids are out on your previous boat for a nice weekend getaway? Will your new friend and her husband let you tag along on their boat or just have you stop by when it's fun? Are you ready to decide which holiday you get to spend with the kids? they will eventually know what happened and that you picked a fantasy over them. this is just a fantasy that will end in reality. Which reality do you want? The one where you and your family are out boating or the one where you hope your friends invite you.
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Old 11-24-2019, 11:26 AM
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So you are saying you go both ways?

Why did I read this?
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