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Old 10-15-2019, 08:27 AM
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The kids playing in the street thread got me to thinking about how things have changed. I grew up all over the place, different cities and more rural and such. Didn't matter where we were, we were cut loose to play outside as long as someone's parent knew generally where we were, i.e., we couldn't hop a train to another county. Seems like nowadays folks borderline get prosecuted for playing outside unsupervised. Truth is, the world is not near as dangerous as we sometimes make it out to be.
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Old 10-15-2019, 08:33 AM
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The kids playing in the street thread got me to thinking about how things have changed. I grew up all over the place, different cities and more rural and such. Didn't matter where we were, we were cut loose to play outside as long as someone's parent knew generally where we were, i.e., we couldn't hop a train to another county. Seems like nowadays folks borderline get prosecuted for playing outside unsupervised. Truth is, the world is not near as dangerous as we sometimes make it out to be.
I don’t have kids but I thought my new neighborhood was all older people I never saw kids playing anywhere. Found out as I’ve lived here about a year now that about half the houses have kids....

Also I watch my friends with kids and they hover over them like you wouldn’t believe. I asked my buddy about why he does that and he said they tried getting the kids roaming and they got all sorts of nasty calls and got ripped apart on neighborhood Facebook page
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We bought in our neighborhood specifically because of the ability to have kids playing outside and free roam. Nearly all the neighbors are cool and don't get pissy about kids in their yards. Big lots (acre each give or take), minimal traffic (no through traffic), kids and dogs everywhere. Not uncommon to look outside and see the neighbor kids tossing a ball to my chocolate lab or spreading out across 3 yards to have a football game.
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Old 10-15-2019, 08:38 AM
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My kids are all over the place. Always at the neighbors because they all hover and won't let them come down by us..
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I think it’s really difficult these day’s as social media piles on the pressure. My sister lives in a nice development in centeral FL. The moms get together and do nothing but worry about their kids. The last time I was down there the talk of the development was the two black kids who used the basket ball court but did not live there, the neighbor across the street from the court felt so unsafe she made her husband list the house. the other thing was the illegal hunting that was going on and worry that a kid would be mistaken for a deer and shot, this was due to finding a dead deer in the woods. I checked it out, it was hit by a car, not shot but when I told the ladies that the consensus was I was lying to calm them down.

The hens can now get together and cluck over their phones and invent a lot of drama.
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Truth is, the world is not near as dangerous as we sometimes make it out to be.
Hmmm ..... With less population of cars , people , stress/pace and no outlets of ridiculous idea's to try out (instant avail media ie ... " Saw this on You Tube " ) chances of serious accidents were probably less in older days but with the communication blanket we live under plus advances in Medicine and response time today is safer when accidents occur . Probably even . Best thing for kids is to stay together and travel in packs like it always has been .
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We pretty regularly let our toddler walk across our neighbors backyard to go see our other neighbors horses, and hell ride his trike all around their driveways.

But today is nothing like it used to be because of social media. Growing up I rode my dirt bike all over the place, just had to be home for supper.

Like Lorne said, it's the damn hens a peckin' that causes most of the issues!

We've gotten many comments about our toddler like "he must not be your first". No he is...we are just aware that a strange dog licking him in the face or eating directly off the table at a restaurant ain't gonna kill him.
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Here's mine free ranging, sometimes I feel sorry for him not having any kids other than school to play with but he makes due. B

etween the woods and farm animals he's happy.
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Old 10-15-2019, 08:49 AM
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Originally Posted by autobaun70 View Post
We bought in our neighborhood specifically because of the ability to have kids playing outside and free roam. Nearly all the neighbors are cool and don't get pissy about kids in their yards. Big lots (acre each give or take), minimal traffic (no through traffic), kids and dogs everywhere. Not uncommon to look outside and see the neighbor kids tossing a ball to my chocolate lab or spreading out across 3 yards to have a football game.
That is awesome.
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We pretty regularly let our toddler walk across our neighbors backyard to go see our other neighbors horses, and hell ride his trike all around their driveways.

But today is nothing like it used to be because of social media. Growing up I rode my dirt bike all over the place, just had to be home for supper.

Like Lorne said, it's the damn hens a peckin' that causes most of the issues!

We've gotten many comments about our toddler like "he must not be your first". No he is...we are just aware that a strange dog licking him in the face or eating directly off the table at a restaurant ain't gonna kill him.
Yep, that was really the only rule...be home for supper. And we and sometimes friends too wanted to be home for supper because a) we were hungry after running around outside all day long and b) it was damn good homecooked food. Still miss that tuna noodle casserole!
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people focus on the negative and the news feeds off that. When I was in elementary school one kid wanted to run away so he jumped on the train, he fell and his leg was amputated. From then on we were lectured every year in school about the dangers of a train. 1000 kids in my middle school and everyone had to be taught about the dangers of a train. Then all the little towns around us started teaching their kids about the danger of trains.. I know kids who werent even allowed to cross the tracks without an adult because of this. Complete insanity.
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Old 10-15-2019, 09:21 AM
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When I was a kid, we were all over. We lived on our bikes (our main form of transportation). Same deal as NCSUboater, we just had to be home for dinner.
I also let my kids roam free just as I did. As long as they didn't leave the state, I was fine. Mine didn't get cellphones until their 18th birthday, so I was not a helicopter parent by any means. I wanted my kids to have the same experience as I did as a kid. No regrets here. Worked out fine for me and mine.
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I feel like the kids of this generation have been robbed. My kids are growing up with freedom outdoors, but it's not easy. Did any of us go to school with cops walking the halls with rifles, get calls about "threats" and so on...sucks. I can only remember the drug dog walking the halls checking lockers. Kids don't even have lockers anymore. All the crap starts on social and leaks back to the school and they have to take every case as a legit threat.

My kids HS has had a handful of these "increased presence" robocalls come to my phone and they just got to the first report card. Gotta let the kids live, but it's definitely in the back of your mind with all the mental/social issues in our country.
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Old 10-15-2019, 09:41 AM
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The kids playing in the street thread got me to thinking about how things have changed. I grew up all over the place, different cities and more rural and such. Didn't matter where we were, we were cut loose to play outside as long as someone's parent knew generally where we were, i.e., we couldn't hop a train to another county. Seems like nowadays folks borderline get prosecuted for playing outside unsupervised. Truth is, the world is not near as dangerous as we sometimes make it out to be.
I think there's a combination of issues that muddy the water a bit.
1) Our parents weren't perfect. They did make some stupid mistakes, but no one will admit that. Not everything was better back then, but some things definitely were.
2) The world was more dangerous back then. We have a lot of safety mechanisms in place now that weren't there growing up. No one wore a bike helmet when I was a kid. I survived fine, but there were also more traumatic brain injuries back then.
3) The world is a smaller place, and things get sensationalized. I overheard someone saying that vaping was the biggest health risk we have today. Yes, there was ONE person in Massachusetts that died from vaping this year, but 80,000 people in the US die for diabetes each year. But which one makes the news here? Vaping.
4) The more you protect kids, the more vulnerable they become. While this appears to conflict with #2, it really doesn't. You need to let kids go out and do their own thing, make their own decisions, and gain their own experience. By keeping them in a bubble, they have no clue how to deal with problems. So later on when something comes up, they have no idea how to react to it.
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Pretty simple....do your chores...do them right...ask if your mom needs any help...then get out till the street lights come on...and dont blow up anything....like that mailbox next plat over last year...you guys did
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Growing up my stomping grounds was generally a 3 mile radius in any direction with the exception of 15 miles.
We never said where we were going, other than outside and generally didn't even do that. My parents issue was trying to keep us inside.
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The kids playing in the street thread got me to thinking about how things have changed. I grew up all over the place, different cities and more rural and such. Didn't matter where we were, we were cut loose to play outside as long as someone's parent knew generally where we were, i.e., we couldn't hop a train to another county. Seems like nowadays folks borderline get prosecuted for playing outside unsupervised. Truth is, the world is not near as dangerous as we sometimes make it out to be.
Lol. We did hop trains as kids. Grew up near a railyard and used jump onto the ladder on the side of box cars as they were leaving the railyard. Jumping off was the fun part !!!

BTW, our parents had no clue we were doing that.
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We were free range children growing up.
In reference to the hop a train comment. We had a train track one block over, one of the kids in the hood decided it was a good idea to hop on a freight car while the train was switching cars at the local brick yard. he was in New Orleans (65 miles) before they got to all the right people.
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My kids are "free range". We live in a small development surrounded by open farm lands and two branches of a small river. All houses on 3+ acres...

They have the run of the neighborhood and the woods surrounding - about 3 miles of trails along the rivers.

My 8 Y.O. son is out of the house from just about sun up to sun down. Free to jump on his little CRF50 and roam the trails. My girls are more homebodies by choice, but they are free to roam and explore.

Be home by dark, check in every so often so we know your alive.

Some places we would get a visit from the sheriff for this.
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