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Accidentally leaving your kid in the car - Had a bad scare this evening

Old 10-11-2019, 08:23 PM
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I have twin 8 year old daughters. Both are autistic, one more so than the other. She's verbal, but struggles with complex sentences. However her reading and writing skills are fantastic. She actually read The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe a few weeks ago and was telling us about it.

We went out for pizza for dinner and then came home. We have a Honda Ridgeline, and my wife had put the pizza in the trunk area in the back, and I had some hunting supplies in the bed.

We get home and I was walking out to my dad's house which is behind our house, to talk to him for a few. My wife was going to get the kids out of the car and inside and put the pizza up.

I tell my one daughter (the more autistic one) to get out on her sisters side, because if she gets out on my side because of how short our drive way is, she has to walk out in the street, and she's rather oblivious and I don't like her walking into the street.

I get out and walk back to dad's house. Wife gets out, opens the back passenger side door for the kids, and struggles getting the pizzas because of my junk in the bed. She assumes both kids had gotten out and gone inside.

We have the child safety locks enabled because the daughter in question here also has tried to open the door while we're going down the road.

Wife closes the back passenger door assuming both kids had gotten out and gone inside.

15 minutes later I walk back from dad's and half way there the car alarm starts going off. I run inside and grab my keys and turn it off, and assumed one of the kids had been messing with them (not the first time).

My wife is going hunting with me tomorrow, so after that we spend about an hour in the backyard doing some target practice with her bow.

I walk back around to the garage to put the bow up, and I see my daughter in the back seat of the truck. W.T.F. I yell at my wife and ask her why the kids in the truck. She says "she's not, their both in their rooms on their computers."

No. She is definitely not.

The windows are pretty heavily tinted, which is why I'd not seen her the first time when the alarm went off. I didn't get close enough to see her in there.

So, she'd been locked in the back seat for at least 90 minutes.

All I can do is be thankful it wasn't hot like earlier in the week.

We brought both kids back outside and taught them that if that ever happens again, that they can climb up to the front seat and open the door, and how to honk the horn for attention.

What absolutely breaks my heart is that she was crying so much that there were literally puddles in the rubber floor mats.

Luckily, all is well. I'm sure someone is going to be all "well you should have double checked the back seat!" and of course we should have, and if ifs and buts were candy and nuts we'd all have a merry Christmas.
My wife made an assumption based on the hundreds of times we'd gotten out of the vehicle and gone inside. I guess today my daughter didn't hear me tell her to get out on her sisters side, and sat there waiting on one of us to open the drivers side rear door for her.
Then, she knows not to screw around in the car so she didn't climb up front. I'm not sure what she did to set off the alarm, maybe she moved around enough to set off a motion sensor or something.

I always thought people that left their kids in the back seat were idiots, and it was so preventable. And well, here I am.

I'm posting this so hopefully someone else can learn from this mistake.
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Old 10-11-2019, 08:26 PM
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Tough deal bro. Everyone screws up. Glad it didn’t end tragically.
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Old 10-11-2019, 08:29 PM
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Our mistakes are the lessons we learn the most from.
Glad all is well, and that you both won't ever make that same mistake again.
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Old 10-11-2019, 08:35 PM
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I left my daughter at the farm supply store when she was 6. And what's worse is when I got back to my business I assumed she had fell asleep in the back seat of the truck and went back to work. Thankfully, I live in a small town and they brought her back. Moral of the story: No matter how bad you FU, someone can probably top it.
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Old 10-11-2019, 08:36 PM
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It ended badly for a guy at my work a few years ago. Tragic mistake on a hot day.
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Old 10-11-2019, 08:40 PM
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Originally Posted by CORALREEFER View Post
I left my daughter at the farm supply store when she was 6. And what's worse is when I got back to my business I assumed she had fell asleep in the back seat of the truck and went back to work. Thankfully, I live in a small town and they brought her back. Moral of the story: No matter how bad you FU, someone can probably top it.
About 4 years ago we went to a pop up camper meetup. Popupportal.com has regional meets, and we went and met up with some other campers. This was in early may but we were still having some really cold nights.

Kids went to bed about 8, and then we commenced to drinking with the other campers around a big fire. I was the only one that had actually brought firewood, we had a minivan at the time and I removed the back row of seats and packed at least a half cord of wood into that thing, I had to have been dragging on the bump stops with all that wood and towing our popup camper.

Go to bed about midnight. I'll admit, I was pretty sloshed. About 2 am I sit bolt upright in bed like I'd gotten hit by lightening. Something feels off, so I turn on the light. There is one of my daughters, in her thin pajamas and socks, with the door half way open, staring at me.

"what are you doing?"

"....going exploring."

It was maybe 25 degrees outside.

After that we got one of those cheap magnetic alarms for the door that would go off if someone opened the door.
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Old 10-11-2019, 08:45 PM
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Takes some stones to post that because you are going to get reamed by the holier than thou/Sanctimonious types...

However, mistakes happen, and this sends chills down my spine just thinking about how tore up I'd be over it. Best thing to do is shake it off, don't dwell on it, but learn from it. Everyone is safe and sound, and that's all that matters at this point.

About a month ago I pulled the boat out of the shed to do some work on it. Put truck in neutral, set parking brake (it's a manual), and hopped out to see if I'd pulled the trailer out far enough. I did, so I reached in, shut the truck off, and walked away, leaving it in neutral.

Now I know damn well the parking brake sucks on the truck and is not to be trusted, and it was on an ever-so-slight incline.

Anyway our son was playing in the shed and I walked towards the house to grab a tool (maybe 30ft away). Wife is in the garage watching him and starts screaming and running towards the truck. Parking brake gave way and it was rolling towards the ditch. I was pretty sure our son was a good ways away but I didn't have eyes on him and sheer panic set in. In the end, he was a good 50ft away and it only rolled 5 ft or so before I hopped in and stopped it, but I was messed up for a few hours.

Moral of the story is poop happens no matter how careful you are or how good of a parent you are. Learn from it and be thankful there was no damage done.
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i know for sure I'll never leave the truck in neutral again.
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Old 10-11-2019, 08:54 PM
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Takes some stones to post that because you are going to get reamed by the holier than thou/Sanctimonious types...
Yep. But I decided to post it because like I said, I always thought "no way I'd ever do that". And here I am. Its an absolutely horrible feeling. My wife cried for hours this evening thinking about how horribly it could have ended.
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Old 10-11-2019, 08:57 PM
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Originally Posted by lugoismad View Post
Yep. But I decided to post it because like I said, I always thought "no way I'd ever do that". And here I am. Its an absolutely horrible feeling. My wife cried for hours this evening thinking about how horribly it could have ended.
I get it man. I've been sitting at my desk at work and broke out into a panic because I couldn't remember dropping our son off at daycare. Then usually remembered my wife took him that day...
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Old 10-11-2019, 09:09 PM
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My fear of screwing up is probably what has kept my kids alive.
We see this stuff on the news all the time ,and wonder how someone could forget there child in the car.
With the stresses of work and life it happens.
When my kids were little any family gathering at my in-laws I spent it sitting in the back of the kitchen.
Everyone thought I was an unsociable ahole. That is until a new neighbor moved in and threw a house warming party .
Same style house as my in-laws . Everyone was having a party until one of there kids went out that door and drown in there pool.
Those people moved out right after.My Wife and all her relatives finally saw my ways!
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Nothing to add, but thank God your kids are safe.
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Old 10-11-2019, 09:52 PM
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How did you or your wife forget your children. How? I’ll ask again? How? You use this autism as an excuse but how? This is ridiculous that parents forget they have children. WTF is wrong with y’all? Our local news said the way to prevent this is to put SOMETHING IMPORTANT in th back seat with your child and I wanted to puke after hearing it. Oh ok something important like my phone or wallet or something? Seriously WTF? Something more more important than a child. Can anybody tell me what’s more important than your children? Anybody? I’m all ears on this one.
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Old 10-11-2019, 09:55 PM
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How did you or your wife forget your children. How? I’ll ask again? How? You use this autism as an excuse but how? This is ridiculous that parents forget they have children. WTF is wrong with y’all? Our local news said the way to prevent this is to put SOMETHING IMPORTANT in th back seat with your child and I wanted to puke after hearing it. Oh ok something important like my phone or wallet or something? Seriously WTF? Something more more important than a child. Can anybody tell me what’s more important than your children? Anybody? I’m all ears on this one.
Never used autism as an excuse. I said it because it explains why she stayed put in the back seat and why she didn't go up to the front and get out the front door.

I knew someone like you would be a long sooner or later. I posted this because I hoped others would learn from my mistake, as I have learned from it. But insulting me and belittling me won't make what happened any better.

We didn't "forget" our children, my wife assumed they had gone inside while she was getting the leftover pizza out of the trunk. She had her hands full and closed the door without looking.
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Originally Posted by Garytho2008 View Post
How did you or your wife forget your children. How? I’ll ask again? How? You use this autism as an excuse but how? This is ridiculous that parents forget they have children. WTF is wrong with y’all? Our local news said the way to prevent this is to put SOMETHING IMPORTANT in th back seat with your child and I wanted to puke after hearing it. Oh ok something important like my phone or wallet or something? Seriously WTF? Something more more important than a child. Can anybody tell me what’s more important than your children? Anybody? I’m all ears on this one.
this took longer than I thought it would.

OP didn't forget the kids. Was a very unfortunate miscommunication. Nobody's perfect.
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Never used autism as an excuse. I said it because it explains why she stayed put in the back seat and why she didn't go up to the front and get out the front door.

I knew someone like you would be a long sooner or later. I posted this because I hoped others would learn from my mistake, as I have learned from it. But insulting me and belittling me won't make what happened any better.

We didn't "forget" our children, my wife assumed they had gone inside while she was getting the leftover pizza out of the trunk. She had her hands full and closed the door without looking.
the only other post I have ever made on this site is about some fellow screwing up navigating a pass. I learned my lesson from seeing him F up. You and your wife assumed your children were ok and they weren’t. One stayed put unexpectedly but what about the other? Who’s responsibility was she? What if daughter A had gotten on out what happens to daughter B? Better tighten the wife’s ass up is the only thing I can tell you. Don’t make excuses.
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this took longer than I thought it would.

OP didn't forget the kids. Was a very unfortunate miscommunication. Nobody's perfect.
I get mistakes happen but he tried to justify it with excuses.
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Wife assumed both went upstairs when in realty only one got out, and was the one near the open door so it wasn't obvious that there was one still in there.

you get in a routine, you get complacent. Things happen. Not defending OP because this is an epic screw up, which he knows. Just saying, it's not hard to see how it happened.
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Old 10-11-2019, 10:09 PM
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Assume. ASS out of U and ME.
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Glad everyone is OK. Everyone makes the occaissional honest mistake.
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Old 10-12-2019, 03:16 AM
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Glad everyone is ok, but yes, if you forget your kid in a car for 90 minutes, you are an idiot.
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