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My daughter is a freshman in high school and she really wants a dog. She's been asking repeatedly for quite some time.
While I'd love to have a dog, we aren't home during the day. My wife and I both work, with no option to come home in the middle of the day. I don't like the idea of leaving a pooch unattended for 8 hours on weekdays.

How do other people do it when both parents work? Pay a dog walker $400/month to walk it every day? Spend even more for doggie day care?
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First thing that comes to my mind is in four years it will be your dog. Honestly I would advise against it. I have seen too many friends kids make major life decisions around the dog such as turning down a job in a city because they don’t want to deal with a dog in the city.
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Get a retired dog from a shelter. Eight hours is a short nap for them. Less wear and tear too. The trade off is the length of time you'll be together.
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My kids have dogs .... "biggest mistake ever - do not let her "............ End of rant

Dogs are for responsible adults .... NOT high school or college kids ....

I won't preach because I let it happen ... but paying for it now...
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Some dogs can be left for 8 hours with out a problem. Some can't.
Which one will you end up with?

I would look at lower energy dogs that don't need a lot of exercise. No Pointing dog breeds ( in general),
Golden retriever comes to mind. Lap dogs.

What will daughter do with dog when she is off to college?
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If you don't want a dog yourself, the age is just wrong. In 3 years you will have a full time dog and everything that goes along with it.

Find her a boyfriend instead.
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medium to large dogs can easily go 8 hours betw potty breaks. Ours are good to 12-13 hours. Start with crate training. Don't get a little lap dog b/c they have little bladders.

That being said, a high schooler is probably going to have a lot going on and not want to walk dog in the morning/night or weekends, so essentially you are getting a dog for yourself.
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As pretty much everyone said, unless YOU want a dog, don't do it. Because in 3-4 years it will be your dog.

Having said that, if you're ok with that, get the dog.

I love my dog. I am fortunate in that he comes to the office with me every day.
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we have a doggy door that goes in to an outdoor kennel. dogs can go potty or go sunning whenever they want.
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Originally Posted by autobaun70 View Post
If you don't want a dog yourself, the age is just wrong. In 3 years you will have a full time dog and everything that goes along with it.

Find her a boyfriend instead.
If you go the boyfriend route. make sure he's a Eunuch.
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Have you ever had a dog?
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Every child should grow up with a dog. It changes them forever in a good way. That being said you waited to long. You no longer have a child. Have her volunteer at the local animal shelter as see how committed she really is.
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I really wasn't for getting a dog but we did about 4 years back. Best thing I have ever done. While the dog does take some of my time to keep up he returns in the joy he brings to the family. I can't even say boat, fishing or pier in front of the dog because he gets so excited to go. I have a fishing and boating buddy whenever I want to go.
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Originally Posted by triplenet View Post
My kids have dogs .... "biggest mistake ever - do not let her "............ End of rant

Dogs are for responsible adults .... NOT high school or college kids ....

I won't preach because I let it happen ... but paying for it now...
I thought those were your dogs!
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Get the kid a dog. Kids/teenagers/young adults/adults/old farts everybody needs a dog. Who cares if she's leaving, dogs are great. Get a dog.
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If I had a daughter in hs and she wanted a dog, I would absolutely get her a dog. There could be MUCH worse things she could be doing.

And by the way, in 3 years, you'll be happy YOU have the dog.

Get a rescue. I rescued 2 pitbull/boxer mixes. Best dogs ever! Give them lots of exercise.

Maybe in the beginning pay someone to walk them mid day.
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Originally Posted by jjc0009 View Post
Have you ever had a dog?
When I was a kid we had one.

Obviously if we get one, the three of us are getting a dog, not just my daughter. I realize the dog would stay here when she goes off to college. We only have one child, so that would probably be a good thing anyway. My wife had a dog in her early 20's. I wouldn't mind having a dog, and realize I'd be the one taking it out for walks every day. It's more a question of whether or not it would be fair to the dog.

We most likely wouldn't get a large dog, as it would come with us on trips and anytime we're on the boat. The breed would have to be something allergy-friendly, like a poodle or something cut with poodle.

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Originally Posted by jobowker View Post
My daughter is a freshman in high school and she really wants a dog. She's been asking repeatedly for quite some time.
While I'd love to have a dog, we aren't home during the day. My wife and I both work, with no option to come home in the middle of the day. I don't like the idea of leaving a pooch unattended for 8 hours on weekdays.

How do other people do it when both parents work? Pay a dog walker $400/month to walk it every day? Spend even more for doggie day care?
What are you going to name your dog?
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keeping a dog contained for 8 ours a day, why? dogs are not meant to be that way, they like to move around. even an average fenced back yard is to small for a dog. they get bored very quick. that is why most start digging.

all of our dogs were farm dogs, free range i guess you could call them. never had a problem with digging or chewing! but they had more than ample space to roam. occasionally they would go to the neighbors ( 1 mile away ) and hang out with him, go to town with him or his workers, and back by the time i got home from work!
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A puppy will struggle with being alone for 8+ hours, so I’d think about a rescue. The separation anxiety will destroy your furniture/ wood trim if you aren’t careful.

Definitely get a dog though. They aren’t called man’s best friend for no reason

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