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Old 08-24-2019, 07:48 PM
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Not there (hopefully NEVER there),but in the vein of THT due diligence and preparation and all.... what would you do to prepare yourself for separating from your wife/spouse? Assume everything is totally commingled.
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Try and agree to a PSA (property settlement agreement) to save you in excess attorney fees.
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Start a putting something untraceable on the side, either cash or gold, silver that can be kept secret. Interview the best lawyers around your area. Don't tell anyone, you never know what guy might be snaking her or who might report back to her. If you had kids I'd suck it up and make it work under most conditions assuming it isn't her sleeping around. Try remaining civil, it beats lawyers.
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Look forward to your new life with out drama and someone better. Your older and smarter so you’ll make a better decision.
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Originally Posted by Lorne Greene View Post
Look forward to your new life with out drama and someone better. Your older and smarter so you’ll make a better decision.
maybe the problem with the marriage was with the op. He will bring those same issues to another marriage. Op, best thing for you is to look into your self and figure out what really ruined your marriage and fix those problems if they’re yours before you start on another relationship. Good luck
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Have a dog i hate, great kids I love , one of which is not mine biologically. Thanks. Just looking for sound advice and great advice so far!
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Originally Posted by WeeKilt View Post
Not there (hopefully NEVER there),but in the vein of THT due diligence and preparation and all.... what would you do to prepare yourself for separating from your wife/spouse? Assume everything is totally commingled.
If you have to ask.....


fyi - I started planing for my divorce before my wedding day.
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Originally Posted by Jersus View Post



If you have to ask.....


fyi - I started planing for my divorce before my wedding day.
That there is the BEST advice I've received so far
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Btw op, how much are you going to ask for your ex-boat?
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OP: Try marital counseling if she will go with you, individual counseling if she won't. Whatever you think divorce is going to "cost" you - financially, emotionally, physically - you can rest assured that you have underestimated the cost, pain, and aggravation by a factor of 10. Make sure you have exhausted every other alternative, and that you will have no regrets. Good luck!
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Leave to go pick up a pack of smokes... never come back
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Originally Posted by Jersus View Post



If you have to ask.....


fyi - I started planing for my divorce before my wedding day.
What does one do to prepare for divorce from a person they're about to marry?

​​​​​​I just assumed it was going to work out, or I wouldn't have been going through it.

I've read alot of these types of comments...one guy said his father gave him, as a wedding gift, something like 200k for the best divorce attorney on retainer.

I can't compute...
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Start "moving" your fishing gear, guns, and anything else of value to you off property to friends or better yet, a storage unit. She doesn't really know what you have anyway.
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maybe the problem with the marriage was with the op. He will bring those same issues to another marriage. Op, best thing for you is to look into your self and figure out what really ruined your marriage and fix those problems if they’re yours before you start on another relationship. Good luck
I never said the drama wasn’t self invented. Just making a point on how things will be better because you know what you want and what you can deal with and who can deal with you.
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Originally Posted by WeeKilt View Post
Not there (hopefully NEVER there),but in the vein of THT due diligence and preparation and all.... what would you do to prepare yourself for separating from your wife/spouse? Assume everything is totally commingled.
At 52 I have never been married.
My current girlfriend who is not only exceptionally lovely but also a great sport has lived with me for roughly three years.
We get along really well however if the day comes that we are no longer able to share my home, she will leave with what she brought and nothing more.
Hows that for due diligence
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Originally Posted by NCSUboater View Post
What does one do to prepare for divorce from a person they're about to marry?

​​​​​​I just assumed it was going to work out, or I wouldn't have been going through it.

I've read alot of these types of comments...one guy said his father gave him, as a wedding gift, something like 200k for the best divorce attorney on retainer.

I can't compute...

A lot of people, myself included go through with it out of a sense of duty knowing very well how it’s going to end but hoping for a Miracle. My firs marriage my best friend offered to hop in his car and just go, my wife’s firs marriage her mom told her she did not need to go through with it.

2nd time around, much better. Much smarter in choosing a partner who you are willing to deal with and knowing what they will deal with.
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Originally Posted by Lorne Greene View Post



A lot of people, myself included go through with it out of a sense of duty knowing very well how it’s going to end but hoping for a Miracle. My firs marriage my best friend offered to hop in his car and just go, my wife’s firs marriage her mom told her she did not need to go through with it.

2nd time around, much better. Much smarter in choosing a partner who you are willing to deal with and knowing what they will deal with.
Got it. Not looking down my nose or anything, just genuinely curious.

Thought has (thankfully) never crossed my mind, and hopefully not my wife's either. We have no prenup (though she offered), and our stuff is all combined.

If the worst happened I'd like to think she'd be reasonable but, well...you know.

Maybe I'm naive. Or dumb.

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Originally Posted by bugnut View Post


maybe the problem with the marriage was with the op. He will bring those same issues to another marriage. Op, best thing for you is to look into your self and figure out what really ruined your marriage and fix those problems if they’re yours before you start on another relationship. Good luck
my wife and I were separated for about 3 months but we were seeing a marriage counselor. She, the counselor, said the same thing to both of us.
we ended up reconciled. I’ll leave it at that.

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