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Old 06-13-2019, 04:44 PM
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43 years ago this summer, my father was a passenger in a vehicle that was hit head on by a drunk driver. No one wearing seatbelts, 3 deaths (only the drunk survived). I was 13 years old when we got the call. He left a 32 year old wife, me and my younger sister. I can say without a doubt that the trajectory of each of those children's lives has been tremendously altered in a blink of an eye. Some of them will have issues they will not overcome. It may not be fair to the memory of the deceased, but for the rest of their lives they will wonder why the hell didn't mom love us enough to wear her damn seat belt ?

If there is anyone on this earth that is counting on you or even cares about you a little, wear your damn seatbelt.
I'm so sorry to hear that. I couldn't imagine.

I'm a pretty tough guy and not much shakes me, it gets on my wife's nerves a bit, but this one certainly hit me. I have a 1 year old and twins due in August I couldn't imagine having a go at it alone. Only pure speculation but I can only think they lived in a town where farm animals out numbered the people, she was driving down an old dirt sleepy road, close to home. that no one ever goes down and just got complacent, she didn't realize she could have been just as dangerous to herself as others. A moving f250 is a lot of weight and if it ends up on top of you at 20 mph or 60 mph it has the same result. Maybe something jumped out, maybe she blew a tire, maybe she was going too fast, maybe was at girls night too long, maybe something caught her eye and her attention. We won't know. I really feel for her kids, as I said we fell out of touch but from what I saw she was super involved and seemed like a fantastic mother. Last I saw she was home schooling all 5 while running a small business out of the home.
Old 06-13-2019, 06:41 PM
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Brutal.

My best friend's older brother lost his wife to cancer in May last year. I've known this guy for 27 of my 33 years. I don't know what type of cancer it was but from what I was told it was triggered by the extra estrogen of her third pregnancy. She delivered a perfectly healthy baby and was gone three months later. Left behind her husband, a five year old, three year old and newborn infant. I've been to as many funerals as anyone else and they all can be tough but holy shit that one was brutal. I was and continue to be impressed by the support he has received from the catholic church they attend. They were a SUPER conservative and traditional family where he was the breadwinner and she stayed home with the kids. My best friend's wife and the other church women have stepped up in a MAJOR way to help and a year later things are starting to level off for them. Still not a great situation but they are getting by.

I think it will be tougher for your friend's situation with older kids but there is some value in acknowledging you don't have a choice but to move on. I lost my dad at 16 and there is still a hole in my heart that may never get filled but I am still alive and moderately successful 17 years later.
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Wow horrible situation, so sorry to hear
Old 06-13-2019, 08:27 PM
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Beautiful woman, Beautiful family, Beautiful smile.... The world will be just a bit darker without that smile.

Sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to her family.
Old 06-13-2019, 08:34 PM
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Really tough situation. Saw this earlier but couldn't put the words together.

I know first hand having my wife/daughter's mom pass prematurely. My heart goes out to your friend's family.
Old 06-13-2019, 09:18 PM
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Originally Posted by Leeroyjenkins View Post


A moving f250 is a lot of weight and if it ends up on top of you at 20 mph or 60 mph it has the same result. Maybe something jumped out, maybe she blew a tire, maybe she was going too fast, maybe was at girls night too long, maybe something caught her eye and her attention. We won't know. .

A Super Duty is about 4 tons. Mine is 8,356 pounds. Nothing good happens when that sledge hammer hits you.

I'm thinking about seat belts like the roller coasters at the amusement park.
They belt you in tight for any contingency.
Kind of like the drivers you face out there. Every day, but maybe not every time.
And when you really, really need to be bucked down, it's too late to put the seat belt on.

I always fasten mine, sometimes before I start the engine.

Terrible tale. Thoughts and prayers for all.
Old 06-14-2019, 04:20 AM
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sorry for your loss. unfortunately everyone I know, myself included, has a story like this at some point in their life. As a close friend of mine likes to say all the time;

Every Day is a Gift!
Old 06-14-2019, 04:55 AM
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Condolences to everyone touched by this horrible tragedy.

In my case, a couple of bad car accidents - one in which wearing seat belts probably saved my life and the life of my passenger - and now I won't cross a parking lot without buckling up.
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Thanks for all the kind words! If there is any light of this tragedy a lot of old friends have had a chance to reconnect over the last 24 hours. A lot of smiles and photos were shared. The outpouring that I have witnessed just solidifies that I am a good judge of character and everyone who knew her had the same thoughts as myself.
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Sorry for your loss. Very sad, something so preventable.

All the best to the family and all involved.

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