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Old 06-06-2019, 07:25 PM
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I'm trying to decide if I'm overreacting. Usually I'd ask a buddy but, as you'll see that's not possible in this scenario.

I'll keep it to the abridged version. Back at the beginning of the year one couple in our group of friends suggested renting a lakehouse. It's close to our due date but we said we were in...regardless of the fact that I have a lakehouse I can go to for free, with boats and sea doos, or stay home and take our boat out...as this house has nothing but a dock. So for $500 we get two nights in a boatless lakehouse with 6 other couples while our boat stays home. But I digress.

We asked for a private bedroom since my wife is 8 months pregnant, and we have a toddler. Everyone else is already there, we arrive tomorrow (last ones). Well tonight I get a call from my best friend saying we are stuck in the double bunk room with them. Not a big deal... We stay with them all the time.

What chaps my ass is that these hens didn't think that my 8 month pregnant wife probably doesn't want to have to sleep in a bunk bed with a toddler (he won't sleep in his bed with all the commotion, so she'll end up with him).

She says it'll be fine, but I'm kinda mad because they never include her in any of their women plans in any way and this just feels like another example of them not really accepting her into their little gossip group. Not that she wants to be anyway... Usually on these events she hangs out with us dudes and talks about cars and guns and boobies while the hens peck away in the kitchen about nonsense

So I'm thinking about blowing the whole damn thing off, saying we're sick, and not mention it but get on with life and not stress over it. Or we could ask someone to move but that feels weird, and honestly we shouldn't have to.

Just wondering how you other menfolk would feel. The dudes will give me crap (as expected) but they'll understand.

Sounds like a miserable weekend that isn't worth the stress to me. She'll be fine .. It'll be me stressing over her discomfort when she's a fatty (I only get a few more weeks to use that term without repercussion)

In the grand scheme of things, this doesn't even register. But come on guys... It ain't like the rest of them don't have kids and they don't know how miserable the last month can be.

What say ThT. Legitimate beef or lighten up Francis?


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Old 06-06-2019, 07:30 PM
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I'd tell them straight. The room isn't suitable for your wife and kid. Can't do the drill. have funn.
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If it’s a one time thing probably an oversight on their part. Perhaps go for the day on your own or with the kid and leave he home “sick.” Or just everybody be sick.
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I'm trying to decide if I'm overreacting. Usually I'd ask a buddy but, as you'll see that's not possible in this scenario.

I'll keep it to the abridged version. Back at the beginning of the year one couple in our group of friends suggested renting a lakehouse. It's close to our due date but we said we were in...regardless of the fact that I have a lakehouse I can go to for free, with boats and sea doos, or stay home and take our boat out...as this house has nothing but a dock. So for $500 we get two nights in a boatless lakehouse with 6 other couples while our boat stays home. But I digress.

We asked for a private bedroom since my wife is 8 months pregnant, and we have a toddler. Everyone else is already there, we arrive tomorrow (last ones). Well tonight I get a call from my best friend saying we are stuck in the double bunk room with them. Not a big deal... We stay with them all the time.

What chaps my ass is that these hens didn't think that my 8 month pregnant wife probably doesn't want to have to sleep in a bunk bed with a toddler (he won't sleep in his bed with all the commotion, so she'll end up with him).

She says it'll be fine, but I'm kinda mad because they never include her in any of their women plans in any way and this just feels like another example of them not really accepting her into their little gossip group. Not that she wants to be anyway... Usually on these events she hangs out with us dudes and talks about cars and guns and boobies while the hens peck away in the kitchen about nonsense

So I'm thinking about blowing the whole damn thing off, saying we're sick, and not mention it but get on with life and not stress over it. Or we could ask someone to move but that feels weird, and honestly we shouldn't have to.

Just wondering how you other menfolk would feel. The dudes will give me crap (as expected) but they'll understand.

Sounds like a miserable weekend that isn't worth the stress to me. She'll be fine .. It'll be me stressing over her discomfort when she's a fatty (I only get a few more weeks to use that term without repercussion)

In the grand scheme of things, this doesn't even register. But come on guys... It ain't like the rest of them don't have kids and they don't know how miserable the last month can be.

What say ThT. Legitimate beef or lighten up Francis?
I would get a toothache so Wife could blame me. No discussions.
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Old 06-06-2019, 07:33 PM
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Originally Posted by airbrush View Post
I'd tell them straight. The room isn't suitable for your wife and kid. Can't do the drill. have funn.
This crossed my mind.

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If it’s a one time thing probably an oversight on their part. Perhaps go for the day on your own or with the kid and leave he home “sick.” Or just everybody be sick.
Yeah they probably just didn't consider it I guess. Thing is it's almost 3 hours away (lake Norman) which is another check in the minus column.

Wife said I should go on my own to see one buddy I rarely get to see, but I don't want to leave her alone with said toddler.
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Old 06-06-2019, 07:35 PM
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Sounds kinda selfish to me, on their end...

Could you go chill for the day/evening and drive back?

If not, look out for the well-being of your wife and skip it... or, if she insists, bring an airbed for the room and the young one might have a blast

*edit, just saw above post that says its 3hours away...
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regardless of the fact that I have a lakehouse I can go to for free, with boats and sea doos, or stay home and take our boat out.
sounds like a humble brag?
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It’s rude and inconsiderate especially since you asked in advance and I’d tell them to F off in so many words. My tolerance for BS has dropped to zero lately. Life’s too short to put up with it.

I doubt there’s more to the story like the private bedroom squatters have newborn triplets or whatever, so yeah, F em.
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Originally Posted by 1720keywest View Post
Sounds kinda selfish to me, on their end...

Could you go chill for the day/evening and drive back?

If not, look out for the well-being of your wife and skip it... or, if she insists, bring an airbed for the room and the young one might have a blast
I agree it's kinda selfish and that's the whole problem. Wife comes first given her current state. We do have an air mattress. Our kid would have a ball playing with the others all weekend, so that's a other thing to consider.

Its too far for a day trip for both him and her, unfortunately.
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Originally Posted by Mako 234 View Post
sounds like a humble brag?
without a doubt.
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Originally Posted by NCSUboater View Post
This crossed my mind.



Yeah they probably just didn't consider it I guess. Thing is it's almost 3 hours away (lake Norman) which is another check in the minus column.

Wife said I should go on my own to see one buddy I rarely get to see, but I don't want to leave her alone with said toddler.
dump toddler off in route for one night perhaps. If your folks are up for it?
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Originally Posted by MaseTime View Post
It’s rude and inconsiderate especially since you asked in advance and I’d tell them to F off in so many words. My tolerance for BS has dropped to zero lately. Life’s too short to put up with it.

I doubt there’s more to the story like the private bedroom squatters have newborn triplets or whatever, so yeah, F em.
Haha. One couple does have an infant so they get a pass. The others though...
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Wife said I should go on my own to see one buddy I rarely get to see, but I don't want to leave her alone with said toddler.
If she’s the type that hangs with the guys then likely she wouldn’t offer if she couldn’t handle it. Take her up on it.

Sounds like you’re looking for a reason not to go anyway. So, don’t go!
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without a doubt.
Oh absolutely. I don't get many opportunities, especially since my risk free returns year to date have dropped to a paltry 26%.

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dump toddler off in route for one night perhaps. If your folks are up for it?
This crossed my mind too...give her a weekend alone. Folks are always up for watching him.
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Even though wife says go, she will pull that card for the next 20 years. Don’t fall for it.

Pass on the trip stay with wife, gain hubby points , cash them in later for a new boat

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If she’s the type that hangs with the guys then likely she wouldn’t offer if she couldn’t handle it. Take her up on it.

Sounds like you’re looking for a reason not to go anyway. So, don’t go!
She's not lying when she says she doesn't care. I'm sure she would be fine. It'd the principal of the matter!

And I might be looking for a reason...I don't know. We haven't been sold on it but agreed just to see all of our friends.
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sounds like a humble brag?
Hardly I'd say.
Putting 14 adults and their kids (he didn't say how many) in one house all crammed together, sounds more like none of them want to spend any money on accommodations for the weekend.
Heck we got seasonal farm workers around here that ain't shacking up that many under one roof!
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And I might be looking for a reason...I don't know. We haven't been sold on it but agreed just to see all of our friends.
To see your friends that ignored your perfectly fair request. Not me, brah. I’m out.
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Oh absolutely. I don't get many opportunities, especially since my risk free returns year to date have dropped to a paltry 26% .
Man...sorry to hear. I know how it feels. I missed the window on munis and only hit a 12% bump. Hang in there bro.
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Reminds me of a personality test I read in Playboy in my teens and one question went something like this ;
What do you do on your gay brother's birthday
1) Play it off and treat him like everyone else
2) Buy him something pretty he'll enjoy
3) Kick him in the nuts and see if it sets him straight
If you choose 3 your a mean MF'er and will go far in life .

I'd tell them to pound sand .
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