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Old 09-25-2020, 07:56 AM
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I was invited to go on a friends boat to go Mahi Mahi fishing this weekend. The spot he hopes to fish its about a 12 miles off shore. I have always invited friends on my boat in the bay to go wake boarding skiing etc and I know they always wanted to bring something or contribute so I set up a boat box at my house and told everyone just to through $20.00 in there every time they came out on the boat and not feel obligated to bring anything else besides what you may consume. I know the $20.00 didnt cover the cost of them on board but I didn't do it to make money or break even I did it just so people felt like the were not free loading. So here is my question I know going off shore is a lot more costly than staying inshore. Its a Robalo 305 so not sure how much fuel we will burn as I have never done his before and not sure how long we will be out etc. Should I buy the ice, or offer to pay for fuel, or just give an envelope with some $$ in it? If the envelope is the way to go about how much $$ do you think. Also being that he invited me knowing Im not a fisherman do I assume he has gear for me, or should I get me own just to play it safe and not put any wear on his if he has gear for me. The gear part Ill ask him if he has anything for me instead of assuming but again if he does do i still bring my own?
Thanks for your help sorry completely new at this fishing world and never was a passenger on anyone else boat before.

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I always push $40-$50 to the captain. Even if they refuse, I try to make it a point to pay for my appreciation.
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Oh, and there was another thread on this just a month ago or so. Let me try to find it...

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Originally Posted by frogbite View Post
Oh, and there was another thread on this just a month ago or so. Let me try to find it...
I was looking for etiquette threads and so far nothing with this hope you find it thanks
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I did find it, and updated my post just before yours.
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Originally Posted by frogbite View Post
I did find it, and updated my post just before yours.
perfect I was looking under boating etiquette thanks i review now
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Just ask him... likely won't need any gear, he'll have a cooler to drop your food in, and the $$ depends on how many people. Figure $150 in gas, $100 in bait/ice... Maybe be ready to kick in $100 or so. When people would come on my boat offshore I always preferred they not bring any gear or extra coolers, etc. Inshore fishing was different, and everyone has their own rods/tackle for that.
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When I fish my boat offshore I'm really happy when guests take a few tasks off my hands. Dividing the tasks of Bringing Ice, Bait, Food, Drinks makes the owners life a lot easier since they are likely pre-occupied with fuel, Gear, launching the boat etc.
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Crew buys food, ice, drinks and gets bait, captain pays for fuel should be the way it happens. Keeps it simple and captain should be going with or without you so fuel is on them. Help clean boat after trip and do not be a boat monkey during trip.

Can not speak for all captains, but for myself and a lot of the guys I know money is not as important as time. Anything that you can do that saves Captain time is so much better then money.

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A lot of variables come into play with how much you spend on a trip. Bait can be expensive depending on the type that you're using. Terminal tackle can also start adding up over time. If you guys drink of on the boat I'd suggest bringing what you want to drink and some extra for the captain. If you're running around all day to find fish vs. just going to a spot it'll take a lot more gas. I always have people out on my boat and won't ask people for money but its pretty refreshing when people offer. I'd just talk to the captain and be like I know its expensive I'd like to help out and chances are he'll tell you what is fair. If not just throw him $40-50 and I'm sure they'll appreciate it.
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Simply text the captain (or however else you can get the message to him/her) what he/she would like you to bring. Just this simple act goes a long way. If you like, you can also include ideas in your message. "Hey, thanks again for the invite. What would you like me to bring onboard? I can do ice, drinks, food, money, etc.?"

And even if he/she says "No, thank you" bring cash with you and give it to him/her at some point. If there's a polite refusal, find a way to leave the cash somewhere safely on the boat. Make sure he/she is told about it after the fact.

Lastly, be super helpful while onboard. Always volunteer and always ask the captain what he/she needs. Always offer snacks, drinks, etc to the captain first.
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Definitely ask about the rods he might have everything rigged for how he intends to fish and not need/want extra gear to get in the way. Bringing extra food/drinks to share always goes a long way - if they are the stubborn type that wont take cash they will probably take a good snack at least. 40-50$ like stated above def seems like a nice gesture and would get someone invited back on my boat. Another alternative to helping out if they wont accept the cash is sticking around for the cleanup/washdown. I know some guys would prefer that than cash anyways.
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Help clean/wash the boat at the end of the day.

When I go on others boats I try to give the forward/bow portion of the boat a good scrub because that kind of gets neglected.

The "non boating" crew can do the easy stuff in the back.
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Call him and ask. I would say thanks for the invite, since it’s my first time what can I bring and I’m happy to chip in for fuel. And take it from there. Help to clean the boat or fish afterwards. Be cordial, listen to the captain and have lots of fun.
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Another option if he tells you not to bring anything is to find out what he likes to drink and buy him a bottle nicer than what he would typically buy himself. That way he has something to enjoy that he would not treat himself to and it shows you put some thought into it. I am a tequila guy and some of the "gestures" that I have appreciated the most were when a friend/guest hands me a good/great (or even novel) bottle. I have consumed many a bottle of DJ 1942 that way - both as recipient and donor.
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Another option if he tells you not to bring anything is to find out what he likes to drink and buy him a bottle nicer than what he would typically buy himself. That way he has something to enjoy that he would not treat himself to and it shows you put some thought into it. I am a tequila guy and some of the "gestures" that I have appreciated the most were when a friend/guest hands me a good/great (or even novel) bottle. I have consumed many a bottle of DJ 1942 that way - both as recipient and donor.
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Another option if he tells you not to bring anything is to find out what he likes to drink and buy him a bottle nicer than what he would typically buy himself. That way he has something to enjoy that he would not treat himself to and it shows you put some thought into it. I am a tequila guy and some of the "gestures" that I have appreciated the most were when a friend/guest hands me a good/great (or even novel) bottle. I have consumed many a bottle of DJ 1942 that way - both as recipient and donor.
I think this is the winning suggestion in addition to help clean. Ill ask captain what I can bring and stash a bottle of his poison on board and let him know where it is afterwards.
Thanks all for the quick responses
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Just ask him... likely won't need any gear, he'll have a cooler to drop your food in, and the $$ depends on how many people. Figure $150 in gas, $100 in bait/ice... Maybe be ready to kick in $100 or so. When people would come on my boat offshore I always preferred they not bring any gear or extra coolers, etc. Inshore fishing was different, and everyone has their own rods/tackle for that.
Go with this. Fuel, ice, and bait add up quick.
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Also, don't be one of those guys that get back to the dock and have to leave! Stay for entire clean up and help. Btw, those type of guys don't get an invite back with me.
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As a starter, offer to get the bait, but ask him what to get and where from - it will save him the trouble of going and the expense of course but also ensures you bring what he would chose - nothing worse than someone suggests to get bait and turns up with the wrong stuff.

Then offer to pay your share of the gas at the end of the trip - try and discreetly look at the gauges to see how much was used - easiest might be when you're out there and he's busy fishing - then just double it.

If he refuses to accept gas money then look at the gift as suggested above - either a bottle or do what a friend did in return for helping me out once - pay for a meal at his favorite restaurant and get them to ring him to say there's a meal waiting for you here and ask when he'd like to come. That sort of thing sometimes works better amongst friends rather than just handing over notes.

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