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i don't like to raft up with my restored boat, am I unreasonable?

Old 09-06-2020, 06:35 PM
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I launched my customized and restored Parker 23 SE a few weeks ago. Part of the restoration was an Alexseal paint job on the hull, as well as all other parts of the boat. My family thinks I am being very unreasonable when I said I don't want to damage my new paint job and therefore refuse to raft up to other boats for socializing. Am I being unreasonable? It"s fun to create a nicely restored boat but being fussy about caring for it seems to take a lot of the fun out of it, especially for others.

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You need some good fenders. This will solve all of your issues. Get the good soft cloth covers to protect your paint.

Is your boat a tool that gets you to good times with family and friends?

Is your boat a Steinway Piano that you don’t want to get scratched?

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You need some good fenders. This will solve all of your issues. Get the good soft cloth covers to protect your paint.

Is your boat a tool that gets you to good times with family and friends?

Is your boat a Steinway Piano that you don’t want to get scratched?

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I’d raft up and enjoy my friends and family and make peace with the fact that it’s a boat and something is going to ding it eventually. But none of us is you and Nobody here is qualified to judge you and call you unreasonable. None of us put the work in to restore your boat. I’ll ask you, how delicate is the paint that a fender will damage it? I bought those big hippity hop looking round fenders. We rafted up a couple of weeks ago and it was NOT calm. They worked perfect and no scratches I could see
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Get fender socks.

I understand the feeling, but life is about making memories and sharing them.

Alexseal is repairable.
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I have a nice restored boat with a shiny paint job too. I use polyballs with covers on them and enjoy life. That shiny paint job looks better four years in with a few nicks/scuffs.
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No, youíre not unreasonable for wanting to keep your boat in good shape.

I do think a good set of fenders with microfiber covers will let you tie up without any issues.
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Not unreasonable at all. Use the fenders, fish by your self a few times, get it dirty and clean it off... Then in a year or two it'll have a few scratches and it'll be all about enjoying those memories.
I refinished some original pine floors in our house and had a two year old scrap something one them and he mom just watched... I about crawled out of my skin, no I have my own 1 year old doing the same and I just hug her when she does. It and explain why mom and dad don't do it.
Enjoy the boat and all your hard work.

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I have a brother in law who doesn't like his boat to get wet. Not my boat, not my life, he can live it anyway he likes. I wish him happiness but it's really none of my business. It's your boat, use it however you want to use it.
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I can appreciate you not wanting to damage your boat , i would just get bigger fenders so there is nochan e anything touches me. Enjoy your boat
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Originally Posted by sea hare View Post
I launched my customized and restored Parker 23 SE a few weeks ago. Part of the restoration was an Alexseal paint job on the hull, as well as all other parts of the boat. My family thinks I am being very unreasonable when I said I don't want to damage my new paint job and therefore refuse to raft up to other boats for socializing. Am I being unreasonable? It"s fun to create a nicely restored boat but being fussy about caring for it seems to take a lot of the fun out of it, especially for others.
I donít have a solution for you but I understand the mind set. Iíve managed to relax with my current boat, a Parker 2520 that I have run for 15 years and donít baby but I had a Mastercraft that I bought new and owned for 5 years. Boat was kept indoors, detailed after every outing. The bottom of that boat never touched anything but water and trailer bunks. Would have never ďraftedĒ that boat with anyone.

Itís a sickness and will probably result in you having overall less enjoyment for you or your guests with the boat.

Again I donít have a cure but I am familiar with the problem.....
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I'm in a similar situation, or will be. I bought a boat that has been in storage for decades, the original dealer never sold it. I've spent quite a bit of time getting it safe to launch, after 46 years a lot has deteriorated. Restorers are telling me this is a special boat, the only one this old and this original. I just want to go out and enjoy it, but now I'm going to be extra cautious. I have a couple big buoy bumpers that will be good for rafting, might get cloth covers. I have some old-fashioned flat fender that were on the boat, those might work well for rafting. But I'm going to scratch this boat, no way around it. I bought it to have fun, not for other people to gawk at.

The shop where I'm working on my boat has a parade of boats you definitely don't want to scratch ever.

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Man I get it. I have found myself not wanting to use boats in order to preserve them. It is hard to balance the idea that your boat is a work of art/pride and joy vs a tool for having fun with friends and family. Think of it this way - what does it cost to paint the outside of a 23’ Hull? A few grand? Not chump change, but by the time you pay for engine service, slip, insurance, gas, etc..... I say use the hell out of it and repaint it in a few years if you want to and it’s a drop in the bucket.

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I'm in a similar situation, or will be. I bought a boat that has been in storage for decades, the original dealer never sold it. I've spent quite a bit of time getting it safe to launch, after 46 years a lot has deteriorated. Restorers are telling me this is a special boat, the only one this old and this original. I just want to go out and enjoy it, but now I'm going to be extra cautious. I have a couple big buoy bumpers that will be good for rafting, might get cloth covers. I have some old-fashioned flat fender that were on the boat, those might work well for rafting. But I'm going to scratch this boat, no way around it. I bought it to have fun, not for other people to gawk at.

The shop where I'm working on my boat has a parade of boats you definitely don't want to scratch ever.

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Thatís more like floating art, beautiful......
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Tie up to a boat with a higher rub rail. Then set your fenders on your rail. That will place your fenders on your friends paint job , not yours. Then he goes home with the scratches. That’s how I do it.
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Just blame Covid and social distancing. That should buy you a few months at least.

Is it normal? No

But everyone has their own bit of crazy, and once you own up to the fact that itís not normal, you can figure out how to compromise with people.

You donít have to explain to other people why you feel that way, you just do. So figure out a way to keep the boat safe while still having fun.

Although, it is possible you will never be able to relax tied up to another boat.....
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Your missing out on memories to save a boat worth a few grand. When you die do you want your kids to think about how much dad cared about his paint job or how much fun they had on dads boat?

Be the Dad that made the day safe and fun.
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I understand....

I've got myself thinking my next boat might be bare aluminum so I won't care
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Blame COVID

or make sure your fenders and new and clean- no cuts, scrapes, or oil smudges. The fender socks work well too, but same applies- make sure they are clean.
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Itís YOUR boat. Itís YOUR labor. No one is going to give a damn about your scratches after theyíve had a good time banging around in your boat.

If you donít like rafting up with a bunch of others....donít do it because after youíve damaged your boat.... those who talked you into it...will NOT be there to help you make the repairs.

Otherwise, get some big fenders and let them enjoy themselves while you are viewed as a tormented old maid.... but Itís you that will be left with the disappointment of your damaged baby..
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yoga mats , you could just drape them over the sides , people will understand .

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