Are you thinking of a solenoid switch? I have a picture in my head of what I think you want but I cant remember where I saw it. Try a shop that does commercial marine sales. They may have a piece that is exactly what you need.
Even the simple automotive kinds are almost bomb-proof. Adding a bit of dyalectric grease inside the cover would be more so. For safety, a manual override could be installed next to it to operate in parrallel in the circuit. But I doubt your skipper wants that on his boat!
The starter solenoid on a few car/inboard engines is a sperate component. A skilled technician should be able to seperate this piece from a starter too, and refabricate it to do what I think you want to do. This piece would stand up to heavier loads.
After I wrote all that, I got a flash. Defender has all sorts of weird things. Try this link to a search. Some of these items are fuel control but a couple are for motors. The second link may be the one you need. Print that out and take it with you if you want to shop around. 24 and 32 volt are offerred as a special oder.
Good luck!
http://www.defender.com/productsearchresult.jsp
http://www.defender.com/product.jsp?path=-1|10391|29596|321922|322387&id=29613