It's been a while, but there is a stray (diagnostics?) plug that the main harness connects to. You don't actually disconnect the ECU. The plug may be tucked inside the plastic box at the front of the engine.
The trim sensor, on the other hand, you actually have to unplug your existing trim gauge if you have one. I prefer the analog trim gauge so didn't hook that up to my ep-20.
As for threading the wire through... good luck, you'll need it!

Just lots of patience and it goes best with a helper. An electrician's fish tape may help, don't be afraid to unhook the boat end of your rigging tube if you need to to get easier access. If you are lucky it's a 1 beer job, if you are unlucky it's a 6 pack for each of you.