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Old 04-14-2013, 08:01 AM
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Default Life is Awesome, sometimes.....

So why is it sooo difficult to realize it?

And what is the personality flaw that inhibits ones ability to enjoy what we have been given and what we have worked hard to achieve?

Are some people born without the "fun" genetics?

I know a guy that can't find fun in anything, regardless of how good life is, and he knows how good life has been for him, but no matter what, he can't change.

He will ultimately loose everything that matters, but can't (or won't) do anything about it.

Might as well ask a bunch of fisherman, two shrinks have already failed.

Can anything help this dude get out of this grip of finding comfort in misery?

Is this normal?

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Is it normal?---No.
It's been said some are afraid of success or letting their guard down for that is when the hammer will drop.
I let the little things pick me up like the yesterday on the water with a long time friend. We didn't catch anything but it was great just to be there to be able to share the day.
This morning, the birds singing, squirrel chasing each other in the yard, my back doesn't hurt as much as before, it's spring!!

Some people will always find the glass half empty for some deep down reason.



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Living in the moment is really all we really have when you think about it. can't alter the past or control the future. If we can't appreciate that .......sorry for us.....
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I too have thought about the same thing the OP post.

I was born with it, to me life is awesome! I am one of those "upbeat" kind of persons. Even in the worst of conditions, I keep a positive attitude.

My mom is the polar opposite of me, I think of her as "Debbie Downer". She is a great person but, just has such a negative outlook on life... I don't get it. What puzzles me the most is just how much we are on opposite ends of the spectrum.
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"Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."
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As my Mother was fond of says, "Some folks just seem content to study on the dark side of life".......
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Have him turn off the TV for two weeks. Newspaper too.

See what happens.
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I would say it is a process....

There are those always smiling...always happy. Never mad or angry and always upbeat. My wife is that way! I feel I am blessed to have such a wonderful person in my life...

My life was not one of wine and roses. There were lots of issues to overcome. I paid dearly for the mistakes I made while thinking that I was useless and worthless. Some of that I heard growing up.

After losing much of what was important to me, I realized that most of what happened.....I caused. I had no one to blame but myself. I was that finger piointer.....blamed everyone for my circumstances. But eventually I came to realize....while at my bottom.....that it was me and only me that could help me.

Today I live my life by minding my A,B,C's...

My Attitude. My Behavior. All molds my Character..

Most days are great...some days are a hassle. But everyday is better than it used to be. I never thought that I could change. I never realized I had the power.

I guarantee you that everyone has the power. One just has to find it and use it.
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I would say it is a process....

I realized that most of what happened.....I caused. I had no one to blame but myself. I was that finger piointer.....blamed everyone for my circumstances. .
This guy is maybe somewhat of an anomaly, he is perfectly clear that he blames no one but himself. At least there is that I guess..

I do know this much, his need for self pity disgusts him, but he tries to overcome.
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Theres a War and America is going down the tubes. Obama just drained my bank account with taxes and I cant find a baby sitter for my upcoming vacation. I've got problems and I am not alone, we all have them. I tell people, make a gratitude list and be grateful.

Heres the great parts of life and I like to think about them..

Great wife and kids, I've got a daughter that's graduating high school this year.
great career, ive worked my ass off and it paid off
boat that I can afford and gets me where I want to go
2 bahama trips this year and 8 last year
the rest of the material shit is just shit...

Life is what you make of it!!
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I think it has something witht the environment in which you grew up in. My parents didn't do "fun" very well even though they ended up having a pretty good, stable financially secure life. Mom grew up with hardship in the bombed-out rubble of what was left of Germany and dad grew up dirt poor in rural West Virginia. Nothing much "fun or frivolous" was done around the household and everything "had to have a purpose".

I enjoy life but really don't enjoy it as much as I should and some of my personality traits contributed to the demise of my first marriage.

All that being said, life is what you make it and your past does not equal the future. One of the great things of living here and being a sentient human being is that we have the ability to change our outlook, but one HAS to stay AWARE of it, daily.
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Got the baby sitter, now its the taxes and war issue I have to deal with..
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Sounds like the guy is living a life that others told him would be for him, instead of doing what he wants.
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"Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."
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i dont know if that is really a quote by lincoln, but that is the way I see it.
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In my opinion. simplify your life, get rid of things you no longer use or really want. when you are supposed to goto work take a day off and go have lunch with your kids.
stop thinking about work, and the things that need to be done around the house, go and do something you would normally never do, even if it seems risky ( no I am not talking about robing a bank or anything like that.)
simplify!
I would also tell that guy to make a change immediately in his career. Get off the road and stop being gone all the time, he needs to spend more time at home, and it needs to be now.
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i dont know if that is really a quote by lincoln, but that is the way I see it.
It may not be. But it is the way I see it also!
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I think it has something witht the environment in which you grew up in.
Agree 100%

Being the guy who ALWAYS sees the glass as half empty I'm following this thread with interest.

It's an extremely difficult thing to change from the inside out or outside in my wife tell you that for sure. Wife and I are black and white on this. She's up, I'm down. She grew up in what was mostly a very positive family environment. Me, notsomuch. Growing up was not a whole lot of fun I'll tell ya. My real regret is that I passed it onto my kids (to a lesser degree thank God).

Heck if I didn't know better I could be the guy Mike B is writing about...
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