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I've been divorced twice. I got divorced in 1990 and in 2005. Each marriage lasted 12 years. One child from the first marriage; she's 28 now.
The first divorce was her idea. The second one was mine. Best thing I ever did.
I'm on my third time around and so is my wife. I finally found the right one!
My wife has thought about divorcing me
but I'm too good a cook and
good in the sack!
22 years so far!
She still has plenty of time to kill me in my sleep!
Don't crap out on your marriage until you've given it your best shot!
divorces co$t!
Married (1969) for ALmost 25 years the first time - divorced in 1994. 2 kids - daughter 29 & son 32 (now).
Remarried in 1998 - she'd never been married before (so she SAYS! ).
majorrob - Think about it long and hard beFORE you make a decision! It's TOUGH on the kids (most all of the time)! At the same time, "kids" aren't necessarily a reason to STAY together, either. Sometimes it will work, sometimes it won't - situations vary - and I'm NOT here to tell you to do one or the other. Don't know your situation, but you may want to try some counciling, with the RIGHT person(s), but BOTH parties (you AND your wife) have to be willing to do it - TOGETHER - won't work with just "one". Took me a LONG time to get over it, but I did. Have a GREAT relationship with my kids, now, and even have "normal" discussion with my ex from time to time, when it has something to do with the kids. She remarried, and only lives about 8-9mi. from me. Run in to her from time to time, but not very often, considering how close we live to each other. Our daughter (engaged) will probably be getting married within the next 6-12mo., so that will bring on one of those "akward" situations, with all the family members (from 2 marriages) getting involved.
Good luck - and I wouldn't say but so much on here about your "situation".
Not sure what you're looking for... Me, twice married, twice divorced. First lasted 8 years, the second for 15 years, with several absences for good behavior. Best 4 years of my life until I became single, each time.
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First marriage lasted 6 years, 3 children. I married in 06, like the other poster above, I met the right one this time. Divorce sucks, but if there are no children, better to be happy that misearable.
Married in 1985. Son born in 1992. By 1997 wife decided that military life was no longer for her and she refused to accompany me on my next set of orders. Judge refused to entertain the idea that she abandoned the marriage and instead listened to every slander she and her lawyers came up with. Really got screwed financially and with visitation issues.
In 2006 with a new lawyer I was able to document enough neglect and abuse to get custody of my son. Spent my time since then fixing the damage she did. My son has worked like hell and it is paying off with his grades, social development and maturity.
You’re likely to hear experts say don’t worry about the kids because they are resilient; that’s bullshit. Especially with boys any childhood dysfunction will get blamed on ADD or ADHD or Asperger or autism. Or a combination of these syndromes, or some undiagnosable “symptoms consistent with” mumbo-jumbo. Fact is that kids need structure and consistency and we fail them if we dissolve their home.
My advice? Stick it out until the kids are out of the house. If you plan to get out of the marriage then you’ll have time to prepare so that you won’t be impoverished when it happens.
My advice? Stick it out until the kids are out of the house. If you plan to get out of the marriage then you’ll have time to prepare so that you won’t be impoverished when it happens.
19 years. son who is 8. miserable for the last 6. Just feel like i'm missing out.
I did not see your response that you had kids. I would say yes, it is better for the kids if you stay, but not if there is constant bickering and turmoil. I grew up that way and wish my parents would have divorced early.
Ofcourse there is "Ashley Madison". It seems like you could be in a commercial for them.
Ten years is a long time to wait, if waiting for your son to turn 18.
He will become part of the strife and it MAY reflect in his behavior.
Best to seek GOOD counseling first.
And as someone else wrote, be very selective what details you put on here, a good lawyer can find it and use it against you in the end. In fact, I'd just say thanks to the folks here and not mention it again online.
Best to you, I hope all works out for the better, whichever way the two of you decide to go with it.
First wife 6 miserable years and one kid. Married again to the right one with 2 kids. Ex-wife hounded me until I got remarried. Oldest son is now soph in cillege and doing well. Ex is on her 3rd husband. lol Get out if you are miserable.
Move to Massachusetts and get divorced in this state...you'll be running to chapel of love again and again!?
What does that mean?
My parents were divorced in the '70s after 9 years. I've been married 16 years, there are always ups and downs, I believe you just need to work things out. Every day brings new challenges and new benefits.
Married to my STARTER wife for 15 years, one daughter that was 7 at the time, she saw greener or longer grass after weight loss and a few freinds that were haveing issues, so they played the field and we cooked the Goose. God was good, caught the wife by wire tap and investagtors. Really found out who friends were No child support, gave her $2000.00 and she signed the house to me, keep her Jeep and took the credit card debt she had ran up.
Married now for 15 years to a wonderful wife, have 2 grand children and one on the way.
I've been tied by the hip since 86 to the same lady......best move I ever made. We are both our first.
I definitely do not understand how two people can fall in love, marry, possibly have children, divorce and hate each other and spit venom at each other for the rest of their lives. Where did all that respect and love that started things off go to? I do not have a single lady friend from my past that if we meet by chance there isn't a hug and kiss on the cheek as a greeting. Why does a failed relationship have to carry hatred till the end of life .....it's all what we make it!
Say it on here or any other web site does it really matter? Either way I see it, the guy loses big time every time.
Life is a journey, an adventure, it's not a prison sentence.
One of the biggest mistakes I see in failing or failed marriages is the lack of respect......kicking the other person when they are down. Respect says one shouldn't do that, but I see it all the time.
divorce?
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It's TOUGH on the kids (most all of the time)! At the same time, "kids" aren't necessarily a reason to STAY together, either. 
Sometimes it will work, sometimes it won't - situations vary - and I'm NOT here to tell you to do one or the other. Don't know your situation, but you may want to try some counciling, with the RIGHT person(s), but BOTH parties (you AND your wife) have to be willing to do it - TOGETHER - won't work with just "one". Took me a LONG time to get over it, but I did. Have a GREAT relationship with my kids, now, and even have "normal" discussion with my ex from time to time, when it has something to do with the kids. 
No child support, gave her $2000.00 and she signed the house to me, keep her Jeep and took the credit card debt she had ran up. 
We are both our first.
Where did all that respect and love that started things off go to? 
