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bquick
04-03-2008, 10:11 AM
Girfriend of 4 years that talked me in to a bigger boat spent 3 days over Easter with her HS sweetheart (last seen 30 yrs ago!!) visiting her at her house. I didn't think it was right at all but she said that his wife was with him so I went along with it. Turns out it was not his wife but sister (if there really was anyone else with him).
Long story short, the day he leaves I call her and she says she is overcome with feelings for him and I'm toast....the burned variety. Doesn't even have the common courtesy to meet face to face or email! A week before she was telling me she loved ME. We never even had one bad argument in 4 yrs! She says it may be just a bump in the road.....I say cliff!

Went down to the boat and just can't get past all the memories on the damn thing.

Anyone been there and any ideas?


2005 SeaCraft
04-03-2008, 10:16 AM
Not to sound cold... but consider yourself Lucky that she was just a girlfriend, otherwise you would be going down to the boats to get half of your stuff and leaving the boat for her.

Chicks dig boats... there will be others. Other good ones, and other screwed up ones. It's all part of living life.

ReelWork
04-03-2008, 10:19 AM
Good thing you weren't married, kids and families to sort out.. You're a lucky man! :thumbsup:


CThomps
04-03-2008, 10:26 AM
Clean break.

adavefish2
04-03-2008, 10:27 AM
bquick,
You are one of the lucky ones. Count your blessings that it happed without any major investment by you, other than time. No bumps in the road. If she'll do it now, she'll do it again. Move on and chalk it up as a lesson. Don't be hard on your next gal---it won't be her fault that you don't trust right away.
Go out and have some fun!

49erJim
04-03-2008, 10:38 AM
Time to move on bro. Yes in a way you are lucky as you were not married to her or had any kids. It a hard thing to go thru, but there are a lot of fish in the sea. I wish you the best as what she did was horrible. She does not derserve you. You are too good for her.

LuckyLaRue
04-03-2008, 10:40 AM
I know it is easy for someone to say, you just have to forget her when it is not them or I that is in this situation. I have never had this problem, since I married my high school sweetheart and have been married for 47 years. But even if she wants to come back, I don't think that you would be able to forget what happened. This would always be in the back of your mind. Don't let it ruin your life, they will be others. Just keep going and enjoy life the best you can.

I know all your brothers on THT are pulling for you, Keep the Faith

TSA
04-03-2008, 10:44 AM
Clean break. You are damn lucky.....you just can't see it yet. NEVER, EVER take her back.....I MEAN NEVER......not even for a quickee. Well, maybe for a quickee, but then "ham sandwich," and hit the road.

2005 Seacraft has got it right.

bobb
04-03-2008, 10:47 AM
One word: NEXT

Clam
04-03-2008, 10:48 AM
everything!! happens for a reason

Brad1
04-03-2008, 10:56 AM
bobb - 4/3/2008 1:47 PM One word: NEXT

Couldn't have said it better.

illgotoo
04-03-2008, 11:03 AM
She'll be back. There's no future in retro romances.

Question is what do you take back the first mate?

bquick
04-03-2008, 11:04 AM
Man, thanks!.......this place is great I feel better already. But my heart still hurts........
Gotta stay away from blonds.....my first wife (blond, also) burned me with one of my good friends after 19 yrs of marriage and 4 kids.
Paid $260,000 in alimony (why?, she didn't work), child support and half the house.

Thanks for the support

cowdogs
04-03-2008, 11:07 AM
Clam - 4/3/2008 10:48 AM

everything!! happens for a reason

Your at that point when the "your lucky it happened now" comments won't really resonate. It sucks losing someone you care about, no matter how it happens. The only thing that will dull those memories of her ... is some time and some new memories. So get out there, even if you don't feel like it, and make some new memories.

Bob's Cay
04-03-2008, 11:42 AM
All good advice above, but I would add one more. Don't hold it against your boat because she left you. Your boat will still be there for you and will help you lure in the next one. Boats are always there for you man!

When I read the title of this I thought it was another thread about someone losing their dog. Glad it wasn't that sad.

bquick
04-03-2008, 12:00 PM
Yeah, that would be really devastating, losing the pup! But she's 14 now so a few years left.
Man's best friend!!!

bquick
04-03-2008, 12:27 PM
Oh, forgot to add my daughter is getting married in 2 weeks and my GF was supposed to be going with me to the $28,000 wedding that I'm paying for in Annapolis.

Afterwards I need to go to some island to get away........

GhostShip
04-03-2008, 12:42 PM
Been there.........done that........twice :bashhh:

They both wanted to come back......WTF is up w/ that?

Moved on........just kept trolling :thumbsup: Life's beenvery,very good :grin:

The first biotch has had5 kids by 3 different husbands. We were 19 and looking at double wides just before IT happened the first time. :o I say a little thank you prayer every now and then.

TSA
04-03-2008, 12:49 PM
GhostShip - 4/3/2008 3:42 PM



Been there.........done that........The first biotch has had*5 kids by 3 different husbands.

Her first name wasn't Carol was it? :grin:

GhostShip
04-03-2008, 01:12 PM
TheShortAnswer - 4/3/2008 2:49 PM GhostShip - 4/3/2008 3:42 PM

Been there.........done that........The first biotch has had5 kids by 3 different husbands. Her first name wasn't Carol was it? :grin:

Sandy.........ohwhat'a beautiful, built like a BSH,"blonde", Sandy :roll

eXcedrin
04-03-2008, 02:27 PM
"She says it may be just a bump in the road.....I say cliff!!!."

You already said it best.

Think, but don't look back... and don't ever go back... Think "History" as in "she's History"... :(

eXcedrin

bsmit24
04-03-2008, 02:36 PM
GhostShip - 4/3/2008 11:42 AM



Been there.........done that........twice :bashhh:

They both wanted to come back......WTF is up w/ that?

Moved on........just kept trolling :thumbsup: Life's been very,very good :grin:

The first biotch has had 5 kids by 3 different husbands. We were 19 and looking at double wides just before IT happened the first time. :o I say a little thank you prayer every now and then.
GhostShip - 4/3/2008 12:12 PM

TheShortAnswer - 4/3/2008 2:49 PM GhostShip - 4/3/2008 3:42 PM

Been there.........done that........The first biotch has had 5 kids by 3 different husbands. Her first name wasn't Carol was it? :grin:

Sandy.........oh what'a beautiful, built like a BSH, "blonde", Sandy :roll

Not passing judgment but it must have been sweet if she was 19 with 5 children already and you still wanted to get hitched.

Post50
04-03-2008, 02:39 PM
Get out and do things. Sitting here on the computer will do nothing but make you think more and more. It will absolutely eat away at you and you WILL end up taking her back.

Do yourself a favor, call a buddy, or old girlfriend, get out, have some fun make some bad decisions and for christ sake, go enjoy life! Its to short to put up with that BullShyt. Believe me what comes around goes around, she will have her day with the homewrecker lol.

bquick
04-03-2008, 02:51 PM
Yeah, it does kinda say something about the guy. If she told him she was in a relationship for 4 yrs, he could have visited but not stay for three frickin days.

A real decent stand up guy would have called me and discussed before but I guess I'm dreamin.......

bquick
04-03-2008, 02:53 PM
Yeah, it does kinda say something about the guy. If she told him she was in a relationship for 4 yrs, he could have visited but not stay for three frickin days.

A real decent stand up guy would have called me and discussed before but I guess I'm dreamin.......

RED HEAD
04-03-2008, 03:01 PM
Go buy a bigger boat :thumbsup:

GhostShip
04-03-2008, 03:07 PM
Not passing judgment but it must have been sweet if she was 19 with 5 children already and you still wanted to get hitched.

The "key words" are"has had", I got a little history lesson a few years back when we met by accident 25 years after the fact. The years weren't kind.../images/emoticons/wink.gif

I did pass on onepre-made family a few years back. 5 and 7 year old kids w/ one "in the oven". TG it wasn't mine. I'm still Uncle Steve, and take'm fishing.

LuckyLaRue
04-03-2008, 03:08 PM
At first I was mad with at your girlfriend, now I'm mad at the guy too! Why don't we just go and kick his a$$

bug nut
04-03-2008, 03:15 PM
I know it may be hard now...and it is easy for outsiders to say to forget the biotch, but the fact is you are a lucky man.
Time will heal this wound.
I would bet anything that she will be back....The question is, will you have the strength to tell her to take a hike?
Trust me...in time you will be thanking your lucky stars.

Good luck

Hydro
04-03-2008, 03:25 PM
Two words buddy, "go fishing". Seriously.

It may sound crass and you're probably feeling like crap right now, but take some time out and go fishing for real to help clear your mind. Then go fishing figuratively and see what other kind of fish are out there that might treat you better.

Good luck and hang in there!!

Bruce W
04-03-2008, 04:33 PM
Bad stuff - my FIFTH wife did the SAME thing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :o ;?

After 12 $300per sessions with my personal psychic - Verndeen "The Spook" Skankney - he said:

"Bruce, you're a DUMBAZZ!" :grin: :grin: :grin:
31851

Regards and GET BACK OUT THERE - to a DANCE CLUB, LOUNGE, ETC.! :thumbsup:

Beuford T. Justice
04-03-2008, 04:37 PM
So the fish broke off before you landed it. Just suck it up and cast out again

ant1
04-03-2008, 04:43 PM
Do not contact her !!! That will make you look like a sap,and if you do end up getting back together,you will be in the drivers seat. It's always a friggin game with some of these broads.Do get out on some other dates and don't talk about this situation,or you will drive them away. Like others have said,your lucky you were not married. I am never getting married unless she signs a pre-nup,no sign,no ring.

galebert
04-03-2008, 04:47 PM
I say the old boy should bee chummed up for a good day of fishing . A small wood chipper want bog on an amber jacks head don't think his would be a problem . If she found through her in the bucket too heak she is the one who made you by a bigger one any way . Better find another one fast the way gas prices are she needs to be a retired nurse or daddy about to kick the bucket and she gets the farm .

galebert
04-03-2008, 04:49 PM
Just kidding on the chum part get over her the sun is about to shine and the fan is going to shut down and off we go. CJ

Eyeball
04-03-2008, 05:39 PM
bquick - 4/4/2008 2:11 AM

Went down to the boat and just can't get past all the memories on the damn thing.

Anyone been there and any ideas?


No, never been to your boat.

But, about that GF thing... As others have said, if she will do it once, she is open to doing it again. What other's haven't said...so what?!?. And it isn't like she would do it again, or even this time, if she didn't have a reason to. So why does it matter to you?

Been there, learned that being stepped-out on is an indication of something wrong in the relationship, not necessarily wrong with the person. Honestly, it could be something as simple as you not being good in the sack and she needed a little, well, you know, some of the good stuff that you couldn't give her. The point is, if this is someone you are serious about one long weekend f*cking her brains out with someone else does not rise to the level of over the cliff. If it did, you weren't really serious about her.

Without knowing more (who initiated contact and why) it is not possible to build a game plan. Women meeting up with and 'experiencing' their old HS flame many years later down the road is not an uncommon thing. Not passing judgment on it, just saying it happens more than many folks realize. Heck, I'd probably be in there doin' it with some old HS girlfriends too, except that there are now a bunch of laws making bestiality illegal...

My advice is that before you do anything you regret decide what it is you want from your relationship with her, and then act accordingly.

2005 SeaCraft
04-03-2008, 05:47 PM
There's always: http://www.drlaura.com/main/

Now, step up, be a man! Did you go to the strip joint today for a lunch buffet? Have you set aside a couple hundred for a "professional" to stop by? Do it, it just might make your testosterone flow again.

twentynine
04-03-2008, 05:57 PM
Good thing you weren't married. You'd still be on the side of the road and having to pay for it too!

Forget about her going anywhere with you, daughter's wedding or whatever however much it cost.

Be done with it.

35donzi
04-03-2008, 06:01 PM
As secraft said hire a "professional" it will get your confidence up. Then go sleep with a couple hotties and you will forget all about her. The only cure for "oneitis."

CJS
04-03-2008, 06:12 PM
I thought this was going to be a "My wife, or even worse,
my dog died" thread. But a girlfriend???? WTF????

There are more of them than us so the numbers are in your
favor. And remember, living well is the best revenge. Go find
yourself a hottie 10 years younger than the Biotch and parade
her around where the word will get back to the ex and she'll
be kicking herself in the Ass for being such a shameless Ho.

knowhowiroll
04-03-2008, 06:46 PM
"Honestly, it could be something as simple as you not being good in the sack and she needed a little, well, you know, some of the good stuff that you couldn't give her."

Doggone this Eyeball is COLD!!! Not he sort of thing a guy in this situation needs to hear. Have some compassion man!

I personally believe marriage is best saved for the last chapter of life. I know it is tuff if you want children but to many years with same person in any kind of a relationship is bound to wind up on the rocks and feelings get hurt.

I know someone who said it best and that was there is only one thing worse than having this happen - getting dumped - and that is the money or investment part if you are married. Feelings are one thing money is another.

Girlfriends are better than wives in that respect. And with both in a normal situation you usually just move on and with time the good times start all over - it is just easier with the money you end up saving with a girlfriend instead of all the alimony and social welfare the system shoves down your throat after a marriage goes south.

As some have you will be thankful someday that it was sooner than later. And whatever you do run do not walk away if she does try to come back.

Good luck fellow boater.

JupiterEdge
04-03-2008, 07:00 PM
Mybuddies and I have this saying "The Boys are the Boys - the girls come and go". Don't give her anotherthought. Youbuddies are you friends for life - it's time to cut loose and have some fun.Girlfriends are here today gone tomorrow. NEXT!There are plenty of fish in the Sea! Enjoy!

My Turn
04-03-2008, 07:23 PM
Whatever you do, move on. Don't ever take her back cuz she has already proved she is not dedicated to you.

Diversion
04-03-2008, 08:06 PM
The old HS flame shows up with his wife, but in reality it is his sister. Yeah, ok, thats not a cover up at all. RUN AWAY, not worth going back as there was deceit in that weekend. She knew that was his sister - not his wife. Liars are liars. :mad:

Eyeball
04-03-2008, 10:31 PM
CJS - 4/4/2008 10:12 AM

I thought this was going to be a "My wife, or even worse, my dog died" thread. But a girlfriend???? WTF????

There are more of them than us so the numbers are in your favor.



:rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

saltydog251
04-04-2008, 02:46 AM
Like I've always said

"Nothing takes your mind off a woman like another one"

Firstmate2
04-04-2008, 06:55 AM
bquick, you posted this yesterday. It will be 2 weeks this weekend that the trist occurred. Either your ex girlfriend is still seeing high school scum or she has contacted you. 4 years together, I know she'll come back. You sound like a good guy. Your ex is probably, what, 48 years old? Chances are getting slimmer by the year for a gal of that age to find a good guy, and with a boat too! And I disagree with the poster that said that girls are disposable and you can only depend on your buddies. While you can almost always depend on your buddies, there are also women out there who are looking for someone special like you who aren't out to take your money or possessions and will not cheat on you. I am a true "Firstmate" and have been with my husband through thick and thin for over two decades. I enjoy his company, his friendship, his intimacy, and, errr, HIS BOAT! (Well, technically, it's OUR boat, but he won't let me dock it yet. Going to work on that this weekend, if I can get enough liquor in him.) The poor guy has three dependents - his wife, his daughter and his boat.

Hang in there, bquick. And you might want to rethink that screen name if you're on the hunt for women!

2005 SeaCraft
04-04-2008, 07:00 AM
LOL.....

strikerthree
04-04-2008, 07:29 AM
the saying here is the best way to get over a woman is to get under a new 1 :thumbsup: :thumbsup:

cave man
04-04-2008, 07:31 AM
While you may not like to hear it, she is not worth the energy it took you to write this thread. The quicker you get over her the better and the best way to get "over' her is to get "under" another. Keep your chin up and get on with living. Good luck.

TSA
04-04-2008, 07:32 AM
Firstmate2 - 4/4/2008 9:55 AM



Hang in there, bquick. And you might want to rethink that screen name if you're on the hunt for women!


:rofl: OK.....I am going to give it to you straight........Eyeball is wrong. There are many factors and needs that affect a relationship.....quality of sex, love, finances, emotional baggage etc. etc. However, there is one factor that is independent of all the others that if absent, the relationship is doomed. That factor is TRUST. Successful long term relationships in the final analysis are based on trusting your GF, spouse, significant other....whatever. All other factors in a relationship will fluctuate over time.......but TRUST will never waiver. Once it's gone, it's gone forever.

cave man
04-04-2008, 07:32 AM
strikerthree - 4/4/2008 7:29 AM

the saying here is the best way to get over a woman is to get under a new 1 :thumbsup: :thumbsup:




You beat me to it. One of my favorite quotes and it works!

bquick
04-04-2008, 07:34 AM
Yeah, that is a good point with the bquick. I drag race Buicks thus the BqUICK, get it?

Well the guy went right back to Utah but says he is going to sell his towing business and move back east to Maryland in 6 mos. So I guess they are phoning and emailing anticipating the future. He's got $$$ apparently from a personal injury suit.

Like a dumba$$ I called her last nite and she wouldn't talk.

One day at a time things seem a little better.......

ClarkLLC
04-04-2008, 07:42 AM
"RIDE BOLDLY RIDE"............Find another temp break......and start trolling again.....just a matter of time....

bquick
04-04-2008, 07:47 AM
Trust.......the bi!ch wouldn't even let me drive her car! That's got to be a bad sign! Wonder if the new guy will drive her car or has he already driven it? And no inuendo jokes , please. :grin:

Bugbuster
04-04-2008, 07:49 AM
She just wasn't the one for you. You will know when you find the right one. She will be just like you or very similar. She will come in time. One downside, after 20 plus years you'll wish she would run off because she can read your mind. Dam, I hate that. Don't worry brother, yours will come to ya. Some of the comments above on how to get over a woman are very true. The younger the better, but the problem with the young ones is sooner or later, ya gonna have to talk to her. In your search for a good woman, you have to think about where a good woman would be.

bquick
04-04-2008, 07:56 AM
The one in the middle of your pic looks good to me!

Firstmate2
04-04-2008, 08:24 AM
I hope you aren't referring to the Chihuahua, bquick! Bugbuster must be pretty attached - two pretty women in bikinis and he focused on the DOG!

bquick
04-04-2008, 08:36 AM
Chihuahua? I say Jack Russell. :grin:

The women in bikinis just cause me heartache.....

Eyeball
04-04-2008, 08:41 AM
TheShortAnswer - 4/4/2008 11:32 PM

... there is one factor that is independent of all the others that if absent, the relationship is doomed. That factor is TRUST. Successful long term relationships in the final analysis are based on trusting your GF, spouse, significant other....whatever.


Well el-Short one, what you are calling 'trust' I see as a personal insecurity. When you whittle it down to its nuts and bolts at the lowest level, what is often referred to as trust in a relationship is actually an expression of personal insecurities.

Think about it, if your partner violates your trust, why does that matter to you? What is going on that violating trust in a relationship should change anything about that relationship?

Firstmate2
04-04-2008, 08:46 AM
bquick - 4/4/2008 8:36 AM

Chihuahua? I say Jack Russell. :grin:

The women in bikinis just cause me heartache.....

Well DUH! (Brain fart) Obviously a Jack Russell.

Don't call her again!

Living well is the best course of action. And getting a dog isn't a bad idea either. Friendlier, cheaper and more loyal than most women I've met.

Bugbuster
04-04-2008, 09:02 AM
Him. Tico, a well trained JRT. He has the uncanny ability to only climb aboard the boats with the correct "sents". He is spot on 100% of the time.

TSA
04-04-2008, 09:03 AM
Eyeball - 4/4/2008 11:41 AM



Think about it, if your partner violates your trust, why does that matter to you? What is going on that violating trust in a relationship should change anything about that relationship?



The answers to those questions depend on whether you are looking for a lifetime mate, or just a "fuk buddy."

onejacker
04-04-2008, 09:08 AM
cowdogs - 4/3/2008 11:07 AM

It sucks losing someone you care about, no matter how it happens. The only thing that will dull those memories of her ... is some time and some new memories. So get out there, even if you don't feel like it, and make some new memories.

Very true statement, and good advice to boot. The tough guys here won't admit to the heartache part, but it's true. Suffering a LITTLE is part of the game, and it is a game.

Now, in the immortal words of Coach Bear Bryant, "Go get you some".

GhostShip
04-04-2008, 09:11 AM
Firstmate2 - 4/4/2008 10:46 AM And getting a dog isn't a bad idea either. Friendlier, cheaper and more loyal than most women I've met.

That's a fact! :thumbsup: They're also fantastic"chick magnets", especially in the "cute little adorable" puppy stage. And like Bug's they can be trained to do your "scouting".

Firstmate2
04-04-2008, 09:13 AM
Bugbuster - 4/4/2008 9:02 AM

Him. Tico, a well trained JRT. He has the uncanny ability to only climb aboard the boats with the correct "sents". He is spot on 100% of the time.

Bug, the "Her" I was speaking of was bquick's hofriend. (I bet Tiko is better looking than her, too)

Don't call her again, bquick.

Everything will work out the way it is supposed. From this female's point of view, the most attractive things in a man are self-confidence, a sense of humor and a really hot boat doesn't hurt either. (Don't let this get you down, or you'll lose the first two attributes.)

bquick
04-04-2008, 11:36 AM
Talk about a magnet. I've got one that works great. Happened by accident.

I was out test driving a car I was working on with my dog. Well car ran good but ran out of gas. No cell phone with me. So, I was on a country road with my car pushed off to the side and holding my cute pup in my arms. Trying to wave someone down guys in pickups blasting by not stopping. Then this sweet thing pulls over. She thought the pup had been hit by a car. I told her no I was just out of gas. She ooohed and ahhhed about how cute the pup was and took me to get gas.

Anyway, I don't really need to actually run out of gas to do it again. :grin:

rainmaker
04-04-2008, 11:40 AM
Lucky You ! You now know the score before the wedding happened . Now I'll steer you to a line from one of my best friends......" Women are a dime a dozen, a good dog is hard to find!"

Now that's not necessarily my feelings... (I've been happily married 22 years and counting, I consider myself one of the lucky ones.) but he sometimes seems to have a point. :grin:

Get a new lady on that boat and make some new memories...... That will chap the ex's A$$ and will put you back in the right frame of mind. Good Luck and DON'T CALL HER AGAIN. She has already shown her hand! :thumbsup:

Eyeball
04-04-2008, 11:44 AM
You got it. Take any cute dog to any dog park...boom!...instant chick magnet...dog lovin' chick magnet. :thumbsup:

Shag
04-04-2008, 02:53 PM
There's an old saying:

If you love them let them go for if they don't return, they were never yours. If they do return, bitch slap them and tell them to stay the he11 off your boat. I think that's how it goes. ;?

jaybyrd83ecu
04-04-2008, 06:05 PM
This whole story is missing the biggest detail of all.....






What kind of boat do you have? ....:)

bquick
04-05-2008, 06:43 AM
It's a 1989 Stamas 288 hardtop (really a 31), over 11 ft beam. Only 12 or so made according to George Stamas. Twin orig 200 Yamahas..... hits 44 mph on a good day.
I give her alot of attention..... :grin:

bquick
04-11-2008, 12:25 PM
Now she's telling me that she was supposed to go to the HS prom with him and he went with someone else, then they broke up.
Now 30 yrs later he is saying that his parents (of course passed away so she can't ask them) wouldn't let him go with her and arranged a date for him but that he wanted to go with her all along and has always loved her.

What BS! Some guys can say just what women want to hear.

Why didn't he contact her before now then???

She has bought it all hook line and sinker. Acts like she doesn't even know me.

DrJim
04-11-2008, 12:51 PM
Good riddance, and sounds like a nice boat.

Mardi-Gras
04-11-2008, 12:59 PM
Clean Break :thumbsup:

How about I hook you up with my two sister in laws and throw you the keys
to my weekend vehicle.......



33727


33726


33728


BTW do not let you x-girl know that it bothers you, even if it does


Congrats on Keeping the boat :thumbsup:

r.waddill
04-11-2008, 04:56 PM
Was his sister hot?!

CaptKennyW
04-12-2008, 08:30 AM
women are evil.

bigal2221
04-12-2008, 08:56 AM
that's why i say dogs are better lock your girl and your dog in the trunk for an hour open it up and see which one is glad to see ya

Frank007
04-12-2008, 09:26 AM
You are dragging this out too long. Cut your losses - move on, don't look back, cut off all contact with her, and find someone else. Count yourself lucky you found out where you stand.

Cracker
04-12-2008, 10:00 AM
Frank007 - 4/12/2008 12:26 PM

You are dragging this out too long. Cut your losses - move on, don't look back, cut off all contact with her, and find someone else. Count yourself lucky you found out where you stand.

Man up and move on and NEVER contact her again....Who cares about her reasons she did not care about you. Be glad you found out before you were possibly married ot tied together in some way...

GhostShip
04-12-2008, 11:02 AM
bquick - 4/11/2008 2:25 PM Now she's telling me that she was supposed to go to the HS prom with him and he went with someone else, then they broke up. She has bought it all hook line and sinker. Acts like she doesn't even know me.

Sounds like someone hasn't "pulled-the-plug" yet. ../images/emoticons/nono.gif ../images/emoticons/rolleyes.gif ../images/emoticons/bash.gif

You'll never know for certain what happened(she probablydoesn't have a clue either).......So just move on! :thumbsup:

KJS
04-12-2008, 11:11 AM
Cracker - 4/12/2008 1:00 PM

Man up and move on ...

:thumbsup: I couldn't have said it better.

PeggyLee
04-12-2008, 08:38 PM
Something better is on its way.Stay Strong!

bquick
04-14-2008, 07:23 AM
I'm trying but not doing the best job of it.

Don't some women want you to fight for them???? I feel if I don't try I will regret it.

Picked my stuff up Friday, hadn't seen her since this whole thing started and she gives me a nice kiss on the lips. Damn didn't need that! Just makes the pain worse. And she looked great.......

I'm a freaking mess....... :grin:

liwreckfisherman
04-14-2008, 08:28 AM
Dude, have you ever had this happen to you before ? Get over it, obviously your heart broken and the best medicine for that is to get your mind off this crap by getting yourself deeply involved in anything but this. If you work, temporarily work longer hours, start a big project around the house or the boat.....the key is to keep your self intensely busy so as to not even think about her. She is evil and backstabbed you. Yes some chicks dig guys who fight for them, but 99% are WAAAY more attracted to a guy who acts indeifferently. You have made it known you care for her, now its your turn to ignore her. If she calls, don't pick up her calls, fish more, work more, do stuff around the house, take up a new sport, hang out with friends, etc, etc, etc.

As other have said, this is a blessing in surprise. You're lucky this didn't happen when you had a home, kids etc with her.

Frank007
04-14-2008, 08:49 PM
bquick - 4/14/2008 7:23 AMI'm trying but not doing the best job of it.Don't some women want you to fight for them???? I feel if I don't try I will regret it. .I'm a freaking mess....... :grin: In case you can't tell, about everyone else on this thread feels if you try and succeed you will regret it. Even if you go back and are happy for a while, it will end badly for you. Walking away can be a lousy thing to have to deal with, but you have plenty of good advice here (note how close to unanimous the opinions are). There is something worse than the way you feel now and it is being cheated on, not being able to trust someone, always wondering what is going on behind your back, being dumped again, etc. Cut your losses and follow the advice you have been given. ;?

bquick
04-18-2008, 06:40 AM
Starting to sink in but my mind is still spinning it all up. Even called the dude out in Utah to give him a piece of my mind.
And only a few hrs sleep a night doesn't help. I wish I could get my brain zapped and forget about it.

Thanks for all the good advise.

SeaJay
04-18-2008, 10:21 AM
I only had one GF that lasted 4 years, by that time she got p/o'd that I didn't marry her (good reasons for that) and she moved on. I think it is par for the course with a long term GF. Wives can run off also, but much less chance of that happenning.

Cracker
04-18-2008, 10:36 AM
You are doing the absolute worst / wrong thing. Still talking to her, calling the other guy (what!). Go get laid and forget about this one. Trust me, she would be the same kind that will put you through HE!! if you you ever got serious with her. Count yourself lucky and quit whining and quit writing about it, go out have some fun and find another one, thats the fun part anyways... MAN UP! you think your the only guy that been cr@pped on by a female...Sheez..

2005 SeaCraft
04-18-2008, 10:50 AM
WTF!

THIS is still going?

Dude... grow a set and move on! or... go here with your problems: http://www.relationshipforums.com/forum/

If you're wondering, no offense, but you sound like a friggin puss! Spend 200 and get laid, then come back here and ask where to mount your steering knob or something useful.

GhostShip
04-18-2008, 02:47 PM
2005 SeaCraft - .......... go here with your problems: http://www.relationshipforums.com/forum/

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baitkiller
04-19-2008, 07:46 AM
Son, you gotta cowboy up. Last time that happened I went out bought road racing bicycle and a heavy bag. After work ride a hard 10-20 miles then come back a beat the shiat out of the bag. Eat better and drink less. Believe me when I say that exercise works a lot better than booze for getting over unfaithful bitches. Plus you'll get in shape and land a better bitch next time.

It aint easy and we have all been through it. Your getting the straight scoop here. Don't fark it up and do something stupid.

rayteagarden1
04-19-2008, 11:28 AM
Hey! After awhile they just become a number.

I'm on number four (38 years this time).

Sure it hurts, just makes you appreciate the next one even more. Hang in there pal.

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Ray, Tennessee 2180DLX Carolina Skiff 90HP Honda

wickeditch
04-19-2008, 06:54 PM
suck it up man, grow some cahunas, be glad that ones gone and replace with 2 that simple life to short :thumbsup:

liwreckfisherman
04-19-2008, 07:45 PM
Dude, big mistake calling the other guy ! Now you look like your a #####, don't do it again. I know some of our advice may sound cruel, but we're just giving you some tough love.

Since I know its hard to forget about it, do what I told you, get yourself CONSUMED in things other then dweling on this. Baitkiller had a good suggestion, take it out physically.

Why aren't you out looking for a new piece of ass.....or fishing ?

Stay strong.

bquick
04-21-2008, 07:48 AM
Good advise about the excercise and not drinking. Drinking is fine when things are good but a big downer when things are not.
I went to the dragstrip and kicked some butt and won some $$$ actually got my mind off the BIT$H....for a while.
Still can't understand how the female mind can distort reality to the extent that she said that she NEVER gave me a Valentine's card when I've got them all?????

Firstmate2
04-21-2008, 08:31 AM
I'm glad you came here instead of going to a "relationship" forum. Poster's there would probably be telling you to examine your feelings and commiserate with you - which would only serve to drag this out even longer.

But you came here, where your fellow posters will give you good advice, whether you want to hear it and take heed or not.

She's doing her own thing for now. I just hope you get over your funk before she realizes she made a mistake. I'd hate to see you take her back, only to have to go through this again - and we all know that will happen if you do. Heartbreak sucks.

bquick
05-01-2008, 07:40 AM
Yup, you all called it.

Now she says she wants to only be "friends" with him (says he came on too strong) as with me.

I'll be dead before I figure women out......



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